Sister cat grieving - is there anything I can do?

[Chloecoconut]

Apologies as I'm not a regular on here but I could really do with some advice please ...

We said goodbye to one of our two cats on Wednesday. Bio had been missing for almost a week (he used to disappear for a couple of days at a time) and we finally found him in his favourite place for taking his contraband. He was originally a farm cat and we'd had him and his sister since they were tiny - he was 7. His sister is (I think) mourning - she has been out and about as usual but when she is home she is miaowing constantly. I've given her food so I know it's not that. I've never had cats before these two so I've no idea a) if she could possibly be mourning and b) if there's anything I can do to help her. The kids are heartbroken but I can talk to them and cuddle them, I just don't know if there's anything I can do to help Diesel.

Thanks ever so much.

I'm no expert but this happened to us too a d we just gave extra affection and the mourning passed after a couple of weeks. I'm sorry about your cat, it's really tough.

Thanks Fraggled - Diesel slept on my sons bed last night which isn't like her - it's been awful as Bio would often wander off for a few days but always came back in one piece. My youngest daughter (9) is distraught which I was expecting so hopefully her and Diesel can comfort each other in some way. Thanks again x

It's a bit late now but the best thing would have been to show her the body.

She will get over it as will your dd.

Our girl did this too and it did pass. I agree with lots of TLC (for everyone)

How is she doing today? And how is your youngest DD?

Thanks ladies - much appreciated. Diesel seems to have adopted my son as a source of comfort as she has been sleeping on his bed ever since she lost her brother.

Cozie we were away for the weekend which has helped my daughter but on Friday night she was sobbing uncontrollably which was awful as I couldn't make it better :( - thank you for asking though :)

I would guess that your remaining cat is already adjusting and changing her habits to suit the new situation - refocussing on your son, perhaps, as her new 'person'. In my experience, they do adjust and seek a new balance in a changed situation so unless you're really worried about her, I'd keep on with the TLC and see how things go.

Your youngest DD? I'm guessing that this is the first death she's had that has really impacted on her so she'll likely be miserable for a little. (I cried for a week when Darling Twoago died and I was a person fully grown and (I thought) used to mortality.) You know her best I think.

Good luck to all and let us know how matters are in a bit.