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Major lesson learned - the sad way

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Ahardyfool · 22/09/2014 19:36

We've had a very sad day today - which happens to be DS2's birthday.

Last night, after we finished making DS's bike (his birthay present) up, I went to shut up everywhere and found our 18 month old cat outside under our garden bench. At first I thought she was intently watching spiders or crane flies as she was looking down and very hunched up but within moments I knew something was wrong. On closer inspection she was hobbled over in pain and I could see she looked wet.

I got her into the light and she was covered in blood and unable to put her back paw down. We bundled her up in a blanket and took her to our bedroom away from the other pets and we could see that her back leg was badly damaged - it looked as though it had been caught in a trap or something as there was a semi circular sort of mark and the paw was stripped down to ligaments and looked very limp and kind of crushed.

I rang the emergency vet - who other than registering was completely unknown to us as we moved here just under a month ago. He asked if we wanted to bring her now or wait until morning but I just knew it had to be there and then despite the fact it was nearly midnight.

Anyway, the upshot was that Loki had a broken leg below the hock - still to be Xrayed and 'fixing' discussions to be had in the morning. I left her there with a huge bandage and pain relief and antibiotics and we briefly spoke about amputation. Spent the rest of the night googling the scenarios.

Here comes the lesson learned part: we hadn't insured her, in part due to lack of organisation but also a reticence in contributing to the insurance culture which we all seem so bound up in. I quickly forgot my principles on the subject when faced with the moral and financial dilemma before me.

So, today... we learn that the treatment will be upwards of 800 if we go the simple route of amputation, and that if we are able to go for pins and wires and skin grafts, who knows. The vet also mentioned the 284.00 owing from last night.

DP and i had already agreed that 600 was the limit. Actually, he'd said 200-300 so I trebled it and vowed to keep it a secret between me and Loki. My budget wouldn't cut it, and having just moved house and having had my car written off in the last 4 weeks, we had no ready cash anyway.

I told the vet we had no option other than to put her to sleep and I started to question the life of a 3 legged cat which in the early hours of this morning I had espoused with great confidence to DP who was lesssure of how well the tail serves as a leg replacement.

Then the vet throws us a lifeline which, as I sit here now, feels very painful, and that is that we could sign her over to the surgery who would then recover the costs from the Cats Protection League. The catch was that we would have to agree to her being rehomed upon recovery. I phoned DP at work and we agreed it was a no brainer. I told the Birthday boy as if it was good knews, knowing it really wasn't and shot off to hand over our cat.

I'm due to call on Friday to find out how the surgery and recovery went, but she's not our cat anymore. It feels like the ultimate chastisement for not having her insured.

Feeling like a failure of an cat owner.

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LizzieMint · 22/09/2014 19:39

I'm so so sorry, what an awful thing to have happened. It must be absolutely heartbreaking for you.

Fluffycloudland77 · 22/09/2014 19:44

That's an awful, awful thing to happen.

The vet must have been a cat lover to offer that though, rather than pts.

ErrolTheDragon · 22/09/2014 19:53

I'm so sorry.

Between your quick action getting Loki treated and the vet finding a solution, this isn't nearly as tragic a tale as it could have been. It's very brave of you to come on here and give others the benefit of this terribly painful experience and maybe save someone else from worse. Flowers

Yama · 22/09/2014 19:58

If it makes you feel better, I know a very happy 3 legged cat. She'll be fine.

Ahardyfool · 22/09/2014 20:15

Thanks everyone. I read my post back and realised it was lacking any real conclusion or question, and was probably just me off loading today's tale of woe.

But, seriously if you're like me, and reluctant,just pay the blinking insurance companies!! Or, have a rainy day fund. We were doing the latter, but used all our savings on the move.

And, if anyone in the Surrey area is looking for a wonderful soon to be 3 legged companion (the vet said she was lovely) maybe check out the CPL pages in the coming week. Fingers crossed she has a successful surgery.

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KatieKaye · 22/09/2014 20:20

OH my. That really proves what a lovely person you are, putting the cat first.
It won't help the loss you are feeling, but take comfort in the fact you did the right thing. Thanks

Fluffycloudland77 · 22/09/2014 20:27

Maybe someone related to you will adopt her?.

wantacatplease · 22/09/2014 20:29

I really wish I was in Surrey. Sad

Steben · 22/09/2014 20:32

Can you not adopt her back? Does this really have to be goodbye?

AlpacaLypse · 22/09/2014 20:34

I'm confused. What happened to the PDSA? Can the CPL not fund emergency operations for cats without taking ownership? Can the CPL not allow you, the original owners, to re-adopt Loki? After all you appear to be good owners - crap owners would have allowed him to suffer!

florencedombey · 22/09/2014 20:37

Hi, we adopted both our cats as adults, via the RSPCA. Both had had operations whilst in the care of the RSPCA, and I've often wondered if their back stories are similar to Loki's. They have cost us a fortune in vet fees as neither problem actually resolved fully following the initial treatment via the RSPCA.

