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Taking in a neglected cat - advice please!

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MummytoCSJH · 27/11/2018 21:26

This may end up long, but I really need some advice from fellow cat lovers.

I already have 2 kittens, brother and sister, approaching 8 months old now, both neutered, very happy, no problems. Over the past few weeks there has been increasing concern for a kitten walking around our community, near miss hits by cars, very slim and always begging for food and never being let into its home. There have been posts on our community page about this cat for weeks and although some people have said who owns the cat, until now unfortunately the owners have never answered the door. Today the kitten was found outside the local school, crying, and one of the ladies I know who takes her children there took the cat to the vets - to see if it was chipped and if we have all been assuming the wrong owner. The cat was not chipped, is a she, is less than a year old and is pregnant. The vet advised that if she has the babies in this weather outside they will not survive, especially if mother isn't getting enough food to sustain herself and therefore them. The vet advised the lady to find a home for the kitten if possible, or take her to a rescue - she asked me, if she can't contact the owners, could I take it in tonight and post my details through their door. She knocked and low and behold, they answered! However - they stated this is not the first time she has been pregnant, they dont want her inside ever, they don't want her kittens and they don't care about chipping or neutering her. We found the cat this evening, walking home, it had been raining and very windy, sheltered under a bush, absolutely soaking and crying. I got my cat carrier and I have brought the cat home where it gobbled lots of food and got warm next to the radiator. Yes, I've kind of 'stolen' a cat, but I couldn't bear to leave her out in the freezing cold.
My dilemma is introducing this kitten to my others. I brought her in today, took them upstairs first and just let her have a sniff around and she was quite happy. I let them in and she wasn't fussed by my male cat but was hissing at my female. Does anyone have any tips on introducing them? I'm not trying again until the morning as she is fast asleep now and settled, but I'm wondering if her being pregnant and protective of her babies (and having to be as she has essentially lived outside all her life!) will make it trickier. I can't bear to leave her outside all alone again.

Thank you if you have gotten this far!!

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Hassled · 27/11/2018 21:32

I have no useful advice but I'm really glad you've brought her in.

When I got a new kitten and was researching how to introduce it to Old Cat, I read about letting them smell each other from either side of a closed door for a while, just so they could get used to each other without actual close or visual contact. Might be worth a shot.

Iwouldratherbemuckingout · 27/11/2018 21:33

I'd have taken her in too! It sounds like the poor thing was very neglected. Glad she's warm and safe.

When I've introduced new cats before, I've always started with new cat in a separate room so existing cats can get used to sound / smell then do brief introductions, then slowly lengthen time together. Always worked for me but others may have better tips!

shouldwestayorshouldwego · 27/11/2018 21:34

I think until she has her babies and they are a bit older it would be better to just keep them apart. From when I looked into fostering that was the advice. Putting food bowls either side of the door means that they get to associate each other's smell with positive rewards too.

Did the vet consider neutering her anyway? Is she in a fit state to have kittens? Can the woman get the family to agree to relinquish her. We acquired cats in similar circumstances and the original owners when asked were ok with us taking them on. Especially if it is framed as a 'relinquish or contact RSPCA' type choice.

Piccolino2 · 27/11/2018 21:34

I have no advice on introducing her to your other cats but find this so so sad. Poor little girl. How can people be so heartless, basically her 'owners' didn't treat her as a member of their family but prevented anyone from helping her by claiming her themselves. Horrible people. Just wanted to say thank you so much for taking her in, I hope she settles into your family and if you can't get it to work I hope a rescue can find her a lovely forever home. Makes me feel warm and fuzzy thinking of her in your house all warm and cozy!

Singlenotsingle · 27/11/2018 21:40

The family don't want her or her kittens. They said so. I think that means they've "relinquished" her already. I'm glad she's warm and safe. Just take it slowly introducing them. It can take months to get used to each other so be patient.

DiaryofWimpyMum · 27/11/2018 21:40

I would keep her separate her from your 2 and put her somewhere quiet in the house. Such as your bedroom, in s crate if possible. Put her on kitten food as it has more nutrients which she will need.

