Would you let her go?

[StillMedusa]

I have three cats ..allegedly!
Portia, who is 18 and a half
Obie, 4 unfaithful and mostly lives at Thelma-down the -roads
Ophie (Obies sister)

Ophie hates Obie, and is the main reason he has shipped out. Ever since he got trapped in a neighbour's house for 5 days , she has hissed at him when he comes in and he is scared of her.

She is adorable.. a VERY gobby Maine Coon who talks constantly. Very timid and hates change but a diva in the house. She used to be my girl, but the DD2 came home and it all changed.

Since my DD2 came home to live last year (she's 24 and had been nursing away from here) Ophie has dumped me and chosen her. Sleeps with her, shouts at me if DD2 is at work! Loves DD2s boyfriend and sleeps on him!

They are hoping to find a place of their own after Xmas, and DD2 had suggested Ophie went too. We know she hates change but she LOVES them both and is definitely 'their' cat now. Obie might come home more if she were gone.

Do I let her go? Half of me says NOOOO she's my (expensive Maine Coon) girl, who used to love me!!! But I know Portia would be happier, Obie definitely would. And once the trauma of moving was over, she would be worshipped and adored .

I have never given up a cat before!!

Or do I say no, hope that she is OK when DD2 leaves (Im not happy about that either as I love her being home!) and continue with Obie being scared to come home?

I would be more than happy to let her go. I don't like shouty people cats. Be prepared to do kennelling though. Well you will probably have to go there. Cats are just weirdos

I think it sounds like a good solution. Although it would be really hard for you. But she's with your daughter so presumably you could see her whenever you liked.

During the first couple of days your daughter has her new home, it might be wise to let Ophie stay with you as they'll be lots of disruption. Also, gives you a chance to see what she's like for a couple of days without them.

After that, would they be willing to have her on a weeks trial based purely on the fact of what's best for her. If she settles immediately and seems happy with them, then perhaps that would be the best place for her.

Obie has probably got used to his life coming and going as he pleases between two houses, so to be honest you probably won't get him back 100% if Ophie goes.

We used to think our two hated eachother, but you could tell my girl was looking for her brother for about three months after we had him pts, so there was part of her that missed him or at least wondered why he wasn't around.

Yes I would let Ophie go.

Yes, let her go.
I had a new kitten, third cat, that one of ours hated. We tried everything, feliway, 2 separate cat flaps, lots of love, nothing worned, they never got on. She kept running away to next door neighbour and we spent 6 months bringing her back home for her to run away back to neighbours. In the end I asked them that either I rehome her or they have her but totally only if they wanted her. They took her. I see her still, she never comes near our garden though! She’s much happier, that’s what it boils down to I guess?
And you will still see her at daughters and be pet sitter if she goes on holiday etc? She and boyfriend loves her, let her go.

I wouldn't let her go, but if you do, I think Lottie4's suggestion is good. I live in a household of disharomny, (2 cats who hate each other) so they have to be kept separate, which luckily I can manage to do. It's not an easy decision for you