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Neighbours dogs have killed my cat. Distraught.

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MissingKittyCat · 19/04/2015 13:52

I've name changed as this will totally out me.

On Thursday night, my darling 5 year old cat went out. she was the most timid cat, I rescued her as a kitten from an abisive household. It took her months to trust me but for the past 5 years, she has been my shadow. Scared of everything, she took huge comfort in me.

She didn't come back on Friday, I knew then that she was never coming home. I kept the faith and asked all my neighbours to keep an eye out. She had never been missing for this long. She hardly ever left the garden, if she did I knew her hiding place and she used to pop out when she heard my voice. She wasn't in the hiding spot.

Saturday morning, I started a social networking missing cat campaign. I was still half hoping she was in somebody's house (very unlikely as she was so timid) but I assed she had been hit by a car or something and just wanted to know. Tried the local vet, neighbours again. People on social networks were so helpful.

I went searching. It transpired one of our neighbours, who erected a 12ft fence lately (with spikes on top) has three dogs. Two Staffordshire bull terriers and an enormous bull mastiff. He welled up as he told me he had found my beautiful cat in his garden on Friday morning. He had taken her to the vet who were going to keep her for a few days to see if an owner enquired. She was dead. I asked if his pack of dogs had savaged her, he said not. I told him she had no chance of escape, that his fence was too high, he was visibly upset, profusely apologetic. He told me 3 times what he'd done, said he thought he was doing the right thing when he erected the fence. He took my number and said he'd get the vet to call me when they open tomorrow.

I am heartbroken. My cat was a nervous wreck, scared of her own shadow. I can't understand why she's end up in a garden with three dogs. She barely left the house, she followed me around like a lamb. I'm so upset, I feel her trauma, she must have been so frightened.

I know it's not the dogs fault but I cant help but hate them for it. I don't want to live near them anymore. My other cat (who is very old and frail) looks so lonely and keeps crying at the door for her.

It's unbelievably tragic. I'm utterly heartbroken. She wasn't just a cat, she was my friend, she was my therapy. And I miss her.

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NeedABumChange · 20/04/2015 13:30

Hi missing just come back to the thread and wanted to apologise for my slight misunderstanding up thread about the neighbour saying the dogs hadn't mauled her and me thinking he had said they hadn't killed her.

Sorry for you heartbreak, it is so terrible to lose a pet. It does sound as though it was quick and she maybe ran into the garden away from something else?

There is a small tracker you can attach to collars, same size as a magnetic cat flap magnet. My friend has one as her cat is very timid and sometimes seems to end up in odd places unable to get itself home. I don't have one myself as my cats stay out for days sometimes but she says it is very good and works well. Something like that might put your mind at ease if you do ever decide to get another kitty.

Mumteadumpty · 20/04/2015 13:36
Flowers
MissingKittyCat · 20/04/2015 14:42

Thank you Need, it's ok. Apology accepted. I was a mess yesterday, the thread was hijacked and descended into a fence argument, I was frustrated.

Today is a little better. I'm lucky I have closure. There is no blame. The fence doesn't bother me, it doesn't affect my life. Yes, she may have escaped a 6footer but blah, she shouldn't have been there in the first place! No other cats in the neighbourhood have ever ended up dead in that mans garden.

I'm glad she's at peace. I hope she's waiting for me with my other fur baby.

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MissingKittyCat · 20/04/2015 14:44

What do I do about my other cat? He's not eating. Is he just upset? He's old and frail and needs to eat Sad

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TheoriginalLEM · 20/04/2015 14:55

you are right - he does need to eat. Id give your vet a call and they might be able to give you something to keep his strength up. is he drinking? as he could become dehydrated. He is grieving and may take a while to get back on track. maybe get a feliway diffuser as this releases calming pheremones into the air.

it is natural but don't let it go too long as cats appetites can be tricky xx

MissingKittyCat · 20/04/2015 14:59

I haven't seen him have a drink today. I have to put his bowl of water in the bathroom as he refuses to drink out of the kitchen one (he's always been strange with water, prefers dirty to fresh) will keep my eye on it but he hasn't used the litter tray since yesterday evening.

Might grab some cat milk and tempt him with that. If all else fails, I'll cook him some chicken.

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Ratfinkandbobo · 20/04/2015 16:07

I'm so sorry for your lossFlowers
And I'm Sad and Angry that your post was hijacked by the fence argument when you were looking for support. Rip kitty.

GraysAnalogy · 20/04/2015 16:12

Oh missing I hope the vet gave you a little bit of closure :( I was thinking about you last night and felt so bad for you. I wanted to apologise again for the derailment of your thread, it just gets me so mad when dogs and their owners are blamed for things but I should;t have kept it going when quite clearly you were upset (and rightly so)

I hope your other cat feels a bit better soon.

nellorr · 20/04/2015 16:41

How tragic... I'm so sorry for your loss.

