My poor cat is dying...

[HellsGranny]

I don't mean right this minute but basically she has a 4cm mass on her liver, her abdomen is absolutely enormous with accumulated fluid & there's nothing the vet can do for her. Without opening her up they don't know what the mass is and the vet said they doubted they could treat it anyway. It's just a case of keeping her comfortable for as long as possible. She's 15, I've had her for 14 years. My other cat, her mother, died in October.

I've no idea how long she has, but everytime I see her I cry & I don't want it to be like this, I want to enjoy our time but I'm just devastated. We only got the news this week and I'm hoping that once it's sunk in I can 'get used' to the idea & enjoy our time together.
I can't bear to lose another one so soon.

We got another cat as a companion but that hasn't worked out & now I feel really guilty that her last however long will be miserable because of the new cat.

I'm so so so sorry for you and your cat. I lost my 13 yo boy cat to exactly the same thing a few months ago. My heart goes out to you

Poor her and you all. How is she apart from her swelling?

Hells I am really sorry, I have a similar situation at the moment with an ailing old cat and my other ancient one died in September, I had had her for 18 years

It is very hard to watch them get older & weaker after they have been such loyal companions for so many years, I still well up when I think about my old girl cat even though she was old, ill and the kindest decision was to have her put to sleep.

Try to keep her comfortable & remember the good times, I maybe tried a bit too hard with my older cat to "treat" her and in fact her last few weeks were a bit medicalised, different painkillers, fancy food for renal diets (which she hated) etc - so with my other cat (17, blind, high blood pressure) I'm giving him anything he wants to eat, no more blood tests, keep vet input to a minimum for keeping him comfortable only and be ready to have him put to sleep as soon as it looks as if his quality of life is slipping downwards

It can be really stressful, I found I got quite focussed on the welfare of my first cat and every minor change in her condition towards the end of her life - it was emotionally exhausting, so make sure you look after yourself as well

I'm so sorry, I also recently lost my funny little boy Ollie to the exact same thing. He was about 12. My advice would be - let her eat what she wants, sleep where she wants, go out when she wants. Ollie had diabetes and had spent years on a restricted diet, so once we knew he was on borrowed time we thought, bugger it, let him enjoy the time he's got left. He was allowed Dreamies, bits of fatty meat, cheese - all the stuff that had been off limits for so long, and he absolutely loved it. We let him out whenever he sat at the door, even if it was raining. He slept wherever he was comfy. I took him to the vet the day he stopped eating and didn't want to get up. Huge hugs to you and your sweet kitty.

At the moment she's ok, still very cuddly & purry. Not eating a great deal but she is eating. Am just going to spoil her rotten. It's just so flipping hard.

It is hard. Seniorboy is well-ish but he's an old, old cat now so unless something is actively bad for him, he gets it if he wants it. Spoiled Rotten No 2.

Have a good last time with her and look after yourself.

My little old lady cat is on her way out. She's 15, deaf, has dementia and her kidneys are knackered (on lifetime meds). We recently had some capsules to try and help with the dementia, but she hates taking them and it's become a trial for her. If they don't help in a few weeks, I'm not going to bother as she's fairly OK otherwise, just gets lost and distracted.

She might as well just coast along until The Time comes.

When my old boy was dying I let him do whatever he wanted and eat whatever he fancied. It was the least I could do.