Mourning cat.

[RubaDubMum89]

Hi all, I'm hoping someone can give me some advice...

Last Thursday one of our cats was hit and killed by a car (she was only 2, some horrible git ran her down and left her in the road, the vet rang me to tell me her body had been brought in, I'm devastated to say the least).

This whole situations been made worse though by one of the two remaining cats.

These two were best friends, they had a relationship I've never seen between any of my cats before, they did everything together and were never apart. Even to the point of, if one of them went out and the other didn't want to, the remaining one would sit by the door and wait for the other to return.

Our third cat is rather old and senile and I don't actually think he's realised one of them has gone.

Other cat is a different matter. She's stopped eating, she won't come for a cuddle anymore and is still wandering round the house looking for her friend. When she finally gets too tired to search she either sits on the others grave (we buried her in the garden) or sits in one of her 'spots'.

I'm totally at a loss as to what to do, it's breaking my heart watching her. I showed her the body and after some time she nuzzled her friend and gave her a lick, then just sat next to her. I dint know if she realised she was dead or not.

Has anyone been through anything like this with their animals? What can I do to make it better for her? Or is it just a matter of waiting for it to pass?

Thanks for reading and any advice is very much appreciated.

I’m so sorry for your loss x

Ah that's sad for you all. Our cat appeared down when our dog died. I'd suggest feliway and favourite treats like ham or cheese and time.

Do you have anything which smells of the cat, like a blanket, which you can give her?

That's an unbelievable relationship between them. Sorry kitty cat went :(

I don’t even like cats, but I got a lump in my throat.

Condolences to you and your kitty cats.

So sad

Sorry you lost your cat

I'm so sorry for your loss xx

I don't have experience of it but I found this it might be helpful

www.catster.com/lifestyle/five-ways-support-grieving-cat-behavior

Thanks for your replies folks, I didn't even think of Feliway... I'll get some this afternoon.

I'll have a read of that link now too, thank you.

It is incredibly sad, I actually feel worse for my remaining cat then I do for myself! Poor little thing. I'd love to be able to give her one of the other cats blankets, but she was never keen on them so didn't have one.

Thanks again folks.

I’m really sorry to hear of your loss, it’s heartbreaking.

I lost my 4 year old boy to what we think was heart disease last October, I just found him dead the next morning

He was close with his sister, they used to snuggle and groom each other. All I can suggest is that you just give her extra love and attention, which I’m sure you are and she will eventually come round.

She is grieving but I’m sure with your love and attention she will start to heal, just like humans! Feliway was a great suggestion too.

I hope your cat has adjusted a bit more to the loss. We adopted two beautiful littermates, one of them was killed by a car at the end of June. Luckily his brother is still eating and seems happy but he does sit on the grave a bit. He did look for him in the first couple of days.
We have been advised to get a kitten for him as he had such a special bond with his brother. It's feels too soon for all of us as we are all heartbroken xx

Would you consider another one? Same thing happened to my friend last week and she’s already looking for a youngster as the sister is just going round the garden looking for her brother