I'd really appreciate some views on this because I just don't know what to do for the best.
My sweet old girl is 19. She takes fluoxetine and thyroid medication daily, has arthritis in her back hips (has seraquin for this), has in the past month or so starting vomiting regularly and is now also on Cerenia when necessary. She gets dehydrated often. She's currently on antibiotics for another UTI. I've been to the vets with her every week for the past 6 for something or another. She's recently started urinating on the doormat (she's an indoor cat but her litter tray is kept very clean). She jumps up to the sink to drink water and will stumble/fall either on the way up or down. She's not very surefooted these days and won't climb the stairs at all. The fur on her hind quarters is matted but she won't let me touch it, the vet suggested just leaving it rather than upsetting her by trying to untangle/remove them.
She sleeps most of the time (more than she used to), and sits on our laps in the evenings sometimes, but other than crying for food/water she doesn't interact with us much any more. I just don't know if her quality of life is acceptable.
The vet has run bloodwork again recently and they can find nothing obviously wrong with her, aside from what she's already being treated for. Her levels are all good, but she is just getting old and a bit fragile.
I really don't want her to be unhappy or in any pain or discomfort, or for her quality of life to be unbearably poor, and I know that I need to start thinking about the end. But how on earth do you decide when the time is right? I've had her for so long I get really emotional just thinking about it. I do not want her to suffer, DH thinks she's ok but I'm not so sure. I've been with her almost 10 years longer than I've been with him so we may have quite different perspectives. She was a timid rescue when I took her on so I'm really protective of her.
Can you give me your best advice, please?
Thank you.