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I found my darling Barnaby dead this morning.

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PipkinsPal · 30/11/2013 16:09

Barnaby didn't come home on Thursday night and it was totally out of character. I walked around his usual haunts. Up again at 7.45 on Friday to look for him and at 1.30pm when I came home from work - nothing. I later on went around the houses asking if anyone had seen him - nothing. This morning at 8 I had a telephone call from a lady who lives around the corner to say she could see him and he looked injured. I went to where he was and he was dead but he had been horribly mauled probably by a fox. It is tormenting me that he could have crawled away after being injured by a car and a fox killed him and I didn't get to him in time because his little body was still pliable. I buried him in the garden and when I came home an hour ago, someone has put a red rose on his grave. His brother Troy is missing him and I am crying as I write this.

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Queenofknickers · 30/11/2013 16:10

I'm so so so sorry for your loss ThanksThanksThanksThanksThanks

Syllabubble · 30/11/2013 16:14

PipkinsPal, sending you a big hug.

cozietoesie · 30/11/2013 16:17

So sorry Pipkins.

I think the very strong likelihood is that he was knocked out by a car (they're huge compared to a cat so even a glancing blow would do massive damage) and then died. Foxes aren't usually that brave to tackle a living animal - so don't distress yourself more than you need. It would likely have been after he died.

Who placed the lovely rose on his grave?

Hassled · 30/11/2013 16:20

I'm so sorry - but you did do absolutely everything you could have done.

SilverApples · 30/11/2013 16:20

I'm so sorry, losing a cat like this is heartwrenching.
But rigor does wear off, so he could have been killed instantly by the car.

Greydog · 30/11/2013 16:24

So sorry to read this, much love to you

BananaNotPeelingWell · 30/11/2013 16:27

Sad Im so so sorry. Your poor boy. Poor you and TroySad. He sounds an incredibly loved and special friend.

talulahbelle · 30/11/2013 16:27

I'm so so sorry for you loss. Hugs and look after yourself.

PipkinsPal · 30/11/2013 16:31

Thanks for your kind messages. I don't think he was killed instantly by a car because where I found him he wasn't there when I looked for him earlier. Sad That's why I am tormenting myself that I could have hunted for him in the undergrowth and found him and got him the care he needed. I don't know who left the rose. It was probably one of my neighbours, Sue or Rose a lovely gesture.

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SummerRain · 30/11/2013 16:33

I'm so sorry Flowers

Please don't torment yourself with 'what if's', you did everything you could have.

cozietoesie · 30/11/2013 16:35

You did everything you could. And the fact that his body had been moved is neither here nor there - a fox could have dragged it there from the side of the road. Don't torment yourself.

What a lovely thing from one of your neighbours - he was obviously much loved.

EustaciaVye · 30/11/2013 17:39

Sad please dont torment yourself any further. It sounds like Barnaby was very much loved and he would have had a very good life because of that.

Go and buy a plant in flower at the moment so each year it will flower and remind you what a lovely part of the family he was.

FelineExtraStrong · 30/11/2013 17:44

Very sorry Pipkins. Thanks

Brussel · 30/11/2013 17:44

I'm so sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you

fackinell · 30/11/2013 17:54

So so sorry, Pipkins. It's terribly sad to lose our beloved pets. The foxes around my way were pretty scared of other animals and people. I doubt they would have gone for Barnaby if he had still been alive (even with an injury.) Give Troy and extra big hug and know you gave Barnaby a great life and cared enough to look for him at every opportunity. Thanks

TamzinGrey · 30/11/2013 18:04

I am so sorry Pipkins. Please don't torment yourself about how he died. Cozie is right - the most likely scenario is that poor Barnaby was killed in the road instantly, and then dragged away by a fox.

ThistledownAndCobweb · 30/11/2013 18:18

I'm so sorry.

coffeeandcream · 30/11/2013 18:28

I'm crying for you Sad. Much love to you and Troy

bumbumsmummy · 30/11/2013 18:38

Oh pipkins so sorry for your loss

MrsBradfield · 30/11/2013 20:46

So so sorry for your loss. :(

TheNunsOfGavarone · 30/11/2013 21:56

I'm so sorry to hear about your lovely boy Barnaby. Losing them hurts so much and these circumstances sound particularly sad. Huge sympathy to you and your family.

timtam23 · 30/11/2013 23:46

So very sorry to hear about Barnaby Thanks

Putitonthelist · 01/12/2013 13:08

So sorry to hear about your loss OP, my heart goes out to you. ((Hugs)) x

Petal02 · 01/12/2013 14:06

I'm so sorry to read this. I agree with the posters who think he most likely died instantly, and knew absolutely nothing about it, and was then moved by the fox.

Big hugs.

NearTheWindmill · 01/12/2013 14:13


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