Is this fate?

[MrsDeadfield]

Saw a lovely cat on rspca cardiff website, just missed out on her, as was reserved same day I enquirer, she has now become available again as didn't get on with the cat she was rehomed with, have asked if I can arrange home visit as desperate for new cat since losing mine in April, she is just what we're looking for, is this fate?

ahh sweet - like my old cat mojo :)

Haha thanks all!

Lovely cat, hope she settles in well. Keep us posted!

awww shes georgous and so glad to see you picked a tuxedo cos black and white cats tend to get overlooked at shelters

Interestingly, issey, I happen to have noticed over the past week that black and whites are now being used far more in advertising. It used to be that the two litters I use had gingers on the packet. Now there's a black and white and a dark tabby and white.

On television also, gingers seem to have been replaced with black and whites.

I don't know whether this is 'behind-the-scenes' cat organization lobbying or the staff at the advertising firms themselves - but there does seem to have been a change.

(Sorry for the slight hijack, OP.)

Brought my new girl home today, she was fairly on edge most of evening which is completely understandable, but has eaten and is currently tucked up at the end of our bed, so settling in has started. New pic on profile :)

She is a beaut

What a cute kitty! Please keep us posted as to how she's doing...:)

Aw! New cat envy !

I love black & whites. I had two beautiful b&w boys with the best personalities. I still miss them.
We now have two prima donna tabbies

Just a quick update, we will have had Judy two weeks on mon, and let me tell you it's not been without its high and low points. She seems to be finally settling in and is a million percent calmer than she was when we first got her, she is lovely 99% of the time and is eating and going to the toilet fine, she loves to play and can be very affectionate (on her terms)

Low point was on thurs, we have noticed that she can sometimes be aggressive on a whim with not much warning and with no reason necessarily, thurs night she came to bed with myself and partner as usual (has done every night since arrival) and was purring and very up for petting. She was lying in between us and I moved my arm down by my side as you do, and she attacked me extremely visciously to the extent I had to throw her off my arm as she was biting and peddling with back legs, turned light on and I had 5 scratches 1 of which was really quite deep and a puncture wound on the top of my hand from her tooth, I antiseptic wiped my hand and plastered as bleeding was profuse. She ran and hid.

She prior go this had been less aggressive but still quite bitey, but this attack made me and my partner question whether to keep her as due follow up home visit for paperwork on mon, we were on the verge of agreeing to not keep her as wouldn't want attacks like this on a regular basis, and believe this is the reason why she was previously returned twice to rspca.

However I said to see how she was on weekend and make decision on mon and give her the weekend as we do really love her and would feel like we were letting her down returning her, well today she has been fine, so I'm hoping tomorrow will be good too, as we don't really want to return her.,

Anyway have read this could be something called petting aggression when
Re cats get over stimulated from stroking and it winds them up? Does anyone have any ideas? We got her a new scratching post and a nice brush today to try and encourage her to associate stroking/grooming as a good thing, and she has lots of play and run of house, hasn't shown any interest in going out and we do want to try to keep her In as last cat was run over so would rather not have a repeat.

Sorry didn't mean it to be so long, would be grateful for any positive ideas!

No biting in bed is one of my 3 house rules. Which may sound daft to some people but it's an exclusion sin in our house no matter the provocation. (And trust me, I would want to bite me at times, I'm such a restless sleeper and general PITA in bed.)

Usually, it's just complete excitement and over stimulation - all wound up and nowhere to go etc - but whatever the cause, I immediately pick the cat up brusquely and firmly, put them outside the bedroom and shut the door. After 20 minutes, the door is opened and I go back to bed. No talking to the cat or calling it but usually a small body meekly comes back to bed within a minute or two and sneaks quietly into bed for the rest of the night. And repeat as necessary.

She's probably just so thrilled to be with loving people that she can't contain herself - but who knows that she may also have been badly socialized when younger. It sounds as if she's had a rough life and may not know all the rules. You should probably refrain completely from petting and stroking in bed/going to bed in order to keep the atmosphere low key - but maybe also try the exclusion technique. I'd be interested to know whether it works with non-Siamese.

Mine does that, I had to peel him off me a couple of days ago.

It's usually over stimulation, it's not a sign she's a bad cat.

Sorry - I should have added. I'd recommend keeping things low key around the house as well, let alone in bed. If you've got a cat who is potentially going to be over stimulated, I'd always let her make the running with any request for love. Just keep things calm and regular - and watch her body language so that you learn when she's getting edgy.

Dcat does that to DH as well when he's been stroking her (or winding her up) he used to do it as it was cute when she was an 8 week old kitten with tiny claws and teeth. At 12 years he finds it less cute and more painful. However it's his own fault as she doesn't do it to me as I never allowed it and stuck her outside (in the kitchen) like previous poster, she is also an Asian/Siamese cross.

Yeah she seems to prefer it if she comes to us for a fuss, rather than us want to cuddle her, the no fuss in bed is interesting as she tends to do the hunting and jumping on feet but we have been ignoring her when she does this, then she tends to come and sit on one of our chests/head purring madly so will let her do this and not pet.

I think as we don't know her history, bad or no socialisation may be a big factor as from what I know she was abandoned.

cozie will try your out of bed rule of she tries it again - thank you

Good luck. From what you say she's already improved a lot so plenty of potential there.