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How do you know when it's time to let them go?

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ThatIsNachoCheese · 29/06/2016 15:45

Hello all, I'd really appreciate some advice about my old cat (16 or 17 years old) he has arthritis which is being treated with gabapentin and vetergesic, the vet has said he can't have anything stronger.
He has now also been diagnosed with heart failure and was treated for fluid on the lungs last week, this treatment worked well and he's breathing alot better now, although it is still quite laboured sometimes.
He is in so much pain, he can't jump up on to the bed or sofa anymore, he looks so sad, he isn't eating very much and doesn't seem to be pooing the last few days.
I haven't had this discussion with my vet, they haven't mentioned it to me, and I'm kind of scared to bring it up, but how do you know when it's time, when it's fairer to them to let them go?
He's been with us for 14 years, I'm so sad that he's so poorly but I want to make sure I do the right thing for him.
Also, do you know if any vets will visit at home to put them to sleep? He's always loathed the vet and I would hate for him to have to be somewhere he hates when he goes.
Thank you in advance for any advice.

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Wolfiefan · 10/07/2016 23:22

We had to have our 19 year old cat (on tramadol for arthritis!) pts a year ago. I always thought of it as saving them from suffering. The vet mentioned "dignity". That clinched it for me as she had none.
As long as my pet wasn't in pain and enjoyed doing the things they had always derived pleasure from then I would say keep going. The advice I've read is better a day too early than an hour too late.
I'm sorry. It's horrid.
Flowers

ThatIsNachoCheese · 12/07/2016 12:37

Thank you all so much for sharing your stories with me.
The vet came yesterday and we held our boy while he was put to sleep, he had four of his favourite humans with him. We loved him so much, he was in so much pain it wasn't fair to make him carry on.
We miss him so much already.

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cozietoesie · 12/07/2016 12:43

I'm very sorry.

You did the right and loving thing though. It's just so hard.

Wolfiefan · 12/07/2016 12:44

I'm sorry for your loss. You made the kindest decision. He was lucky to have you.
Flowers

StillMedusa · 12/07/2016 16:06

I'm sorry for your loss. You let him go with the people he loved around him.. you couldn't do more than that xx

Middleoftheroad · 12/07/2016 16:11

I'm so sorry. What you did was the kindest choice. A choice we had to make a couple of years ago so I know how painful it is but it was right for him. You were selfless and that shows how much you all cared Flowers

ThatIsNachoCheese · 12/07/2016 16:21

Thank you Flowers

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Vinorosso74 · 12/07/2016 19:53

That sounds a peaceful and loving way for him to go. So sorry for your loss though.

Buddahbelly · 12/07/2016 20:01

Its a horrible thing to go through but youve certainly made the right decision. I too had my lovely kitten right up until last december when he turned 16, he could barely walk and although was still eating, had started to have seizures.

We found out it was his kidneys failing and the vet talked immediately about letting him go, Ii wrestled with it for days, who are we to end a life, but some lovely people on here made me see that although we care about the like babies, they don't feel the same as us, they don't feel excitement for tomorrow, they just live in the here and now, and in the now they feel sick with pain and its so much kinder for them to be out of pain.

Still hurts like mad though when I think about him!

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