I have two kittens, two sisters. They’re both 4.5 months old and we’ve had them for almost 3 weeks. Girl number one has settled in perfectly. She is very loving, adores strokes and belly rubs and will happily climb into your lap and go to sleep. Girl number two, not so much.
She’s better than when she first came home (only ventured from behind the couch for food) and she will now lie on the couch and play with us etc. But she is petrified of any sudden movements. She will happily climb all over me if there’s chicken involved. It’s the only way she will go near anyone. She will on a very rare occasion let you stroke her but she doesn’t tolerate it for long. A couple of times, she’s seemed to forget herself for a moment and appeared quite content (she has the loudest purr I’ve ever heard on a cat!) but other than that, she doesn’t like people being around her.
For example, she was sat next to me just now and I started stroking her and she was purring and rubbing her head on my hand and I moved my leg ever so slightly and she flew off the couch. If you try and stroke her when she’s not distracted by something else, she runs away and hides. She’s not necessarily timid, her and her sister run round play fighting like crazy.
Is she likely to just be an antisocial cat? I know not every cat likes being lavished with cuddles and attention and that’s okay. Is there something we can do to help her feel safer around us? I feel bad when her sister is sat curled on my knee getting stroked and she’s just sat at my feet watching. I suppose if she wanted attention, she’d come and get it but I wonder if something has happened to her when she was younger that’s made her afraid of people or whether it’s most likely just her personality