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dtsmum · 03/10/2014 09:24

In November 2012 my lovely aunt passed away leaving her elderly cat. My mum took the cat to live with her. Sadly, my mum passed away in April last year so we brought the cat to live with us. She wasn't in the best of health so DH and I took her to the vets to rule out any major problems. She was found to have a b12 deficiency (which we have under control with steroids) but other than that all was fine. In the summer of last year we noticed she was passing blood in her urine so rushed her back to the vets. Since then she has had one urine infection after another, she has no control over her bladder and wee's wherever she sits/sleeps. We have had to ban her from most of the rooms in the house and as a result she now sleeps on the stairs. The hallway smells of urine. Me and DS gave her a shower yesterday as the vet warned of urine burn. This morning she smells so bad it's hard to be near her, her lovely white fur is tinged with brown stains. DH thinks the best thing to do is have her PTS, I'm crying just thinking about it but am I being selfish keeping her going because of who's cat she was/is? She is 18/19 and has arthritis but is still eating, washing and grumping her way along. It's just the bladder issues that are a problem.

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Sparklingbrook · 03/10/2014 09:30

I think it sounds like it may be time. I'm sorry. The cat has lost control of her functions and having a shower can't be fun for her. She's a really good age for a cat.

Totally understand your feelings as the cat was your Aunt/Mum's, but it sounds as if you need to make the kindest decision for the cat, and for you. Your house now smells of cat urine, it's really not a good situation. Sad

Maybe talk it over with the vet.

((hugs))

FoxSticks · 03/10/2014 09:38

Sad I'm so sorry but I think Sparkling is right and It's time. It sounds like she has had a wonderful life with you, your aunt and your mum but it's time to say goodbye to her now. It's such a hard decision to make but best for your lovely little cat.

Sparklingbrook · 03/10/2014 09:41

If you do have to have her PTS, it doesn't diminish what your Mum did for your Aunt and subsequently what you did for both of them. All 3 of you ensured that the cat had the best, long life possible. Smile That's a wonderful thing.

unlucky83 · 03/10/2014 09:55

Another one saying maybe its time ...
You have to do the best for her and think if she is still happy - and cats being very clean animals she probably isn't....and showers, sleeping on the stairs isn't the best....does she really have a good quality of life?

I had my old girl cat PTS when, I was told, she could live for a few more months but would need medication and regular trips to the vets. She really hated being in the car (used to soil herself and have panic attacks)...
I thought would I like to spend my last days on earth being traumatised every 2 weeks? just for a few more months of breathing - and I wouldn't...

Talk to the vet Flowers

dtsmum · 03/10/2014 09:59

Thank you for your replies. I just spoke to my Dad and he said the same as you. I guess it's time to discuss this with DS now, we're both massive animal lovers (more so than Dh) and I know he'll be upset. But you're right, this isn't a good way for any of us. Thank you again Thanks

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