TheoriginalLEM · 20/04/2015 16:52

pilchards or something strong tasting is tempting

KoalaDownUnder · 20/04/2015 17:11

I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss Sad.

I love my dog to bits, but I would be horrified if she killed a cat. She's a greyhound x, so although a gentle soul she's very driven to chase. I don't know what would happen if a cat jumped into our yard.

Your kitty had a happy life and was loved. I hope your older cat feels better soon. Flowers

MissingKittyCat · 20/04/2015 19:10

Grays it's ok. Thank you. I was distraught all weekend. Miss her terribly but less of an emotional wreck today. I'm mad at her for going anywhere near that garden!

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 20/04/2015 21:57

I'm so sorry Missing Thanks

foreverton · 20/04/2015 22:21

Oh op I'm glad you've spoken to the vet and your kitty was not injured.
Your boy cat has probably sensed something is up and may be grieving in his own way.
My boy did when Lucia died, give him time to adjust and all of his favourite goodies, mine loves tuna:) and extra cuddles. He's 17 now and spoilt rotten.

I've been thinking about you today and wish you the best xx

Cailleach · 22/04/2015 00:26

Sorry for your loss, OP. :(

I know of many cats that were killed by dogs over the years. Just two examples; my neighbour's cat was killed by a staffy that got into their garden, and my other neighbours cat was also killed by her own staffies in their living room one night.

Note that I have nothing against this breed at all, (I have known some lovely ones in the past), but they are after all terriers, meaning they were bred to hunt and kill small furry things, and breeding those instincts out of them is totally impossible. Ditto whippets and greyhounds.

The first neighbour I mentioned above now has a Patterdale, and ironically that dog is why my cats are indoor cats only - I can't take the risk of letting them out as she is unbelievably aggressive towards cats. There have been a number of close misses with her and other people's pets so they now supervise her in the garden. She's great with people, just not cats.

What with many people owning terrier breeds around us, people stealing cats for dog baiting, dangers from cars and the general horribleness of a minority of people in the general population, I will never let my cats out unsupervised again. (They do go out in our fenced yard, but only with me.)

It's a sad world :(

PurpleShoes69 · 22/04/2015 01:09

More Flowers OP
I'm glad to hear she wasn't visibly injured, and you got some closure. I'd be inclined to think as you said that she maybe got in by accident and died of shock. She wouldn't have known anything.
Your other cat is grieving. They do. Be kind to him and yourself Brew

RubbishMantra · 22/04/2015 08:41

Sorry for your loss OP. Flowers

It's a shame your thread about the loss of a loved pet got derailed in such a peculiar manner.

MissingKittyCat · 22/04/2015 08:44

Thank you everyone. BoyCat has eaten (my dinner) and has used the tray. He's still quite clingy which is very unlike him. He seems very lonely, especially when all his humans are out. When I get home, he'll be sat staring at the door. Poor Boy.

The owners have brought us some flowers and a card, along with Kitty's collar. I laid it next to BoyCat, which in hindsight may have been a mistake as it probably confused him. I think they know which dog did it as they mentioned she got a smack. Haven't heard them bark since which is unusual. The had considered going to s chattery and getting us a kitten but they didn't want to seem like they were replacing her. I appreciate their honesty, I thanked them for not putting her in the bin which some people may have. They are still upset.

She was a strange yet wonderful little creature and home isn't the same.

Don't know what to do about BoyCat and his loneliness. Part of me wants to get him a friend, I even looked at local kittens, but it just makes me sad. She can't be replaced. She was actually a heartbreak cat, I rescued her a week or two after my other wonderful cat, Shmitten, got hit by a car. Kitty did stop the tears.

I really do bond with my feline friends. Always seems to end in tears! She had a super 5 years though. It was worth it.

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NeedABumChange · 22/04/2015 12:06

Boycat may prefer old water as tap water can have a high chlorine level, this "disappears" after water has been left standing for 24hrs. Really cheap bottled water or a cat water fountain bowl thing would stop this.

Did they snuggle up together? Maybe a hot water bottle wrapped in something furry would bring him some comfort.

GraysAnalogy · 22/04/2015 18:37

Oh Missing, I'm glad he's eaten. You know if you did chose to get another cat you aren't replacing her, as you said no-one would replace her, you're just giving another cat a chance at a lovely loving home with you and BoyCat. Even though I'm sad you're sad, it's really nice to see people who really do care about and love their animals. I'm the same and it warms my heart to know there's people like you.

I think they know which dog did it as they mentioned she got a smack

Angry at the owners, it's too late to use discipline now the dog won't understand why, and hitting them full stop is horrible. Shame because they sound like genuinely nice people. I'm so glad they have shown you and your cat respect instead of what some people would do

Justusemyname · 25/04/2015 18:58

I'm so sorry for your loss, missing.

I was heart broken when I had to have my cat put to sleep and we knew it was going to happen. The shock to you must have been huge.

How is BoyCat doing now?

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