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Our cat just died

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LurcioLovesFrankie · 14/06/2013 17:14

He got hit by a car. Fortunately some extemely kind people went to the time and effort to take him to the local vets and they were able to contact us because he was microchipped.

DS and I are sitting on the sofa in floods of tears eating chocolates. We both feel so sad.

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cozietoesie · 14/06/2013 17:16

So sorry, Lurcio - it's very hard to bear. How nice of the people who took him to the vets so that you at least knew what had happened to him.

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Unfortunatelyanxious · 14/06/2013 17:18

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tuckingfits · 14/06/2013 17:18

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's always hard to lose a pet. However I'm pleased that some kind people took him to a vet & that they were able to contact you. I should think never knowing for sure what happened to your cat would have been even worse. Or discovering him yourselves. Not good.

Let all your tears out & I hope you & DS feel better soon.xx

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LurcioLovesFrankie · 14/06/2013 17:21

Yes, they didn't leave any contact details, so I think I'll put a postcard up in the local co-op saying thankyou just in case they see it.

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Mintyy · 14/06/2013 17:23

Oh that is so sad! I am terribly sorry.

Do you live near a main road? My heart goes in to my mouth when I see all the naughty cats running across the road where I live but its very quiet and we have speed bumps, so a cat would have to be unlucky to be hit here.

What a sad day for you Sad

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LurcioLovesFrankie · 14/06/2013 17:25

DS is 5. The vet is going to arrange to have him cremated, then I'll let DS choose where to scatter the ashes. You're so right that it's much better to know what happened. We went up to see the body - poor little Murphy. He was only about 3 (we don't know for sure as he was a rescue cat).

I just phoned the vet and they said it happened on the main road near where we lived - sadly some children saw it happen and were very upset.

We are both eating chocolates. Healthy eating is definitely not on the agenda.

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Deffodil · 14/06/2013 17:25

So sorry Lurcio.

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 14/06/2013 17:26

Aw so sorry :( poor cat.

How lovely that someone did the kind thing I hope they see your card..

Rip lurciocat xx sweet dreams

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WynkenBlynkenandNod · 14/06/2013 17:29

So sorry Sad. We lost one of ours to the road a few months ago. He was very young, not even two. There's a rose in the garden in memory of hm called Tranquility , it's just opening.

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LurcioLovesFrankie · 14/06/2013 17:32

Thanks, everyone, for taking the time to chat - it helps to talk to people about it. Hope I did the right thing taking DS to see his body - it felt like the right thing to do. (I did explain that he would probably be a bit squashed, and gave DS the choice - the vet had done a very good job of laying him out and covering the worst of the injuries with a blanket. Fortunately he died instantly by the sound of it).

The rose sounds lovely.

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deliasmithy · 14/06/2013 17:40

When I grew up I saw one of my cats after it was pts and I also saw one in the road shortly after it must have been hit. Whilst upsetting I appreciated knowing the truth because it helps you grieve. All were buried in the garden, bluebells planted on top and I buried a goodbye note and her favourite toy.
The bluebells still come up every year even though 20 years have passed.

teenagetantrums · 14/06/2013 17:48

So sorry for your lose, im sure you did the right thing with your DS, kids bounce back really well from pets dying as long as you tell them the truth. Chocolate is the best thing for upset so enjoy and remember your cat together. x

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 14/06/2013 17:53

You did the right thing letting him see him x they need that chance to say good bye and it helps them realise that they aren't coming back. Not saying they disbelieve what we tell them as parents but it can help them stop having the false hope its all going to be ok and face up to the loss of a pet which helps them move on.

Eat as much chocolate as you need. Xx

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LurcioLovesFrankie · 14/06/2013 17:58

Thanks for reassuring me that I did the right thing taking DS to see the body. Hopefully we will both bounce back.

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lurkedtoolong · 14/06/2013 21:55

So, so sorry for your loss Lurcio. I lost my boy to the road four weeks ago and it's a dreadful thing. You definitely did the right thing with your DS, it must have been tough for you both but being honest and up-front is always the best thing.

Wynken, your idea of a rose is lovely. I might do that myself as we haven't found our boy's body so a memorial rose is a great plan.

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LurcioLovesFrankie · 14/06/2013 22:11

Thanks, all. DS is asleep beside me in bed now, and I'm going to try to get some sleep.

We have some photos I took only the other day of DS with the cat on his knee, so that is a nice reminder. He was such a nice natured animal, very friendly and cuddly with a lovely purr. And of course he liked to "help" me type and play the piano.

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ClaraOswald · 14/06/2013 22:16

I'm so sorry.

It's one of the worst ways to lose a cat I think- I've had 2 family cats go that way.

jessjessjess · 15/06/2013 11:25

I'm so sorry for your loss - what an awful shock you've had.

You gave him a good life after a bad start and he would've been very grateful for it. RIP.

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