Would you pts for this

[Strawberryshortcake40]

At my wits end with cat. Had a multitude of problems with him before, complaints from neighbours etc and was on the verge of rehoming him last summer when he was hit by a car and had to spend a month in a cage. This changed his personality even more and he has never seemed "right" since. He would destroy the cage every night, tore up beds, pooed everywhere (inc food bowl!), howl incessantly. I tried very hard to help him through this but he has seemed to dislike me since.

He will still cry loudly all day and night (so the neighbours are still not happy). He randomly bites people and my DC, refuses to be cuddled or stroked anymore (used to be affectionate). Knocks over bins, steals food. In the last month he has weed (full on bladder void) on my carpets, curtains, several times on piles of ironing. Once on a pile of ironing halfway up the tiny stairs. Dogs bed. Now his latest is the kitchen work tops and table and anything he finds on there. This morning my laptop lead. Yesterday a book of the DC. Even if I remove everything there is a lake of urine dripping off the worktop in the morning. He has a cat flap. Has a tray. Vet says there appears to be nothing wrong with him.

I obviously can't rehome a cat that does this so what on earth do I do with him? I love animals and have always had cats, some with quirks, but he truly acts like he despises us. I can't let him anywhere but the kitchen where he terrorises the dog. I don't know what the solution is.

Fully expecting to be flamed for this but I would really welcome some help.

Who are your insurers btw? Petplan cover treatment for behavioural therapy, as long as recommended by a vet - which, if I've read your posts correctly, they have.

Have a peruse through your ins. documents.

Direct Line. They don't, checked last night.

Just a shot in the dark really OP, but could you speak to someone who is really knowledgeable, regarding Burmese cats.
This must be awful for you, and the cat, but you can't go on as you are.
The biting is another issue, that needs dealing with.
He does sound to be a very unhappy boy.

I know Burmese quite well. Had my first at age 3 and have had one or more ever since! I know they are quirky little buggers but they are normally very friendly and loving. This is why I'm at such a loss.

That's a bugger. Myself, I'd give the vet a ring and ask for recommendations re. pet behaviourists anyway, and pay. I'd want to exhaust all other possibilities, rather than the alternative.

Or, as 15.35 post says, cats can behave very differently in a single pet, child free household. Would you consider that, rather than PTS?

Yes I was happy to rehome but the vet has said not to.

And re. Therapy. I can maybe afford a bit but sadly not a lot. Reduced circumstances here mean it's just not possible.

I hope I didn't offend you Strawberry, it certainly wasn't my intention, I should have given it more thought, you have enough on your plate. 😳

No, no offence taken. I'm honestly listening to all advice on here and only want the best for him. It is a stressful house for him to live in, I have a DC who is pretty unwell and another with anxiety issues. Tbh it felt like the last straw to be told the cat needs a therapist too!! Unfortunately he is adding to our stress and I expect we are adding to his too.

Why does the vet think it's best not to rehome him (sorry if you've already said)? Surely if he's stressed where he is going to a quieter environment might be better for him. Maybe not at first, but it could cause issues short term for a long term gain.

I have no idea why the vet said it, just that she felt it was cruel to put more stress into him and it would be highly unlikely we would find a suitable long term home.
I don't think pts is something vets do if there is another option?

I am really sorry you are going through all this, we have 4 bengals and a moggy and our eldest bengal wee's all over the house. It is utterly disgusting, often he'll walk in, look at us and pee, almost like his way of telling us to f**k off!

Any change in circumstances, even bringing in the Christmas tree sets him off and I like you am despairing, we move house next month and I do NOT want him in the kitchen due to the peeing on worktops but he has to go in there to get to the utility where the trays will be. We have a total of 6 trays in our current house (one for each cat plus a spare)
My husband adores this cat, he'd sooner get rid of the other 4 than his boy if he thought the cats were causing him stress. I honestly had never thought until reading this thread that he might be stressed so will be suggesting the Zylkene to be husband as soon as he's home, at the very least whilst for the first couple of months and see how he goes.
so Thank you to those who have offered support, and Strawberry I know exactly how you feel and it's awful to consider putting a pet to sleep, we wouldn't do it to people but I promise you, I have thought the same and i'm sure many others have to

Some good advice here: www.bluecross.org.uk/pet-advice/stop-your-cat-spraying-and-soiling-indoors

Especially Bad Associations, Breaking the habit and Retraining sections

(I don't know how to link)

I am a vet with a similar cat. I do not allow visitors to touch him as he bites a lot. We moved house last summer and he started the stalking about yowling and protest urination.
I have Feliway on all the time and I feed c/d low calorie urinary stress food which contains l-tryptophan ( the ingredient in Zylkene). This has resolved the issue. It was definitely the stress of moving and it has taken 6 months for him to settle.

My cat is part Burmese and used to do the visible pissing thing when he was upset. I think it was his way of trying to communicate to us that he was unhappy.

He also did the biting thing.

His behaviour improved when we bought another cat for him to play with and moved house to somewhere with garden access. So it was fixable but drastic, and we didn't have the added stress of an accident etc.

Obviously, you can't do these things, but you might be able to rehome him to somewhere less stressful for him. The celia Hammond trust might be able to advise.

Really feel for you - know what you're going through and it's horrible.

Sorry but I'd PTS, he sounds very stressed and unhappy and is making you all feel the same way.