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Safety concerns with cat and allergies what to do?

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coldzebra · 02/04/2018 20:46

My family’s had a cat for the last four years, I’ve someways been allergic to her but she was okay when we lived in our last house in the countryside and I didn’t touch her. In the last two years we’ve moved into the city to be closer to doctors, my health has plummeted ( just pre move) and allergies have become more a lot worse. I wanted to do the kind thing when we left and we moved with her dispite the difficulties, not knowing how my health would be with the cat there since I was bed ridden when the move happened. Fast forward to now and I’ve really been struggling to live in thin this house with this cat, she’s changed and has become very loud and angry and scary. I’m on very strong anti histamines. My allergy has gotten a lot worse so that unless im locked in my room I cant breath and my face swells like crazy. I also use a walking stick which she was fine with before the move two years ago. She scratches me when I’m too close even when I she is the one that moves closer and I don’t realise it, she darts at me and my legs causing me to fall a lot and hurt myself especially when we’re alone together this is really bad for me because I struggle to get back up a llone and I can be there for ages. I have trouble sleeping and every night she lets out these terrifying yowling noices at 4 am for no reason and scratches at my door. The family loves her because she’s cute regardless of how she hurts and treats us. We’ve tried everything including feliway diffusers around the house and so many behaviour books and vet advice. I don’t know what to do, I’ve been confined to the room for more than 6 months barely leaving since I’m too weak to leave the house but I’m too scared of the harm she causes my body to leave my room. Thinking about continuing this situation is making me break out in panic attacks constantly. I want to rehome her to a kind loving family who may be able to cope better but the rest of the house would rather I just stay locked up in the room so we can both love there because they love her, the likes the outdoors but thy won’t consider letting her live in the shed even. I’m worried they’re choosing her over me and I’ll have to move to a disabled care home, something I can’t afford. I’m not even 30 yet. I don’t know what to do. Am I just being unreasonable? I’m at the end of what I can bear, I’m miserable, in a lot of pain, feeling trapped and and anxious.

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thecatneuterer · 02/04/2018 23:59

Well that sounds awful and I've no idea how to best answer that post. I think you aren't going to get much useful advice in The Litter Tray, as you have decided what you want/need to do, but your family disagree.

Can you perhaps get your post moved to Relationships?

DumbledoresApprentice · 03/04/2018 22:38

I really feel for you. When you say your family do you mean a husband/partner and children or parents/siblings/other relatives? If it’s the first then your DP/DH needs to support you, even if it upsets the children. That’s hard and I understand reluctance to part children from their pets even when it needs to be done. You need to be firm and explain that it’s best for everyone, especially the children if your health is as good as it possibly can be.
If it’s the second then that could be more complicated. If these are all adults then they’re obviously old enough to understand the situation already.
Are they in denial about how ill you are?

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