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My kitten is obsessed with me...

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BirdhouseInYourSoul · 14/10/2014 16:04

Will this fade?

Had her nearly 5 weeks now and it's getting worse.

She came from a local rescue and had been hand reared so was extremely loving and friendly from day one. Never showed any sign of being nervous about the new house or me and the kids being unknown. She will happily sit on strangers laps etc.

The problem is that she follows me everywhere. She's very very vocal too! She pitches a huge fit outside the bathroom if I dare to shut her out.

She has to sit on my chest the very second I sit down -she is there right now as I try and type around her! Cute when she was teeny but suffocating a bit now.

I have been placing her on my lap or next to me on a pillow but she won't give up. I did it straight for 30 minutes this morning and she showed no signs of taking the hint. If she wants me to stroke her she will paw at my hand and nibble me everytime I stop.

She howls when I leave the house and if I leave the room rushes after me meowing.

I have a Felliway plugged in because we have an older cat who was initially a bit annoyed she was here so thought that might ease the transition a bit. She is not that fussed with the resident cat - lays with him and occasionally tries to play but he isn't keen and stomps off bless him! He's isn't mean and she doesn't seem scared. He's never in during the day because he's not loyal and prefers my elderly neighbours sun room

I love her to bits but I would like to sit down without a moutfull of cat hair and sleep without waking with a start to find her half on my face...

Will it fade? It seems to be getting worse....

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BirdhouseInYourSoul · 14/10/2014 16:09

Ps, this is her in the crook of my arm/across my chest which is a favourite spot of hers.

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cozietoesie · 14/10/2014 16:50

I was going to ask whether you knew if she had Siamese/oriental in her - but with those ears in the picture, I won't bother.

You're describing the story of my life since I was knee high to a donkey.

They calm down a bit if that's any consolation but you'll get used to it. (In fact, moggies sometimes worry me because they're so 'undemonstrative' compared to my personal boys.)

vestandknickers · 14/10/2014 16:55

Take out a restraining order.

She's gorgeous by the way.

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BirdhouseInYourSoul · 14/10/2014 17:19

cozietoesie I have no idea what she is - are you saying she is a bit siamese then?

Vestandknickers I feared she'd been in Cat Jail within an hour for breeching the order!

My older cat is a long haired thing that came to us at 18 months old. He rarely shows any love for us so this has been a bit of a shock!

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BirdhouseInYourSoul · 14/10/2014 17:20

This is a rare picture of her not on me...

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cozietoesie · 14/10/2014 17:41

Well it's certainly Siamese behaviour. (As an example, I have a very elderly Seniorboy sitting next to me gazing rapturously at my face and purring - even though I've put his tea down on the ground and he could be going for that.)

You can say a forcible No by the way. (Then she'll turn away very hurt and you'll likely feel a complete rotter!)

wantacatplease · 14/10/2014 17:46

Nothing to add but . I want a cat (!) who won't leave me alone.

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BirdhouseInYourSoul · 14/10/2014 17:48

I have just looked up Siamese characteristics....

I'm not sure I'm ready for this kind of commitment

She does seem to be ticking some of the boxes so must be a bit of a mix.

The other problem is that she is obsessed with our food. Particularly Toast or bread products.

She will swipe it from my hand given half the chance!

I have been very firm about that and she is out of the room for meal times now but you'd think she was being murdered out there. Even dreamies in a treat ball don't distract her if she realises she doesn't have access to me.

If I cave in and let her in the bathroom when I'm in the tub she will sit on the edge and even try and climb onto my knees.

Honestly, it's like having a toddler all over again!

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sashh · 16/10/2014 07:29

You are describing my cat to a T.

She now likes lots of cuddles first thing - yep I'm typing round her, then goes out for most of the day before returning and sleeping on me, in bed.

I have known her curl up on the side of the bath when I'm in it and she hates it if I shut the bathroom door.

Mine's a tabby stray, although I have wondered if she is a Bengal cross

Oh and she will sometimes leap on me, into my arms if I see her about to jump or sometimes I just feel claws in my back.

Good luck with her.

Fluffycloudland77 · 16/10/2014 18:35

Look on youtube for "our siamese cats at shower time". It proves there's always someone worse off than you.

cozietoesie · 16/10/2014 19:04

I've really been laughing my head off at that.