I don't know if this is any comfort, but our cats are very much loved (and spoiled!) by DH and I. We don't begrudge a penny of the vet bills and I'd really like their previous owners to know that their cats are being very well cared for. You are doing the right thing to give Loki the chance of a new life. I can't imagine how hard the decision must be though.

carlywurly · 22/09/2014 20:43

Oh, I'm sorry, that sounds traumatic for all concerned.

We have an adopted 3 legged cat from our vets. He's a real character and manages brilliantly.

Other than us having to hoist him up on to our laps as he can't jump and drags with his claws - ouch, and not over feed him to save him bearing too much weight, he's no different. He's bloody nippy round the house too. Smile

BonaDea · 22/09/2014 20:50

That is such a sad story. Sorry about poor loki's leg.

If it is any consolation, cats protection league are excellent. They home check everyone and also charge a fee for cats so the person who gets Loki will really want her and love her

Good luck.

Ahardyfool · 22/09/2014 20:51

I know this sounds crap but we both work and have okay wages so we certainly wouldn't qualify for 'assistance'. It would be wrong of us to even think of asking for financial aid from the PDSA. We are not well off but we cover our bills with a bit of jiggery pokery each month, and had I not the var crash last month and lost 3 weeks of wages on moving due to BT not installing internet properly on moving then we could have paid for the treatment. Things have just conspired against us.

That said, I do feel I had to make a very fast decision so that one way or another so that Loki would be out of pain quickly and this seemed the best thing to do rather than wrangle over money which wasn't available and won't be for a good few months yet.

I had been thinking of phoning the CPL once we hear that Loki has made it through the op. and asking if they'd let us make a monthly donation to them and us have her back but then something keeps telling me to accept that I let Loki down by not affording her treatment and that they will feel she deserves an owner that is able to foot the bill in her hour of need.

I should also add that whilst upset, DP did feel more than me that there was a monetary threshold we should not cross as when I said what if we could offer the vet monthly payments at whatever cost (even though they have a sign saying they do not do this under any circumstances) he said "no! We will get into debt as we only have enough to cover the basics as it is" :(

We have now added our other cat to the insurance, needless to say.

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Ahardyfool · 22/09/2014 20:55

It's really comforting to know that she will have another lovely cosy home eventually judging by your anecdotes!

I keep telling myself that maybe a quieter home would be better for her once she is mended as we are a busy house with a 5 year old who likes to drag the cats into her dens with her (albeit with great willing from the cats). I told DS that maybe an older family would have her and that would be perfect as she could sit on their laps all day.

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TheHobbit · 22/09/2014 20:56

Can not one of us adopt her and give her back to you? Sorry if I sound naive. I love cats so much and have no other words than to say how sorry I am. At least she won't die. There must be a way that we could help.

spiderlight · 22/09/2014 20:56

So sorry :(

ACheesePuff · 22/09/2014 20:59

Couldn't you have borrowed the money?

I would have rather got into debt than have my cat put to sleep.

monopoly123 · 22/09/2014 21:02

Can you agree a payment plan with the vet?

chansondumatin · 22/09/2014 21:53

So sorry to hear this. If it's any consolation, please don't worry about how your cat will manage on three legs. We had cat who lost a back leg as a kitten and lived to a grand old age (eighteen). They really do adapt very well, and being a young cat will help with that. Ours went out all the time, caught mice, and was still jumping onto beds and sofas until a few weeks before he died.

Hope your Loki finds a lovely home.

Hoppinggreen · 22/09/2014 21:58

I used to Homecheck for the cpl and we ask lots of questions and visit the adopters at home to see which cat would suit them best so I'm sure Loki will find a really good new home.
Sorry this happened but he will be ok

IHaveBrilloHair · 22/09/2014 21:59

That's awful, but for other readers, it's not always so expensive.
My cat has just had her leg, and a toe amputated, and it was £360, which included a four night stay, and all follow up treatment.

I do hope you manage to get your cat home, I know how much they are part of the family.

Ahardyfool · 24/09/2014 23:03

Going to phone vet tomorrow and find out if the op has been successful and take it from there. Thanks for understanding everyone.

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PillForgettingIdiot · 24/09/2014 23:15

im so sorry, this is heartbreaking.

Thecrazy88 · 25/09/2014 09:19

I'm really sorry this has happened to you. Others will disagree with me I know, but there's no way I could justify that kind of expense either and I think you have done the right thing. We are quite 'hard-headed' when it comes to pets, and agree that we will do our bit in keeping ours healthy and safe, but if it comes down to it we would rather pts than keep our vets in BMWs. I think there is a danger of anthropomorphising too much - however much you love them and feel that they are 'part of the family', they are, after all, just cats! Smile I hope your dcs are ok about it.