Hand hold please...when is the time right?

[Unmumsyme]

I appreciate that nobody can really answer this, but I’m consumed by feelings of guilt which I need to share.

Dcat is coming up to 17...she was fairly recently diagnosed as with hyperthyroid & is on medication which has brought levels back to normal. I know this in itself can be managed, however she has started peeing EVERYWHERE and pretty regularly. She’s v recently been checked for kidney issues, UTIs etc which are all clear. Nothing else in the environment has changed.

We are absolutely at our wits end. We love her to bits, she’s been a wonderful cat, but we just can’t live like this for much longer. If she was very obviously in pain then the decision would be so much easier. We do want what’s best for her, but equally is this is a sign that she’s really not happy? I’m feeling so guilty that maybe the decision is coming from the inconvenience for us - every now & again we could understand and live with, but these accidents are now several times a day and will require carpets, flooring replacing eventually.

This is so, so hard

Do you know if she's had an encounter with another cat outside? Are there a couple of litter trays for her in the rooms she spends most of her time in, or even in the kitchen/utility? Have you tried a Feliway or similar plugin to help calm her down.sorry if I've asked the obvious. Hope she settles down soon. I can only imagine that she's been spooked by something or maybe has the start of dementia?

Honestly you will know. You just will.

My cat was hiding in corners and sitting very hunched up. She was still interested in life. But wasn't the fatty that I knew. The light had gone from her eyes.

Thank you. Yes, she has two litter trays - one upstairs, one downstairs. One covered, one open! She’s never been an outdoor cat...pottered in the garden but otherwise asleep on the spare bed. We have feliway plugged in & spray too. I literally don’t know what else to try. She doesn’t seem in discomfort.

I’m going to speak to the vet this week and see if they have any further suggestions. We’re having to keep most doors shut for damage limitation, but can’t help feeling that this isn’t a very enjoyable life for any of us.

Don't have any wisdom to offer, just sympathy for the difficult decision you've been facing. I am really sure you will do what's best.

That’s really kind and much appreciated MrsPawsitive x