(But those are two very unhappy cats and the boy is making the girl even worse. Did you notice that she isn't talking to them hardly at all?)

JacobJacobson · 16/10/2014 19:10

I hope you're not planning to work from home at any point...

how it will go

Ps she's gorgeous

cozietoesie · 16/10/2014 19:13

ACheesePuff · 16/10/2014 19:15

Ah, she's lovely. doesn't look siamese to me, she is just a moggy and will grow into her ears. My cats had big ears as kittens but not now.

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BirdhouseInYourSoul · 16/10/2014 20:25

They are great videos but Yep, working from home is going to be hard I think!

DD is currently sat at the table doing her homework. The kitten is in the hood of her jumper! It was a compromise apparently.

She did ask if I still had DS's sling around but there is no way I want to start that.

I'm just happy she's given me nearly an hours peace to read to/bath and bed DS.

I'm not sure what she is. She does seem to have the makings of a wedge shaped head and the long limbs of a siamese but she's just a moggy with it somewhere in the line as far as I'm concerned.

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tabulahrasa · 17/10/2014 02:45

My moggy is completely indifferent to me (she's affectionate with DD, but I'm just the food and door lady) as a kitten she was permanently attached to me, to the point that if I moved while she was sleeping next to me I had just enough time to run upstairs and pee before she'd wake up and I could hear her looking for me.

As she got older, she just became more interested in doing cat things and started sloping off to sleep on the clean washing instead.

So it could just be that she's still a baby and you're mum.

My Siamese was actually less clingy than her as a kitten as she hadn't decided which one of us was her person yet.

Btw...my Siamese does that if she manages to get in the bathroom while I'm in the shower or bath, if she's on the other side of the door she's fine, she sometimes waits outside the door, but quietly and not unhappily. Mostly she sleeps in the bedroom with the hot water pipe running through it till I come out.

If she gets in the bathroom, she paces and shouts at me...I've translated it as - you're in the wet, look, look, there's wet all over you, no, seriously, the wet, you're actually in it, come on, come on, I'll save you by calling you out of it and so on.

QOD · 17/10/2014 06:37

My cat comes in and out of the bathroom. Stands on my legs in the bath for a drink, meows endlessly when he comes in. We have to talk back

Meow. Hello
Meow. Hello
Meow. Hello

About 6 times is the minimum. If you don't answer, he'll walk right up and stare until you crack

sashh · 17/10/2014 07:27

tabulahrasa

My friend's old cat would walk along the edge and pat the water as if to tell her that there was water and it was nasty.

tabulahrasa · 17/10/2014 08:38

no, she wouldn't actually touch the water....lol.

cozietoesie · 17/10/2014 08:50

Many years back, Twoago landed on me in the bath one night when he wasn't expecting water. That was .......interesting.

I suppose that cozietowers must be a noisy place to someone coming to it new. (I'm used to it.) Cats - especially Siamese because they simply talk more - are always answered ie every single miaow/yowl generates a response.

I'm not saying that these conversations are Shakespearean in content - I can go for hours on variations of 'Unh Huh', 'Really?' amd 'What?' - but if they're taking the time to tell me about something, I can hardly ignore them. That woman in the shower was doing just that so no wonder her two Siamese were antsy.

sashh · 17/10/2014 09:54

Cozie

Charlie (stout tuxedo cat - no hint of Siamese) would have complete conversations with me. He had a wide vocabulary and I'd be doing the, "really? what did you say back?"

tabulahrasa · 17/10/2014 10:02

Oh yes, I talk to mine... Mostly I say meow

To be fair, I did hear her speak a couple of times , she definitely said something like, yes ok, I'm coming and something else like that...I'm assuming she was just a bit busy actually showering, lol.

cozietoesie · 17/10/2014 10:41

......I'm assuming she was just a bit busy actually showering.....

No sense of the correct priorities when you share a house with Siamese or other cats.

TeenagersDriveMeMad · 17/10/2014 10:55

I don't get shouted at by mine when in the shower/bath as he gets in and joins you! Completely un-concerned by water and enjoys a swim in the bath.

Given the fact that, at 4.5 months, he's currently the same size as the average moggie we've decided he's probably a Bengal cross (he was a stray kitten).

tabulahrasa · 17/10/2014 11:01

"No sense of the correct priorities when you share a house with Siamese or other cats. "

yes there is that, lol

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