Hello, I'm not sure about the right forum to post this in but I'll try here. Hope it's OK to post and not too upsetting for anyone.
Our beautiful little cat Spider died suddenly on Saturday night. She was 10 years old. She hadn't been herself for a couple of days, I took her to the out of hours vet on Saturday morning, dropped her favourite of my husband's jumpers in for her later (she hated the vet and I wanted her to have something familiar and comforting) and she never came home. She was our only pet and the house feels all wrong without her.
We decided on an individual cremation and we're getting her ashes today. I feel weird about this but it felt the least awful of the options. I've talked to my husband and daughters about what we'd all like to do and we have agreed that if possible we'd like to put her ashes in a big plant pot and plant a small tree of some kind in it.
Has anyone else done this or something similar? Did you keep the ashes in their container (hers are in a "scatter tube") or did you mingle them with the soil? I've read conflicting things over whether cremated ashes are good or bad for plants. Apparently they're acidic so we'd need to plant something that likes acidic conditions. But I'm no gardener so I've no idea what I'm doing.