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Missing our lovely cat

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tawnee · 23/10/2018 08:48

Just wanted to post about our lovely cat Bramble who was put to sleep yesterday. I read through a lot of threads on this board during the past days and got a lot of comfort from reading about cat owners in similar situations.

Bramble was my 13th birthday present back in 2001 - I asked for a dog but my Mum saw Bramble when she was looking around rescue centres and fell in love with her - best decision we ever made. They guessed she was 3 or 4 when we adopted her.

She was nervous at the start and took a long time to come out from her cat box and gradually explore our house. The rescue centre suggested she should be an indoor cat and she lived very happily in our house and in the back garden. She loved our little family (any stranger coming in the house would have her down on her belly and scooting to the nearest hiding place). As soon as you sat next to her or started to stroke her she would purr immediately, and would "chat" back if we spoke to her in the right way. Before she became unwell she loved her food and would hang off the fridge door with her front paws while it was being prepared - also would happily attempt to swipe any food off our plates and loved a morsel of hot buttered toast, homemade sponge or cheese!

She loved sitting in any sunny spot and would roll onto her back when she was sunning herself. She patrolled our garden and when it was windy would gallop like a horse from one end to the other. For most of her life she enjoyed playing with toys, particularly sitting up on her scratching post and batting away anything we threw towards her - perfect coordination almost every time.

Her role in our family became even more important when my Dad passed away just over 2 years ago. Bramble and my Mum had such a special bond - she stayed with my parents when I moved out, and since my Dad died she has been such a comfort and companion to my Mum. I hope she knew how loved she was and how much she helped us in our suffering.

The decision to put her to sleep was heartbreaking. She had renal failure and we tried what we could - we tried taking her to the vet twice a week for fluids but it was clear that it was distressing her more and more and it wasn't giving her the quality of life that we wanted for such a special cat. Our vet loved her too and supported our decision. Bramble had been living in my Mum's bedroom for the last week or so of her life. She still purred when we stroked her or at the sight of her food dish (although often wasn't interested in its contents). The sun came in the window in the afternoon so she still got to enjoy a sunny spot. As she reached her final days she moved up to sleep on the pillow next to my Mum's side of the bed (she had never done that before) and on her last day as soon as my Mum got out of bed she moved to sit on her side. We sat with her and told her we loved her and our lovely vet came and put her to sleep yesterday afternoon at home.

Bramble really was the perfect cat for us and we loved her to pieces. The house is so empty today and it's breaking my heart - because I miss her, and because I have to go back to my own home and leave my Mum here alone, without our beloved cat. The pain is immense but it is the price we pay for so many wonderful years with our cat as part of our family, and we were lucky to have her in our lives.

Missing our lovely cat
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recklessruby · 23/10/2018 09:28

I m so sorry for your loss. Bramble was a beautiful cat and you describe her so well. She must have been a really good age but I know it doesn't make it easier.
We lost our 15 year old girl in July from the same thing. She just died in her sleep while sleeping with me. I still can't believe it either. Like yours she was much loved and a real character.
Remember you gave her a long and beautiful life filled with love. It's all we can do.
Take care and R.I.P Bramble xx

Porridgeprincess · 23/10/2018 09:51

I am so so sorry for your loss. You cat was adored and you did right by her.
My cat was sick also and we had her put to sleep on Friday at home. It was heartbreaking so I really really feel for you .

Your post was beautiful xx

Porridgeprincess · 23/10/2018 09:51

recklessruby, I am sorry for your loss too. Not too long ago either, hope you are coping

recklessruby · 23/10/2018 10:13

Porridgeprincess it helps that she passed away in the house she was born in with me next to her and is buried in our garden.
She was never the same after we lost her best friend age 8 to a road accident and she went downhill after that.
We were taking her to the vet Monday after many tears but she went in her sleep sometime between Saturday night and Sunday morning.

Toddlerteaplease · 23/10/2018 10:24

Sounds like she had a wonderful life with you. She was a beauty. My cat was PTS a couple of months ago, it was awful. But I take a lot of comfort from how peaceful and dignified her death was. Sounds like Bramble's was similar.
My new cat is trying to help me type this . She has been the thing that helped most. She'll never replace Maia. But she's helped fill the hole she left. And calmed Maia's sister down.

Toddlerteaplease · 23/10/2018 10:27

I took Maia's sister with her to the vet. When she'd finished mixing around the room Maia climbed into her sisters basket and sat on top of her. As she'd always done if scared. I just couldn't believe how 'perfect' it felt for her.

Toddlerteaplease · 23/10/2018 10:27

*nosing not mixing.

Vagndidit · 23/10/2018 10:52

She sounds like a lovely kitty, and a very special part of your family. ❤️❤️

Porridgeprincess · 23/10/2018 11:19

Oh gosh, this thread is making me weep with gratitude for the kind people who love their pets as much as I did.