I used to breed cats so if I can be of any help I will try my best.

So pleased you've taken her in

MummytoCSJH · 27/11/2018 21:46

Thank you everyone for reassuring me I've done the right thing. For some reason this thread posted twice! We are going back to the vets first thing in the morning so hopefully I can the the info I need regarding her pregnancy, I'm going to get her chipped and vaccinations and flea and wormed. Mine have monthly treatments and I've only recently done the house so hopefully that will be okay :)

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Fluffycloudland77 · 27/11/2018 21:52

Is it too late to abort? God knows what happened to the kittens before.

I’d have taken her in as well, there’s loads of introduction videos on YouTube but it will take a while.

Keep her. They aren’t providing for her.

thecatneuterer · 27/11/2018 22:52

Of course you did the right thing.

I think a spay/abort would probably be the best course of action, both for you and for her. Having kittens takes a toll on a cat's body and it sounds as though she isn't really up to it. Plus do you really want a load of kittens to look after as well?

I wouldn't contact the RSPCA. They won't do anything to the owners and then the cat herself would end up in a sort of limbo care pending very lengthy investigations/court cases - you wouldn't be just able to keep her. The owners obviously aren't interested in her - so just leave it at that.

Toddlerteaplease · 28/11/2018 00:13

So glad you've taken her. I didn't follow any rules when introducing my new cat and just plonked her in the carrier in the lounge and let her out. Fortunately it's worked out fine! I used feliway way friends and pet remedy diffusers.

CatAndMice · 28/11/2018 00:17

Thank you for taking her in.

MummytoCSJH · 28/11/2018 09:04

The RSPCA were contacted several times when people were finding her and they said they couldnt do anything :( I think it depends how far along she is, but our appointment is today so I'll have to ask about it, if they can't she'll definitely be getting done as soon as possible. I have been thinking about the feliway Toddler (Sorry cant tag!) As I've seen it really well recommended for stress.

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DiaryofWimpyMum · 28/11/2018 17:08

I hope your appointment went okay today and she's settling in a bit better.

Ferretyface · 28/11/2018 17:13

No helpful advice at all (apart from Feliway has worked for us in homing a stray cat from the neighbourhood) but just wanted to say you definitely did the right thing taking her in. It sounds heartbreaking, the poor little thing!

MummytoCSJH · 28/11/2018 17:51

So our vets appointment today didn't go very well - she was very stressed. She was so calm at home and I think she thought I was taking her away again :/ so she hasnt had her vaccinations or chip in today but she is having them on Saturday after a diazepam. I've also been put and bought 2 more litter trays and some extra bowls (even though we already have lots of everything) along with a feliway friends diffuser and a pet remedy calming spray - my 2 have been in the room with her since I've sprayed and it's already helping. They're all still wary of each other but a lot less hissing and staring.

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MummytoCSJH · 28/11/2018 17:56

As for the neuturing - this vet wasn't sure whether she is pregnant or not. He said when she is sedated a little on Saturday they will be able to have a better feel and then I can decide what to do on that front. She hardly weighs anything at all, less than half of my others and the vet estimates them to be around the same age.

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Harebellmeadow · 30/11/2018 08:45

So glad you havr taken her in - doesnt sound as if she would survive the winter alone. Please keep her warm and fed and safe in whichever way you can.

Ineedabiscuit · 30/11/2018 08:49

Hope she’s settling Op?

MummytoCSJH · 30/11/2018 09:15

Hi all - she's doing well thanks. She's gotten used to my cats surprisingly fast and they spent the night in the same room last night with no fighting, so I'm quite happy that shes settled and she can stay with us. She had a little bit of my duck for dinner last night to try and fatten her up :) bet she thinks she's living the life of Riley!

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Fluffycloudland77 · 30/11/2018 11:00

I would spay and chip and then deny all knowledge of the cat who was stray.

This is a new, totally different black cat you've always had.

DiaryofWimpyMum · 08/12/2018 15:08

How is she doing op?

Beaverhausen · 08/12/2018 15:14

Lovely reading this story. Thank you open for saving a life.

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