Should I take the plunge...?

[vinegarqueen]

I have wanted to get a cat for years, after cat sitting and having family cats etc. DH says he is happy for me to have one, happy for family money to go to vets bills and a cat sitter if needed. However, he likes cats but he says that it will be my cat and he will not be responsible for feeding or grooming the cat unless it is an emergency. When we have looked after cats for friends I have (successfully) done all the looking after so I am used to this, and we split chores fairly evenly so it will just be the cat that is solely my job.

Honestly, should I take the plunge and get one even though I am fully aware that I won't get a lot of input from DH? I reeeeally want one but I don't want to make a stupid decision.

Yes, but you should know that the more someone doesn't like cats, the more the cat will love them. So it will probably end up loving DH and ignoring you.

I second VimFeugo. Exactly what happened to me!

It will win him over. Cats have a funny way of making those who are ambivalent towards them their most devoted slave

You'll catch him talking to him when he thinks no one is looking. He'll be besotted!

I do everything for our cat, vet visits, cattery stays the lot. It's not a huge amount of effort really.

The cat loves me the most though and pretty much ignored dh for the first few years. He is very much my cat.

Our cat is definitely my cat and I sort his vaccination boosters, flea and worming etc but dh does manage to feed him when I'm not there or if he is up before me.

Sounds good, go for it (definitely envy!)

I think it was @MrsCatE on here who said their cat gravitated towards her husband, they're contrary like that.

It took mine a few years of rejecting me before she decided that we were each others and rejected ex, he was quite pissed off about her sudden transfer of affections

I've been in that situation where I've done most of the caring. If you want a cat, go for it. Your DH will help out when necessary.

Woooo. I shall run the risk of the cat loving DH more and GET ONE.

Yes get one then come back and post a picture!! Cats are very independent, there’s not loads of work that goes into looking after them apart from the obvious litter tray, grooming, vets checks etc. Enjoy!! And pp are right, most likely your DH won’t even realise he’s been bewitched until it’s too late

Yes. Do it. You won't regret it and you'll wonder how you ever managed without one!

Even better get Two!

My DH agreed to get cats because I wanted to. He really didn't think cats were worth bothering with as pets. Within a week, he was utterly smitten and now, 14 years later, he absolutely adores them and would do anything for them.

Woooo. I shall run the risk of the cat loving DH more and GET ONE

If puss loves him most then simply get another as well.

No no no op.
You can't possibly get ONE cat.
They come in pairs.
Thems the rules.

And we need pics when you do or we won't believe you have any cats.

Seriously, one week we didn't even put our TV on, just sat watching our kitten brothers playing!! Talk about in - house entertainment!!

I will update with a picture when cat arrives (:

Try to get an adult rescue cat. Apart from them needing good homes, the rescue centre will have a good idea of personality and they will be spayed/neutered & vaccinated etc. Plus hopefully they will be past the stage of ripping the house to shreds like kittens tend to do

As long as your husband is happy to have one in the house and the cost, then yes. My husband is pretty much the same and I'm happily the primary carer, but as you know there are times when you need support. Over the years he's often had a call asking for the car for the vets visit and keeps quiet when I've been out spending money on them again, and at the same time he knows they're part of the family and accepts them. He always said no more after we lost our last two, within a week he was saying I know how much you love cats, so when the holidays are over you can maybe have one or two, we got two 1st this month.

One thing that might help is to involve him in the choosing aspect in some way, either let him choose or if you've set your mind on one in particular ask him to come up with a couple of name options for your to chose.

Kittens will be more hard work initially, but either way, you'll find the time.

We have an older cat in mind - DH and I both agree that we'd prefer to rehome an older cat, as kittens are snapped up anyway! Have my eye on a super fluffy one, so watch this space...

Oh, thats exciting.

My dog-lover DH and 'my' cat are thick as theives... I barely get a look in

I'd get a pair. Your bound to want another one and it's easier to just get two who like each other now than introduce one later.

If you can afford two.

The cat will cast a feline love spell on your DH and all will be well.