Kitten been spayed now her Mum hates her

[Dibbs19]

I adopted a cat with her kitten in August, when found living rough there was only one surviving kitten and they have always been very close and loving.
The kitten was spayed on Monday and ever since I bought her home it's been like world war three. I think the biggest problem is the cone the kitten has on.
She has no outside stitches just a sort of glue closure and the wound looks clean and dry. Would I be mad to risk taking the cone off? If I do I will never get it back on unaided. I was told to leave it on until next Thursday when she goes back for her last check up but I can't take another week of this! I'm also scared it may ruin their relationship going forward.
Please give me some advice, it's breaking my heart!

Can you separate them in the house?
You can get vest type covers that could work.
One of mine chewed through the stitches and had to be stapled so I would leave it on. Many cats don't fuss at the site though. What's she like?

Posted too soon. She could also smell of vet!

Oh ive never bothered with cones. And Wolfie is right it is the smell if the vet have you got a blanket you can rib on her? We had the same here it was distressing to see but it soon resolved.

One of our cats had to be in a cage for 4 weeks after an accident. Her sister completely ignored her and wouldn't even go in the same room. When she got out, cat #2 was growly and mean to her for a week, but they slowly made it up and are fine now. Don't fiddle with the cone, the cats won't remember once it's off and they are back to normal.

Please try and resist taking the cone off! I did this with my dog, her wound ended up stinking and turned green with an awful infection. I was told off (and rightly so) by the vet and ended up with another expensive vet bill to treat it. Since then, I never touch the cone of shame on any pet that comes home with one (except to clean it whilst still on).

Thank you all
They've pretty much separated themselves! The Mum (Willow) has taken up residence in the kitchen and won't come out.
The kitten (Tuppence) is usually really naughty but has actually been as good as gold with the cone - just can't understand what's going on.
I think scent was definitely an issue to start with but it appears to be more visual now.
I will leave it on and hope for the best

If it's any consolation, exactly this happened to me last year. Got kitten, resident cats eventually got used to it and happy. Kitten got spayed and came home with a cone - got beaten up and hissed at regularly for the entire week till the cone could come off. Bam, all back to normal loveliness again. It is hard at the time though, I understand.

www.catbehaviorassociates.com/aggression-between-cats-after-a-veterinary-visit/

Just found this website after a quick google, and it makes a lot of sense. Essentially, yes, it's the "vet smell" that makes their behaviour change. Well worth reading I think.

We have this problem with ours - if one goes the to vet, the other hates it for days. It will get better though. It’s the smell. And once the non-vet-cat has smelled the vet on the other cat, it will take a while to settle. Cone probably doesn’t help but it’s important to keep it on at least for a few days til the wound isn’t so fresh. It will be ok!

Some people have had success with Feliway (we gave up on it as I hate the smell) but I think time will heal all. Lots of cuddles to both of them in the meantime.

Many thanks again to everyone for helping put my mind at ease.
I've got Feliway and have done the rubbing with blankets so just need to be patient now. I will leave the cone on, maybe not going to make it as far as next Thursday but definitely over the weekend.
My biggest relief is hearing from you that it should pass, there's no real fisticuffs but certainly a lot of verbals - I wasn't aware my girls knew such awful language 🙀

None of mine have ever had a cone for spaying, but vet smell probably off-putting.
Only ever had one at a time so not a representative sample!