I feel stupidly gutted about losing my cat

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Got a call from vets on Thursday. Someone had brought my Dcat in after having been run over. I was in the middle of the office and was a right mess. Went home early.
Next day I was off luckily. I took Dd to see Dcat at vets. He was all cold. It was awful.
Today I randomly cried at yoga. Wtf is wrong with me? It’s knocked me sideways. I’ve never been affected like this before. I’m wondering if it’s other things in my life. I feel a bit daft.
I’ve got the mobile of the lady who took him to the vets. I don’t feel brave enough yet.

Totally normal!!! How horrible - but please do call the woman who took dcat to vet.

Years ago I had my cat put down - had a meltdown at work the next day and the ceo gave me two days compassionate leave.

So sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry OP.

Losing a loved pet is extremely traumatic. Your response is normal - look after yourself.

Your dcat was a family member just like any other imo. Of course you are upset!
Sorry about poor dcat.

My sympathies, OP. When I lost mine I did a proper kneeling down to her body wail- the family who saw me must have thought I was being rather ridiculous, but you can't help how you feel. I then cried at the vets when they confirmed her identity (they took me to a special bereavement room - so embarrassing!), then I had a proper sobbing/screaming session in the shower that day, got a bit watery-eyed the day after when someone asked how I was, but was fine after that.

Bottling it up helps no one. I think I got over it faster because I let myself feel it. Be kind to yourself, feel how you feel.

Thank you all. He was poorly and due to have blood tests. I think it may have been kidney problems. I’d only just got him back from my exh.

I don’t think he was so light on his paws as he once was but he was only about 8!

Reagan - I think you’re very right, we shouldn’t bottle it up. I’ve gone through a really shitty divorce and was just getting back on track. It feels like my grief is all mixed up.

I didn’t even feel like I liked my cat much- he was mainly my children’s cat and I had so much on my plate that he always seemed like a chore. He was hit by a car and killed and my neighbour had found him and picked up the body etc. The neighbours wife came to the door to tell me, and when she left I sobbed and sobbed. I was a mess, and I even tear up now 14 years on. That cat was part of our family and I actually did love him.
You are not weird at all and I do think your grief will also be tied up to all the other crap on your plate. Take care.

I was on a 12 hour shift they Day I had my car put to sleep. I knew I was going to have to go it that day. I cried twice before 7.30 am at work, they were great and let me go early. It really does knock you got six. Be kind to yourself.

I'mso sorry. It's not stupid to feel gutted. Cats give us a lot of affection. My cat is always so pleased to see me and cheers me up if I've had a shitty day.

Please don't feel bad for being upset. It's horrible losing any pet wether you are expecting it or not. My cat went missing a year and a half ago and never turned up. I was devasted and found myself really upset for a month or so. I couldn't understand it. She was part of our family. Let yourself feel how you need to feel. Sending good wishes

I was the same but I had to get my cat off the road I was a mess for a week just crying at random moments or when I saw another cat.
I'm so sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry.

I lost my beautiful girl Poppy when she was just 15 months old. She didn't come home for her breakfast one morning and I knew something was wrong. I posted a pic on my fb and asked my fb friends to keep an eye out for her. Then someone sent me a pic of her collar and asked if it was hers, if it was, it was posted on a local cat page the night before that she's been hit by a car and passed away instantly. The last who found her took her in and wrapped her in a blanket to take her to the vets the following morning.

My husband rang the lady and went to get her but I told him not to bring her home. I was absolutely distraught and didn't want to see her like that. He took her straight to the vets and arranged for her to be cremated.

I couldn't walk down the cat food aisle in the supermarket without crying for weeks. And we had her brother at home who had never been away from her and went into a kind of depression.

I still find myself crying occasionally because I miss her so much. She was the most lovely natures, beautiful cat ever. We didn't have her long but it broke my heart. They are apart of your family. I still have her collar and bowl. I'm getting teary writing this..

I was a mess when my very old boy had to be PTS but oddly even more of a mess when a much younger cat, who was always really DC4's cat rather than mine, got hit by a car and died - it was the shock and the awful suddenness of it. Pets are such a huge part of one's life - when they go it hits you like a train.

You poor thing! Of course this is a normal reaction. I'd be heart broken! So sorry for your loss xx

My first cat was hit by a car- 20 years ago this year. I still feel upset when I think of him. We didn't even have his body back- the chap who ran our town's Animal Welfare group picked him up and buried him in his back garden with all of his own deceased pets.
I recently said goodbye to my old boy, very unexpectedly at the vets. Took him in as he was a bit under the weather, turned out he was in end stage renal failure and hours to live. So I chose to say goodbye then and there.
Him I'm still sobbing about from time to time.

Losing a much loved pet suddenly is traumatic and it's fine to feel like you do. Grief is raw. There's no right or wrong.

Sorry for your loss

When my cat was PTS last year I didn't think I would ever get over it. I felt intense pain and grief that I have never felt before - not even for relatives that have died.

It's a massive loss of a family member, allow yourself to grieve and reach out to friends.

Now I know I’m not weird. Thank you. I’ve been a bit better today. I had a much loved dcat pts years ago but it didn’t upset me half as much. I think it’s because the dcs were very small and dcat was mine iyswim. This time around both dcs are Teenagers and it was like he was part of the family so I think you’re all right. Also other shite going on.
I texted the lady yesterday to thank her. She was lovely. I couldn’t face calling her. I would have just sobbed! What an absolute angel.
I also think that such a small ball of fluff bringing such joy and heartache is a Godsend. We used to sing to him. I’ll have to stop now as I’m getting all choked up.

You’ve had a tough time, sorry for your loss 💐

My cat went out and never came back about four months ago, I still cry now and don’t think I’ll ever get over not knowing what happened to her.

Not weird at all. My precious boy Tomas had FELV, and in the week leading up to PTS I was a mess. Afterwards I cried every day for weeks. I had to work from home in the days that followed. I still miss him terribly, 18 months later.

They are a part of the family and their love is without question. Anyone that tells you you're weird has never had pets, and doesn't understand.

I'm so sorry for your loss. xx