To adopt again or not?

[MrsHelsBels74]

I adopted my 2 girls 14 years ago. They were strays so their story wasn't known but they were thought to be mother & daughter.

Sadly, Maddy (the mother) passed away on Sunday. It was very unexpected even though she was an older cat.
My other cat (Buffy) seems so lost now. I don't know if she'd be happier with another cat or whether she's be totally put out. I just don't know what to do.

They've always been cuddly cats but this week she's barely left me alone, and she yowls for Maddy at night. It's heartbreaking.

I know it's all very recent but how long should I give her to see if she settles down? I'm happy to adopt another cat, I've always had more than one cat and I know another cat won't replace Maddy, but it might make things easier for Buffy.

Any thoughts?

Regardless of whether your cat actually needs a new friend, there will be 1000s of cats out there waiting to find a home! So I think you should go for it.

She wants Maddy - she may not give a toss about A.N.Cat coming to join her so it's a lottery really.

I'm sure she does, so sorry for yours and hers loss.
How is she normally with other cats, other than Maddy?

Well she's not that keen on the neighbours cats so I really don't want to upset her more, but she does seem so confused and lost.

I don't know then, I'm sure you know whats best for her.

She is grieving as are you. I would give yourselves a few weeks to settle down and see whether she is still lonely.
If you think she needs a friend cats protection should be able to help you find the right fit.

I'd give her a few more days to see how she gets on, keeping as best you can to your normal routine in the interim. Oh - and I'd let her stay inside as much as you can, maybe putting out a tray for her if she hasn't got one.

The lady over the road lost her 18 month old cat to the road. Her boy cat searched and searched for his sister. You used to see him looking for her, he wouldn't settle and you could even say he seemed depressed.

The lady was very reluctant to rock his boat because it was his sister he really wanted.

About 2 months later she got a kitten. He didn't seem impressed and the kitten hissed at him-poor boy.

That was a few months ago now and he is the best of friends with the kitten, and you can see him playing with her in the garden as he did his sister.

So it can work out but may take time. YY to asking the CP about it too, they are very good at matching cats and kittens with the right home.

((hugs))

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I add my voice to the chorus saying to give it a few weeks and see how Buffy (great name!) copes once she's over the initial shock. If she still seems lonely, and you want another cat, go for it.