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Coconutcreampie · 10/09/2017 12:34

I recently lost my 2 year old cat to a road accident so I realise I may be projecting.

Background my brother in law has met a lovely woman and is very much in love and wants to move in with her however her child is extremely phobic of cats and dogs. She has had councilling and therapy for this to no avail. Bil has a 17 year old cat that originally belonged to my now departed mother in law. Due to the situation he can't take the cat with him (and to be honest he only looked after the cat out of a sense of duty, he is not a cat person at all).

I would like to bring the cat home with us however I have a few reservations:

1- My remaining 2 year old cat, she has already gone through a stressful time losing her sister (although she appears to be coping very well)
2- the area we live is a long way away from the area the cat is used to and I'm a bit worried due to his age about the adaptability of him.

My brother in laws next door neighbours are willing to take him which would mean he gets to stay somewhere he is familiar with, however it does mean he leaves the family who have had him since a kitten and won't ever see us again.

What would you do in this situation?

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thecatneuterer · 10/09/2017 13:29

I think if the neighbours are happy to take him and you trust them to look after him well and to pay for any necessary future vet bills then that would be best. Cats tend to be more bonded to places than people.

Coconutcreampie · 10/09/2017 13:32

I believe they would. They have been neighbours for years and years and whilst they haven't had pets previously they are good people and they do care for him

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Davros · 10/09/2017 13:37

I would let him go to the neighbours. Maybe ask to see him or keep in touch from time-to-time?

Coconutcreampie · 10/09/2017 17:35

We would never is see him, he lives 3 hours away from us and we have no reason to return to the area other than him which to be honest isn't enough reason to book a hotel overnight with 2 kids to go see him. So this would be it, which makes me feel quite sad.

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