Can I ask when you knew it was time to let go?

[UnbornMortificado]

I know this could be an emotive subject for any pet owner but my mam is really struggling.

She has two old boys (16) brothers. They were my childhood pets. They are showing signs of decline (kidneys and weigh loss) she wants to let them go peacefully together with the vet they trust.

Can I just ask how you realised it was time? They had an appointment at 5 today but she's put it back till Monday. I think she's struggling to be honest and I could do with some advice for her.

She really isn't a cruel person, she has always done the right thing by her dogs and has always said it's the last kind thing you do for your pets.

I think the big problem she has is that dogs can tell you when their in pain. With the boys she can't tell.

Thank you for reading. Any advice would be really helpful.

I do realise it's an upsetting question and I hope it hasn't upset anyone too much.

She's come to term with it cozie. I just can't imagine the house without them.

I'm sorry about your DCat.

It will be hard, there's no way round that. I suspect that intervening will, with hindsight, be a better thing for her than just letting things go on, though.

I recall when we had to intervene with DDog1, some years back. The vet - who knew him 'socially' and had tried desperately hard to save him - was crying so hard that I wasn't convinced she would physically be able to do it.

I had no regrets, though. He was a fine dog who had a great life - and then he went, peacefully.

If the vet says that they both need the decision making, I'd say that's a strong hint...

So sorry, as someone upthread said, better slightly early than late.

It's booked Monday. The vet I've mentioned is the one my mam really trusts (she has a few animals)

Cozie the first dog my mam lost had to have intervention . My mam wasn't going to go in the surgery as she was so upset. The vet (same one) came to car to get her saying she'd regret not being there for him. She was right she would of regretted it.

That's why she trusts that vet.

Giver her our love. Even when you know it's the right and loving thing to do, it's desperately hard.

In hindsight I wish I'd let my cat go before she was admitted to hospital.

If I could have chosen the vet for a home visit, it would have been so much easier and better for her. As it was, she spent her last 24hrs in a vet hospital without me till the very end when I got a call to come quickly due to sudden change in her condition, which still breaks my heart many years on. She had never spent a single night under a different roof to me until that point.

I'm so sorry for you and your mum, so much love is why it hurts so badly.

Vet sounds lovely. It's hard but your mum is doing the right thing for her pets. Last (and hardest) act of love and kindness.
Thinking of you all.

It's so sad. I had a cat pts 10 years ago that I still miss terribly. No advice other than this - it's kinder to be a day too soon rather than a day too late x

Sorry, such a tough time. As was said to me recentl; ...the last act of kindness you can give to them and its true no matter how heart-breaking. It is better and you have the weekend to indulge them and each other reminiscing on the great and dearest of dcats they have been.

We had such a weekend once and its still a lovely and enduring memory of us all together feeding sumptuous treats and pampering!

Didn't make it till tuesday,

The slightly more poorly brother went off his feet at my mams house. She was hoping he would slip peacefully but he hasn't so she rushed him to the vets.

He looked peaceful and didn't seem in pain which is some consolation to me mam.

I cried more then DD12 tbh. The original plan was both going together, but his brother has hid himself, the vet isn't her usual one so she wasn't sure he would even do it.

She's really upset with what's happened she didn't want to have to rush him in scared and regrets not going the start of the week.

Thank you all for your support I can't believe how much it's upset me. I don't understand how people can say just a cat or just a dog.

He was (before the weight loss) a massive black and white Tom called scrabble. He could be a little furry sod at times but I loved him to bits.

Ahh, I'm so sorry UnbornMortificado, that sounds just awful.

My cat did a similar thing ... I called on a Thursday but the vet couldn't come until early Monday morning, and on that Sunday evening she suddenly, inexplicably, and very dramatically declined. It was almost as if she knew, and had realized it was okay to stop trying to hold herself together or something. It was very strange, and utterly heart-breaking.

My heart breaks for you, and your mam, too. She had such a beautiful plan, for them to slip away gently together. The best-laid plans ... cats being cats, those incorrigible little furballs will mess up the best-laid plan every time.

Thanks Galen I ended up calling me Dad out of work. Its older DD'd football night so I wanted to take her (and my) mind of it and didn't fancy leaving her by herself.

He went from stumbling to flat out in minutes I'm sorry about your girl they break your heart.

She rounded his brother up, they've both gone peacefully together. The vet agreed it was the right thing.

I don't think it would of been right to leave him without his brother for such a short time.

I'm so sorry, Unborn. Let her know that people are thinking about her.

It was the right thing from the sound of it.

I'm so sorry. That sounds stressful but in away she knows for sure that it was the right decision and the right time. Thinking of her. Sorry if this isn't your cup of tea but I'm a soppy sod and it helps me

Deepest sympathies from us. Alwaysupsetting no matter what the plan if lucky enough to have a plan.

Take care all

Thank you I've told her. She's got my sisters and my godmother (a fellow cat owner) with her.

She's actually taking another pointy dog on (my brother is retiring one of his) it had been planned before they got so poorly, I know you can't replace them but it may distract her slightly.

I'm sad but relieved they are together and not in pain.