Recklessruby, she just passed in her sleep, bless her, is there anything more peaceful?

Toddlerteaplease, I am shedding a tear for your beautiful Maia xx
Hope you are ok. And the new cat has definitely landed into a perfect new home !!

EyeRolls · 23/10/2018 11:23

RIP Bramble- what a very touching tribute post.
Sorry for your loss. How special our furry friends are x

tawnee · 23/10/2018 11:25

Thank you all for your replies. I didn't really expect anyone to read such a long post so it's lovely that you took the time to. I'm sorry to those that have been through the same, it's so very sad.

I do think a lot of comfort can be gained from giving our lovely cats as peaceful an end as we can, be that them passing away quietly next to us in bed (bet that was one of her most favourite places recklessruby) or being put to sleep with loved ones (be that human or furry like yours toddlerteaplease) by their side.

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Toddlerteaplease · 23/10/2018 12:00

I found that The Cats Protection league has a memory board that you can write on and post pictures of your cats. I thought that was a lovely idea.

Porridgeprincess · 23/10/2018 12:14

That sounds lovely, I will check that out

Tawnee of course we read it, cos you beautifully put so many things that we are feeling.

Hogtini · 23/10/2018 12:18

RIP beautiful Bramble Flowers

tawnee · 23/10/2018 12:30

The Blue Cross have a similar memorial page which I found this morning - we adopted Bramble from one of their centres all those years ago.

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DuchessAnnogovia · 23/10/2018 12:36

What a beautiful tribute to your cat, I'm so sorry for your loss. We have our furry friends for such a short time relatively, but they certainly leave their paw prints on our hearts. I had to have my boy Gizmo PTS a month ago. I'd had him from the moment he was born (I had to be cat midwife!) he was a terror, bringing me in large pieces of moss and streaming my washing up sponges. But a more lovable cat you couldn't find. He was 16, and had renal failure and cancer. It's broken my heart - I still cry xxx

RIP Bramble 

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tawnee · 23/10/2018 12:46

I can imagine Gizmo bringing you some moss or stealing your sponges just from the photo - he has a lovely mischevious little look about him, what a gorgeous boy. They are all such little characters.

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concretesieve · 23/10/2018 12:48

Lovely post - so sorry about Bramble Flowers

WhatsGoingOnEh · 23/10/2018 12:58

I'm so glad that Bramble had such a lovely life with you, your mum and your family. I'm sure she knew she was loved and safe, right to her last day.

Porridgeprincess · 23/10/2018 14:01

Aww Gizmo looks like a wonderful kitty, he has a mischief face !! I am so sorry for your loss, it is indeed a broken heart

This is my second day back in work, I had the luxury of a weekend to bawl my eyes out, bury my cat and take stock. We loved her so much, we have no babies and she was ours. I make no apologies for how upset I have been since Friday and am really getting some comfort to see how loved other cats were from these threads.

recklessruby · 23/10/2018 14:32

My little Greylight, the runt of the litter that my son delivered. Fell asleep forever age 15 x

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tawnee · 23/10/2018 15:39

She's a sweetheart and that's a beautiful photo, she looks very loving. I have found looking at photos of Bramble to be a comfort, although it's upsetting too - mostly I don't want to forget all of her little ways.

I'm glad you had a couple of days to yourself porridge. I was due to take my annual leave in a couple of weeks but asked if I could switch it to this week and they agreed. I really believe that the loss of a much loved pet can be as devastating as the loss of any other bereavement but it's not recognised as such by the world at large. They give us such unconditional love.

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Porridgeprincess · 23/10/2018 18:03

OMG, what a beauty!!! Love the name Greylight, what a majestic name !!

Tawnee, how kind of your employer to allow that. You need it. I am glad that I found this thread, not because of the pain anyone is going through of course but it is nice to share and be honest about our loss. The world gets it but expects that you get over it quickly also. I have already been asked if I would be getting another cat which I found quite insensitive as to me I only want MY cat not A cat. I know that will change though.
My cat was called Maeve (we are Irish). I can't post her pic here yet as I want to be able to look at the thread and not get a fright when I see her.... sorry that makes very little sense to even me :) x

recklessruby · 23/10/2018 18:40

Greylight was named by my then 15 year old son who delivered her. Grey because as a kitten she was more grey than brown and light due to the light she brought into his life when he was going through severe depression.
I wish all employers let you have time off
I had to go into work with puffy red eyes Sad

Ruby55n · 23/10/2018 18:45

My heart goes out to you. Having been through the loss of my 3 cats over the years in this situation, I understand how heartbreaking your loss is. Like Bramble, my eldest cat was 17 years old when I had to say goodbye to him. I agree with tawnee, in her message that the loss of a pet can be as devastating as losing a human being. Sending you a big hug. xx