I am distraught.
Our gorgeous cat has been missing for a few days. It's only me and DS, he completed our little family.
I've just seen a poster on a nearby fence describing our cat, saying he'd been knocked over and the person has buried them in their garden. I tried to call but there was no answer. I'm pretty sure it's him 
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DS caught me reading the first bit of the poster out aloud (he is 8 but dyslexic and can't read), but I stopped when it came to the horrible part. So he knows I need to contact the poster person today.
DS has already cried for the last few days because he has missed him so much. If I confirm that it is our cat, do I tell him the truth, or do I try and make it easier for him, and lie and say something else - I don't know what!
It would be very hard for me to keep it from him tbh because I'll be so upset. But I'll do it if it makes it easier for him.
We both love him so very much. He was like a dog, would follow us everywhere.
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whethergirl · 02/06/2013 12:15
I just called, and could hardly speak to the person, I was blubbering so much. I think she was quite taken back but I couldn't keep it together.
I asked if I could come round and she said no, she had guests and they were sitting down to lunch.
So we have to wait an hour
I broke down and told ds
Thank you everyone.
We went round and showed the lady a photo of our cat, she confirmed it was him. We went and sat in her garden next to his grave for ages. I took some of the earth - thanks for the idea cozietozie - and ds wants to put it in a special container.
We had a good cry together. I told DS he could do whatever he wanted for the rest of the day, he wanted to get his mind off it. He alternated between being upset and then being distracted by a computer game. You know how kids are in the moment.
I had a look at the Goodbye Mog book, it looks lovely, I'm not sure how DS will feel about it though, he didn't want to look at photos of our cat and even told me to stop crying as it makes him more upset. He says that he can feel our cat is still here, in our hearts.
His food bowl is sitting there and there are cat hairs still on the sofa
I'm taking a day off uni tomorrow (inset day for ds) and we'll spend the day together doing nice things and perhaps having a ceremony.
I am so sorry . Like you, we are a family of me, DS and cats. DS is like your DS and worries about them.
I think what you are doing is absolutely lovely. I have some Rosemary in a pot in the back garden which someone bought me after my old cat died (Rosemary for Remembrance she said).
The hardest thing is all the reminders left behind. It WILL get easier, we lost our last cat to a road accident so I know what a shock it is. Be comforted that he won't have suffered, cats hit by cars are usually killed outright but it's no comfort to the whole process of grieving and missing them.
Perhaps keep some of his fur or gather it up and plant it with the soil and a plant in the back garden. Also have a read of the Rainbow Bridge here, it made me cry worse but was also oddly comforting to think about our pets waiting for us.
Thank you for your support, it means a lot.
That's a lovely poem JakeBullet, thank you.
I can't stop crying about him, miss him so much. He was very much a part of our lives. I bought him when DS complained that without a dad or siblings, he didn't feel we were a proper family. He really filled that gap, always playful, so good natured. He would sit next to DS as he played for hours at a time. Quite often when we left the house to go out, he would follow us down the road miaowing and I'd have to shoo him back!
He was so well behaved, I only had to say "NO" once and he would never repeat the same behaviour. He was so loving. I keep expecting to turn around and see him at his favourite spot on the sofa
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