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I can't get over my cat going missing :-(

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hiddenhome · 26/10/2013 22:59

It's about 7 weeks now. Still no sign of him.

I can't stop thinking about him and feel so hollow and empty. I know it sounds selfish, but I'd rather I knew he was dead than just not knowing.

When I'm out driving around the place, I keep looking at the side of the road in case I spot him.

How do I deal with this? He was such a part of the family. I don't know what's happened to him.

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KennyBanya · 26/10/2013 23:05

It's awful, isn't it. My friend's cat came home today after two weeks away. My gorgeous Tortie was shot and killed last week, with an air rifle. I am heartbroken with the emotional rollercoaster, and the fact that her brother is sitting on my knee now, pining.

He may come back. But that hollow feeling is bereavement and anxiety rolled into one. It will go away with time. Be kind to yourself.

Ruralninja · 26/10/2013 23:06

I'm so sorry you are going through this - I totally understand having gone through something similar. Maybe try to see it as the price that is sometimes paid for free will - in contrast to dogs, for example. They are their own masters to a degree and I'm sure your lovely cat had a wonderful life with you.

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hiddenhome · 26/10/2013 23:34

Oh I'm so sorry your cat was shot kennybanya Sad

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Lemsy · 26/10/2013 23:59

Oh you poor love, i do so feel for you, i would be beside myself. Have you put up posters? Was he chipped? When i worked as a gardener a young couple's cat went missing for weeks and did get found, he'd just got lost. Hopefully someone's looking after him and he'll find you again.

Lots of love xxx

crazynanna · 27/10/2013 00:07

So sorry hidden Sad

You know, not to give you false hope or anything, but I really have heard loads of stories of cats coming home weeks and months later. The most I heard was 18 months.

I do hope it's a happy ending. But yes...the not knowing is hard x

thecatneuterer · 27/10/2013 00:21

Lemsy - the OP has done everything conceivably possible (this is her second thread) and more besides.

Hidden - I know exactly how you are feeling and it is indescribably awful. There is nothing anyone can say to make it any better. I'm so, so, so sorry.

And crazynanna - one of mine turned up about four years later. I hadn't been so worried about him as he had been totally feral and he disappeared very shortly after he was released, so it wasn't as though it was out of character. As it turned out he had fallen in love with an old lady's cat down the road and so had moved in there.

Lemsy · 27/10/2013 01:32

Catneuterer, sorry, i hadn't seen her other thread.

Praying op's cat will come back to her x

Putitonthelist · 27/10/2013 09:10

I'm so sorry that there is still no sign of him OP x

I've been thinking about you and when I saw the thread title I knew straightaway it was you. Did you get any responses from the local paper?

Not knowing is the worst thing. When my cat went missing I can remember not wanting to leave the house in case she came back and I wasn't there. You feel so helpless and frustrated.

My cat only went missing for 5 days but on my search for her I spoke to many people who had or knew of cats that had been missing for much longer. I don't want to give you any false hope but it is possible he may come home - it's an absolute killer not knowing one way or the other though Sad

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hiddenhome · 27/10/2013 09:41

A couple of people did phone up, but the cats they'd seen weren't mine. A lovely lady phoned up a few days ago to see if I'd found him yet and suggested a couple of smaller animal rescue places that I could phone. I did phone them, but he wasn't there.

I feel that I ought to be out shouting for him at night, but he could be miles away by now. There's so much countryside round here with places to hide out.

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hiddenhome · 27/10/2013 09:51

I got myself a kitten you know. She's about five months old, free to good home off the internet. Her previous owner couldn't look after her properly because she got a new job and was out a lot.

She is black and white. I've had her chipped and vaccinated and she gets her operation in three weeks. We've had the fence heightened and I'm getting anti kitty escape things put on top of the fence so that she can't get out of the back garden. I can't face a repeat of this.

I miss my cat terribly. Having the kitten helps as I have something to cuddle. I pick her up when I get in and give her a kiss and she smells like biscuits and washing powder.

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Putitonthelist · 27/10/2013 12:27

Aww she sounds adorable. I'm glad she's helping you with that cat-shaped hole (shamelessly pinched from thecatneuterer) If my cat hadn't turned up that's what I would have done too.

nothruroad · 27/10/2013 19:43

I'm so sorry, hiddenhome. I've been thinking about you a lot since your last thread. Not knowing is just awful. I really hope you find some peace soon.

Fluffycloudland77 · 27/10/2013 20:03

I'm so sorry he's still missing hidden, I've wondered too if he's been found.

I'm glad you have a new cat to love and nurture though.

Eastwickwitch · 27/10/2013 20:09

My cat went missing for 2 months, I was distraught. We live in a tiny hamlet, everyone was looking for him.
I'd resigned myself to his disappearance then one day he walked into the garden.
Don't give up hope.

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