Maybe this is information overload but I wanted to write all the points in detail. We are conflicted and don't know what to do - if you were in this situation what do you think would be for the best?
My partner is planning to move to my country and he has a cat. He was from a shelter and is 9 years old now. He is REALLY disabled, noone is sure what is wrong with him but he can't walk good, he can't run or jump, he can't stand steadily. He doesn't play, he doesn't go outside, he doesn't move much at all, he just lays in his cat bed all day long unless it's dinner time. He has been to the vet loads of times and the vet has done lots of tests on him but isn't sure what is wrong, seems like it is neurological. Cat also has a burst eardrum somehow which he had before we got him from the shelter.
The cat lives with some rabbits too, he is scared of the rabbits and if they come near him he will poo or wee himself on the spot and then just lay in it until it's discovered. He is also scared of the hairdryer/doorbell/loud noises/other cats being too boisterous. The cat has had seizures before (or what we assume were seizures) where he spins around and keeps falling over and is really disoriented. When he stands normally he stands in the plantigrade stance, and on his knuckles rather than on his paws.
Anyway - we are worried about the cat and wonder if my partner should try and bring him to my country to live with us, give him back to a shelter to try and rehome him, or euthanise him.
If we bring him to the country, it is going to be a LOT of stress for the cat when travelling - if its by plane it might affect his ears a lot since he has the ruptured eardrum and he will be terrified of the noise in the plane and pressure changes, if it's by car it would take days and the cat would have to be in a carrier the whole time which he would hate and be freaking out/pooing himself in there. If he got here safely, then he would have to live with my dogs... the cat is scared of rabbits, we assume he is going to be even more scared and stressed around dogs.
Also because the cats medical problems are pre-existing, we can't insure him with pet insurance - meaning if anything goes wrong after the cost of getting him to this country, we can't afford to fix him and he would have to be euthanised anyway.
If we tried to rehome him and gave him to a shelter - who is going to want a cat that is so disabled? I love him but he is basically a glorified statue, he never moves or walks unless it's for food, both because he doesn't want to and because he can't walk steadily. We wouldn't want him stuck in a shelter for years and unable to be rehomed and even more stressed out being in there.
Which is why we thought about euthanising him - we both love him and obviously we don't want to really do this, but the quality of life he has now and would have if he moved (which would be the same but more stress to get there and stress from dogs.) We are not sure which choice is the best for the cat. As far as we know, the cat isn't in pain, but he has so many issues which we can't fix.
Which option do you think is the best for the cat?