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Catnapping

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BigPawsBrown · 27/04/2014 20:51

Long backstory and many posts on here but situation with neighbours has finally come to a head.

They had been feeding him (they had Dreamies there with them despite owning. I catsHmm) then told me they stopped that but my ginger tom Benjamin was still spending 15 hours a day with them.

She told me the other day that she only ever lets him in when he "asks" and always leaves the door open, but he never comes when he's called unless I text her and ask her to let him out so the door can't be open as if he could hear his biscuits he'd come.

was hanging washing out in spare room and saw him on their shed. I opened window and called him and he stretched and started towards me. Got down into their garden and she comes outside, picks him up, takes him inside and shuts door.

I text her and she said she would let him out but that he didn't like to leave her house... Then text to say he was outside but wailing to go in and if I called him he should come (he didn't). Still no sign!

So now am in process of drafting text saying have been patient but he's not her cat and stop letting him in! Is this wording ok? AIBU asking for her to stop letting him in?

"Hi, sorry to hassle you but would you mind not letting benny in anymore? I know you like his company and it will be hard for him but we hardly see him at the moment and are trying to get him to learn this is his home as he is often a bit distressed/anxious. Know it will be hard but think it's best for him x"

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cozietoesie · 27/04/2014 23:27

Have you spoken to/interacted with her DH/DP ?

cozietoesie · 27/04/2014 23:29

Not really awful. You're in a war situation with an actually unwell cat depending on you.

(Sorry if I have to go off - I'm cleaning and sorting computers here.)

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BigPawsBrown · 27/04/2014 23:31

He's ok, they were mostly just laughing and joking about how often benny is there. He's working now; he wasn't in the autumn. Benny greets him at his car apparently when he works late shifts and comes in the front door with him....

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cozietoesie · 27/04/2014 23:31

PS - Seniorboy has taken to the duvet in disgust. He's jealous of the laptops and two on the bed at once is just too much for him.

cozietoesie · 27/04/2014 23:33

He's the soft underbelly then. Direct all comms to him.

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BigPawsBrown · 27/04/2014 23:34

I hope you sort your computers out (if only to please seniorboy).

I only have her number; perhaps should go over there and speak to both of them/him?

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cozietoesie · 27/04/2014 23:43

I wouldn't - but that's just me. I'd rather deal with things in writing, dispassionately, unless I could judge that a meet would be productive.

Your call. (At this stage.)

cozietoesie · 27/04/2014 23:46

PS - Did they respond to the text? Maybe she kept it to herself and your next thing should be to hand him a letter - as he's going to work, say?

cozietoesie · 27/04/2014 23:51

PPS

I'm in many minds here. Someone who is so insensitive to other people and to an animal's needs likely has some problems. Your immediate concern will/must be for Benjamin but there are layers to this.

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BigPawsBrown · 27/04/2014 23:55

No response yet and she usually responds immediately.

I know... I don't think she is very happy, but neither is Benjamin when he is scratching at the door and when he comes home too full to move Hmm

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cozietoesie · 27/04/2014 23:59

Your concern is Benjamin, remember that. You're all he has in his corner.

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BigPawsBrown · 28/04/2014 00:01

Aw yes Confused

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cozietoesie · 28/04/2014 00:11

Well - you and the Litter Tray that is. You're not alone.

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BigPawsBrown · 28/04/2014 00:29

That's lovely, thank you Smile I'll keep you updated

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BigPawsBrown · 28/04/2014 19:38

Here is Benjamin in his new attire. Still no text response.

Catnapping
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Fluffycloudland77 · 28/04/2014 19:59

Oh he is wearing that collar.

WitchWay · 28/04/2014 21:42

If she's shutting him in her house, she is breaking the law.

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BigPawsBrown · 05/05/2014 23:45

Update: the neighbours never responded to my text and I haven't seen them. Benjamin has been around slightly more often but is still sometimes out in their house for ten hour stretches Hmm

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cozietoesie · 05/05/2014 23:58

I have that old Catgate feeling coming over me. Do they seem otherwise sane, BigPaws?

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BigPawsBrown · 06/05/2014 00:00

Not really no!

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cozietoesie · 06/05/2014 00:01

I mean - are there any obvious signs of insanity?

cozietoesie · 06/05/2014 00:02

Or anti-social behaviour. (Not fussy here.)

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BigPawsBrown · 06/05/2014 00:05

No. Just a bit feckless. Privately rented house but neither work. Lots of inane smiling as they told me all about where Pudding (Benjamin) sleeps. They never ever ever go out.

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cozietoesie · 06/05/2014 00:23

Registered letter now, I think. (Keeping copies for yourself for future use.) Other posters may have thoughts about the process as well.

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