To think kitten was a mistake

[Rhiannonandthepussy]

After my 9 year old dd constantly begging for a kitten and us moving to a bigger house I considered getting a kitten. My eldest dd had a kitten when she was 8 and stupidly enough we didn’t get her neutered so she continued to have 2 litters (1 surprise litter was while she was injured) and we had only had her 2 years when the stupid thing got run over for the second time and this time sadly past away so fast forward to now and I’m typing this with a little devil biting my leg, my eldest dd is homeschooled so does all of his feeding and litter tray cleaning (she is suprisingly more responsible than I thought) but the issue is I didn’t consider how jealous our beloved 5 year old staffie is and she’s fine until the kitten hisses at her then she’ll go for him and I just don’t know what to do I love my dog to bits but I’m also insanely attached to this kitten,advice would be appreciated 💚

I'm not utterly sure that you're being serious.
Are you?

WTF. So you had a cat before, couldn't be arsed to neuter her so ended up with two unwanted litters of kittens. Then she got run over twice and died. And now you've brought another poor little bugger who has to put up with being pestered by a big dog and who you don't really want.

Stop getting fucking pets !!!!!!!

Not entirely sure why you would have thought a 5 year old staffie and a kitten would ever get on. Cats and dogs usually only like each other if they are been brought up together, or both have incredibly placid natures.

I think you shouldn’t get any more pets until you know how to look after them, for a start. You sound like an idiot.

Getting a kitten with a jealous staffie was just pure stupidity. The kitten is probably terrified. You need to separate them into different rooms and give them both space for a while. Get Feliway to help the poor kitten feel more relaxed. I’d ask your vet for any advice they might have as well, maybe something to help calm the dog.

The kitten will be attacked and killed if you don't separate them or rehome one of them
It can't be a surprise litter if you let an unswayed female out of the house. Why a second litter?
Face
Palm.

For god's sake take the poor kitten to a shelter to be rehomed and don't get any more cats. People like you enrage me.

I’m sorry I didn’t word it correctly, at the time of our previous cat my dd1 was living with her grandparents (out of choice because our house made her anxiety worse) and they adopted the cat for her which they assured me would be neutered but then let the poor thing out before it was knowing how many toms were in the area. I’ve paid for all the kittens vaccinations and booked in neutering and microchipping for when he turns 4 months old ( my vet won’t do it before then otherwise I’d get him when he’s big enough). It broke my heart when I found out that they had let her have two litters of kittens and after the vet had told them she’s too relaxed to be living near main roads they let her out again, the whole family was heartbroken that we’d lost her so it’s not that. Our dog has lived with tons of foster cats and kittens before and was completely fine she just doesn’t seem to get along with this particular kitten but he is probably the most bouncy and wild kitten we’ve ever had in the house. I’m sorry if it came across as me being irresponsible for the previous cat when the cat was actually living with my parents and dd1 although I tried to get her neutered but they refused and as it wasn’t “my cat” I couldn’t xx

Cats and dogs usually only like each other if they are been brought up together, or both have incredibly placid natures.

Not true ime.

Careful introductions and my cats and dogs have always got on incredibly well. Sleeping together, playing together etc. This would be 3 dogs and 5 cats over 30 odd years.

Last cat we got a puppy. Puppy got loose and ran at the cat, cat just rolled over and that was it, best friends. Cat had never met a dog before.

Caveat of course would be any dog with a strong prey drive. I’ve always had terriers so they tend to play like cats- hunting rather than chasing.

O/p like others have said time and patience. Keep them separate. Let your dd look after the cat and you give the dog your full attention.

The dog has grown up around cats and kittens we fostered, it’s just this particular kitten xx

The dog sleeps downstairs with me at night while the kitten sleeps upstairs with the dcs and I insist the dcs still treat the dog the same as not to provoke any jealousy

Did you not think injured female cats could get pregnant, then? And you home-school your daughter?

Your poor other cat, I don't buy it about the grandparents being suddenly to blame, andsounds like this kitten is going to have a short life also.

Is there any chance that instead of criticising me for my parents past actions and my supposed stupidity for getting a kitten when we have a dog who’s always been okay living with them I could get advice on how to positively introduce them or what to do?

I'd rehome the kitten
Also kittens can be neutered from 3 months ....

Yes, the advice would be to revoke the kitten, as it sounds like it's behaving entirely like an energetic kitten would be expected to, but neither you or the dog are on board with that, so let it go to a safer home.

Rehome the kitten, not revoke obviously

My daughters homeschooled by a tutor until she’s accepted into the school she wishes to get into (past schools were small village schools where she found it hard to make friends and ended in her depression and anxiety worsening thank you). The other cat was pregnant before she was injured and not even the vet could tell until she began giving birth while in the vets for a check on her splint, this kitten is going to be an indoor kitten due to aggressive neighbourhood cats but if need be I do have a friend who’ll take him in and give him a loving home as a last resort. My grandparents bought my eldest dd the previous cat as a birthday present as she lived with them but they’ve never neutered their dogs before either (other than the rescues) so I can see why it didn’t cross their minds that she could easily have multiple litters

We’ve had energetic kittens before I think it’s just how young he is and how playful the dog is used to being with the kittens we’ve fostered that is making me abit resentful

I'm not sure whether you want advice about the jealousy or about the kitten's behaviour.

Well it doesn't really sound like the kind of cat that's going to be happy being an indoor cat.

Well what a car crash that all sounds. Do the decent thing and rehome that poor kitten.

The jealousy as it’s very new to her, we’ve had plenty of kittens in the home before (we foster kittens and cats but now taking a break to let things settle down) and never once has she been at all jealous towards any fosters

Making you resentful?
Rehome.

Blimey. A kitten into all that going on. Rehome.

I actually can't believe you foster kittens and cats with an aggressive dog. Those poor animals.

Does anyone think getting a behaviourist to come in and take a look at what’s actually happening could be helpful? We’ve loved fostering but if the behaviour continues we’ll have to stop