Struggling with grief

[Kikikaakaa]

I am really sick of all the platitudes people keep telling me about 'a good innings' and that she passed quickly. They are not helping me.

I am completely heartbroken to lose my young cat (only 6) who was hit by a car. I don't know if she suffered for a long time after being hit, all I know is whoever hit her didn't stop and she was there in the road for some time before a nice person took pity and took her to the vet. And it was so close to my house and I didn't even know till hours later.

I feel so guilty and sick. I didn't get her home that night because she rarely comes when I call on nice spring evenings as she likes to hunt. But I could have called her and I didn't. She didn't call to come in either that evening (I have no catflap). Maybe things would have been different. I can't believe how much I miss her. I feel like I can't bear to live here anymore and see the road where it happened every day either. I've lost pets before, when they are old and it didn't feel this awful. I just feel so sad

[Trustyourself2]

You will feel enraged for a long time, I know I did. In addition to one of my cats being killed by a car that I told you about in my PP, my old boy, still with me, was hit by a car about 12 years ago, and it didn't stop. I ran to the window in time to see the car driving off, but couldn't get to it, as I had to look for my cat. When I flew out the front door the lovely paper boy, who'd seen what happened, was looking for him and told me he was under another car. I managed to get a hold of him and rushed him to the vet, and thankfully they fixed him. He lost half a canine tooth and took a real bashing to his face.

Every day, I watched out for that bloody car, but I never saw it again. If I had seen it, I was gonna drive after it and remind him/her of what an absolute coward they were.

I've never forgotten the kindness of that young paper boy. It really touched me.

Don't stifle your feelings. Its important to let them out. Did you manage to the vet today?

[Wolfiefan]

I don't blame you for hating. Sometimes people hit an animal by mistake. But sometimes they are arseholes who speed and don't stop.

[timtam23]

Kiki i am so sorry to read about your girl
If you need a listening ear, the Blue Cross charity has a pet bereavement helpline. I very nearly rang it when my old boy cat died as i struggled with no one in real life really understanding how sad i felt.

I also have 2 cat ornaments on the mantle piece, one for each of my cats who have died. I chose them for looking similar to my cats and when I see them i always think of the cats.