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Just had my girl Pts, I'm devestated

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Worriedwombat2015 · 25/10/2018 21:32

This evening I had our 15 year old girl euthanized. I'm in bits. My poor poor girl.

She had an ongoing thyroid is issue which was being treated, last week she stopped eating and drinking. Vet diagnosed kidney failure. She went on a drip and she rallied, started eating a little.

We saw the vet tonight and she confirmed what I knew was coming in reality. She'd put on some weight, but she had no reserves left, literal skin and bone.

I feel so bad, she sat on my lap last night and had a cuddle and was purring away.

The vet said at best we were buying her some time, she was so so thin, kidneys and thyroid failing, problems getting the medication into her because of her lack of appetite. The issues overall could not be fixed. I made the decision to let her go. I feel so guilty. My poor poor sweet girl. I'm devestated.

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catlovingdoctor · 25/10/2018 21:34

I’m so so so sorry. Bless her and you. You did the kindest and most noble thing though, to ease her suffering. She had so many wonderful years with you and she’ll have known how loved she was. You gave her a wonderful life and the kindest end too. Thinking of you. What was your lovely girl’s name? May we have a picture? xxx

Toddlerteaplease · 25/10/2018 21:35

So sorry. It sounds like it was the best decision for her. Hope it was peaceful.

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Worriedwombat2015 · 25/10/2018 21:50

In her younger days. When I was looking at her old pictures, of how young, and healthy she was, bright eyed and shiny coat.

The change and aging is so slow, you don't see it. But when you compare and see how she was, you can see it, really see it. She would no longer sharpen her claws (vet had to trim to stop ingrowing claws) or no longer groom herself properly, too stiff and achey to bend. I would brush her, but it's not the same is it?

The logical side of you knows it's the right thing, but the other side of you, that sees that little bit of happiness you think they have and question if you are doing the right thing. Urgh, this sucks.

Just had my girl Pts, I'm devestated
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Shinesweetfreedom · 25/10/2018 22:01

Why guilty,you did what you had to do for the love of her.

SingingSands · 25/10/2018 22:05

So sorry Wombat, it's the hardest thing to do.

Agree that you don't really notice old age creeping up on pets, till you look back.

What a lovely cat. She'll always have a special place in your heart Thanks

recklessruby · 25/10/2018 22:08

I m so very sorry for your loss. My old lady was 15 when she passed away in her sleep from renal failure too. She got skinny so quickly from being a little chub.
We were due to take her to the vet on Monday but she passed at home Saturday night.
You have done the right thing and given her a lovely long life.
What was her name? Mine was Greylight.
It hurts so much doesn't it?

Wolfiefan · 25/10/2018 22:13

I am so so sorry. My old girl was 18. She had thyroid issues and arthritis. She was ok. Then a couple of days later she wasn’t. There was no obvious cause and so nothing we could treat. We PTS.
I had forgotten how she used to try and catch moths and butterflies. I had forgotten how silky her fur was and how she was a bit chunky.
It is horrid. But I had many happy years with her and she had a peaceful and dignified end.
Still bloody cried buckets and missed her to bits though.
Be kind to yourself OP

SummersB · 25/10/2018 22:29

I know how you feel. We had our lovely lovely dog pts yesterday. It was absolutely awful. I know the guilt you are talking about. Even though in the rational part of your brain you know you are doing the right thing, there is part of you that is desparately clinging on to the good moments and you almost convince yourself that they are worth carrying on for, at least for another week, or maybe a few days... it’s just heartbreaking. When the vet gave the injection there was part of me that kept thinking no, no, no, this is wrong! Even though I absolutely knew it was the right thing to do.
We have spent a lot of the day today crying. I hope tomorrow will be a bit better.
My thoughts are with you Flowers

Shoegal0305 · 25/10/2018 22:34

I know how you feel I had my beautiful girl PTS a month ago she was 19 1/2. It hurt like hell. Time helps. Cliché I know but it's true. I felt proper physical pain. Thinking of you xx

flimsyforay · 25/10/2018 22:35

I'm so sorry, I really do feel your pain. We have just lost our cat suddenly. He went out on Sunday night and didn't come back. Yesterday we saw a post on a local fab page saying someone spotted a grey cat lying dead by the verge of the nearby main road. It was him. Not a mark on his body, I think maybe he ate poison? He was only 4. We adopted him from a shelter when he was just tiny. We are totally heartbroken.

Stilllivinginazoo · 25/10/2018 22:38

Sending hugs and prayers wombat
Such a beautiful picFlowers

tawnee · 25/10/2018 22:38

So sorry for your loss wombat. I was in your position a few days ago and it is heartbreaking. My cat was still purring on the day she was put to sleep, the sun was shining - it felt so wrong. The consolation I took was I would rather she leave us on a day when she did still have a tiny bit of happiness. If the decision to have her put to sleep carried no doubts at all, I think that would show we had waited too long. Your lovely girl sat on your lap and had a cuddle, and you spared her a lot of pain. Flowers

caringcarer · 25/10/2018 22:50

I know exactly how you feel. we had to have our lovely cat euthanized at the end of March when he was 16 1/2. He was very ill and got thinner and thinner. But like your cat he purred the day before we had to have him pts and we carried him out into garden to lie in the spring sunshine one last time as he could no longer walk and he loved to sunbath. You have been kind and done the right thing for your dear cat but you are left in bits. You won't feel like it yet but we did a picture collage of Mr Stripey and hung in the hall and buried him in the garden in his favourite shady spot in border. I hated coming down in the morning and no cat to go between my ankles looking for food. At the end of June we could bear it no longer and my grown up son who's cat it had been said he was going to get a kitten. I thought it would be too soon but she has wormed her way into our hearts.

FantasticBadger · 25/10/2018 22:53

So sorry for your loss OP Flowers and for you Flimsy Flowers very hard to lose a pet

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Worriedwombat2015 · 26/10/2018 05:35

Thank you everyone, what you've said really has made me feel better about the decision.
I'm sorry to everyone who has also lost their much loved pets recently.

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Toddlerteaplease · 26/10/2018 08:52

It wasn't until I looked back of old photos of Fatty that I realised how awful she looked in the last few weeks. And not until I picked her up from the cattery that I saw how much weight she'd lost in the space of ten days.

Hamsterian · 26/10/2018 09:10

The guilt is awful and very difficult to shake off. Such a brave and difficult decision to make. However it was 100% the right thing to do. Your girl is now in peace
My old girl was 20 and she also was put to sleep because of arthritis, kidney failure and thyroid. She was a shadow of her former self but still such a great kitty - very clever and brilliant personality. She was also a little black lady, like your Flimsy.
I like to think she is in a better place now and we will see her again when the time is right.

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