My beautiful boy has gone

[QueenieMum]

I had to have my cat PTS last Tuesday after he broke a leg in a fight. He was around 19 (a rescue cat so will never know for sure) and I'd had him for 18 years. It all happened so quickly. I'm devastated, in a way I never thought I would be. The house is so quiet without him and I feel so sad. If only I could have saved him from the fight - we've saved him from lots in the past. My DH and DD seem fine but I'm not, I miss him so much. Is this normal?

Dolce, that's exactly why I don't want to scatter his ashes in the garden in case we do move. I've seen a small memorial with space for ashes inside but I'm not sure how I'd transfer them without getting them everywhere Your frames sound lovely, if you could send me a link or picture of one I'd be very grateful.

I posted the other day after having my beautiful boy pts on Friday. I'm heartbroken and although I knew this day would come eventually, I didn't expect it to hurt so much.

I still have another cat (his brother) so don't have to face throwing away the cat bowls and stuff, but have the problem of a lonely a confused cat who is looking for his best friend.

It's such a sad thing, hugs to you. I hope our lovely boys are playing somewhere together now.

I worried about that too, but the crematorium put the ashes into the frames for me. They are beautiful, but not tacky ifkwim. Here's a link to the frames. We got the 'desktop' frames, but they did say when the second cat died that we could add his ashes to be in the same frame as my first cat.

www.dignitypetcrem.co.uk/product/photo-frames/

I remember this with my two, MisterMagpie. Seeing the second cat looking or of the window for his sister broke my heart. It was the hardest part for me. I did keep him in for a good week to make sure he didn't wander off to look for his sister. It does get easier and your second cat will settle down in time

Dolce they are beautiful frames. I might call the vets and see if I still have the chance to order something different. Thank you

I'm sure if you're having an individual cremation that they will be able to do this for you. I am comforted by the idea that they are still with me and the DC are none the wiser - they just look like normal photo frames.

Mistermagpie I didn't expect it to hurt this much either. I hope you can take comfort in your surviving cat and he can take comfort with you. I hope all our cats are having a great time wherever they are, free from pain and happy.

Yes Queenie it is really hard isn't it? But that is because it was so special; I had a ginger Tom called William who was the spit of Bob when I was a kid. Big soppy boy who I loved so much. James, known as Campy, travelled with me from London to Lithuania and then on to France. Came back to UK with me two years ago. So many times there was just me and the cats while I was working. Flying from Vilnius to France in a smallish plane we realised we could hear him howling from the hold the whole way. He had me well trained, people adored him because he was so gentle. You gave him a great life. Give yourself time to grieve.

I am so sorry for your loss My boy was PTS in November 2015. I was inconsolable for the next week

Oh I was inconsolable when 17 years old cat was pts, it took ages as I kept 'seeing' her
Now have adopted 2 black cats and we all love each other

Bob came back home today, much earlier than advised. It's made me feel much calmer but still had a good old cry again. Thank you all for your kind words and support. I'm usually the type of person to bottle things up and talking on here has helped a great deal.

Thinking of you. I'm pleased he's home and know what you mean about feeling calmer. I felt the same with both of my two. Wishing you well whilst you adjust