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Cat dying?

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Skala123 · 26/08/2017 09:40

Sorry for the morbid thread title. My rag doll cat is 18 years old and has recently been diagnosed with chronic renal failure, as is very common in cats of his age so the vet tells me. He's lost a third of his already tiny body weight so we know he hasn't got long. He is not in any discomfort but is very frail. Today when I went down to the kitchen he didn't get up to greet me as normal, just lay in his bed. He's not eaten anything overnight. He came up to the bedroom and got on the bed and has stayed their for the last couple of hours. He does sleep a lot anyway but he just seems different. When I stroke him he doesn't respond, just barely opens his eyes. Does this sound like the end might be near? Not sure whether I should take him to the vet (he's a house cat so this will distress him) or just to leave him be where he is content and quiet (kids aren't here) and if it's his time then let nature take it's course?

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Skala123 · 27/08/2017 09:19

He did for a day but is eating again now

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Mittens1969 · 27/08/2017 09:26

All right, OP, if your vet is telling you that you that your lovely cat isn't suffering and he's not suffering then yes leave it for now. But ask him again for his honest opinion now, as he seems to have deteriorated. It does sound like the end is near and prolonging it is cruel if he's not having any kind of life. (Clearly we're not there so it's impossible to know.)

It was different with my poor cat, she wasn't eating because her teeth were bad and she had a lot of health problems which would have cost a lot to treat and her life was miserable as she couldn't cope with my DD. The vet also said she couldn't be rehomed in her state of health which I accepted as I could see that. It was devastating.

Such a hard thing to go through. Flowers

Yogagirl123 · 27/08/2017 09:56

Pleased to hear your cat is eating and seeming better this morning, definitely see the vet for advice tues, it will put your mind at rest. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Skala123 · 27/08/2017 10:02

Thank you. I know the end is near for sure. I will go to the vet on Tuesday with the expectation in my head that the cat won't be coming home. It truly is devastating as he's our first family pet and the kids have never know a time without him

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lovemylover · 27/08/2017 10:10

Cats deteriorate very quickly.I think he really needs to see the vet please don't let him suffer.cats hide pain very well

Yogagirl123 · 27/08/2017 11:17

It is so hard, our lovely cat was our last pet, our DS' grew up with him, DS1 was particularly sad when we lost him, right in the middle of his GCSES, but never a good time for things like this. We decided not to have any more pets, as our DS's are teenagers, and having been through losing 4 pets now, I don't think I can go through losing anymore, just so heartbreaking. Make a huge fuss of your cat, till tues and then see the vet for guidance. Sending you a hug, I know how awful it is.

thatsthewayitgoes · 29/08/2017 19:35

I could have written this post. Our 17 year old who has never been ill suddenly deteriorated about 3 weeks ago. Stopped eating and drinking. Vomiting everywhere. We took her to the vet who did lots of tests which all came back negative. She recommended we put her to sleep but my ASD daughter was devastated so we brought her home for the weekend to say goodbye. 2 and a half weeks later she still wasn't eating but was in good spirits, even caught us a mouse present. But then on Saturday it all became too much. She came up the stairs - she found it so hard to do so - and never went down again. Didn't move until I took her to the vets this morning.
We are all so sad - she was one of the family - can't remember life without her. I keep thinking I can see her out of the corner of my eye. A friend said to me that taking her to the vets to go to sleep was the last thing I could do for her. You'll know when it's time xx

Skala123 · 30/08/2017 18:07

Went to the vet yesterday and the cat had lost another 10% of his body weight (in four weeks) and he said the next stage of deterioration would be seizures. Couldn't bare the thought of putting him through that so I said goodbye. I couldn't stay to watch it happen as I was a mess. I'm not the most sentimental of people but i an devastated. Weirdly although I know it was the right thing to do I still feel like I've betrayed him somehow.
I've told the DC that the vet is looking after him while we are away so they said goodbye when I took him. Will tell them when we get back on Monday, am absolutely dreading it. Does anyone have any tips?

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Skala123 · 30/08/2017 18:08

Sorry should've also said thank you for sharing your stories with me and I'm so sorry for your losses. Flowers

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kernowgal · 30/08/2017 18:12

In the same position here, in fact I've just booked the vet for tomorrow morning. Mine has gone downhill since the weekend, lost weight, barely eating and very drowsy/wobbly.

I am in pieces and keep crying. I've only had him for 18 months but he's been absolutely brilliant. He's snoozing in the sunshine and I've given him a bowl of tuna. I feel horrible but I know it's the right thing to do, I can't bear to see him suffer.

Orangebird69 · 30/08/2017 18:29

So sorry Skala Flowers

kernowgal · 30/08/2017 18:33

Our posts crossed, I'm sorry too Skala. I really don't know whether to stay while the vet puts him to sleep, I'm not sure I can bear the thought of my cat looking at me while it happens but I also can't bear the thought that he'd be alone.

The receptionist I just spoke to was so lovely, I came off the phone and sobbed. I feel wretched and he's still with me for now!

Yogagirl123 · 30/08/2017 18:43

What a shame, but you have made the right decision. You know when it's time and vets are very experienced to advise. My DH couldn't face being there when our cat was pts either. Take it easy the next few days. Perhaps your children may be expecting bad news if they already know the cat is very poorly and being looked after by the vet. Just explain that the vet said it was for the best for your cat and that you said goodbye for them. So sorry OP the worst thing about pet ownership, he's out of pain and you made the best decision for your cat. Flowers

Yogagirl123 · 30/08/2017 18:45

No right or wrong I choose the stay with my cat, it was painless and very quick. Do what's right for you. So sorry for anyone going through this.

Orangebird69 · 30/08/2017 19:13

Fwiw, last time I had a pet cat pts (I've had many rescue/abused cats pts 😔), I didn't stay either Skala - I was on complete hysterics and the vet kindly suggested that I would distress the cat rather than comfort her with the state I was in. It broke my heart and I still feel bad 10yrs later but he was right. 💔

Weedsnseeds1 · 31/08/2017 07:43

I'm sorry to hear that but it sounds like the right thing for him.

ladyballs · 31/08/2017 08:45

I'm so sorry OP. Flowers

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