For all you lovely people who have followed FABCat's story I THINK I have uplaoded a photo of her.

[FabCatsSlave]

It isn't the best ever but tbh it has taken me so long to do I wanted to post something if I could. I will try and do a better one if anyone needs wants another one.

RIP my lovely, beautiful, clever, cheeky, adorable furball.

31.8.94 - 16.5.13.

My FIL will say something inappropriate I am sure.

When I rang the vet yesterday to check she was okay and hadn't been left alone the receptionist told me to keep my chin up. I know she meant well but not what I needed to hear.

Could your DH ring your MIL so she can talk to him and stop him coming out with something stupid and hurtful?

He will say well she has had a good long life, as mil has also said to me when I have expressed worries about losing her. I know that but if she had another 10 years and then died it would still be too soon for me.

I didn't tell her she was going and now I am wondering if I should have but then knowing what was going to happen wouldn't have been good either. If I said a sleep she would expect to wake up. I may be over thinking this.

I laid her down and she looked like a kitten. Didn't compute at all. But she had cancer for 10 months. 10 MONTHS she lived with it!

That's just one of those things that people say when they don't know what to say but think they should say something. It's always hard to know what to say when someone has lost a loved one because our brains stop us remembering fully what it is like. With time when you think of Fabcat you'll just think of the good times and smile rather than thinking of how horrible it is now.

The third picture is lovely Fab. She looked like a very soft and squidgy cat.

She was adorable.

What a beautiful girl. You can tell just by looking at the photos that she was intelligent and had bags of personality.
RIP FabCat.

She WAS intelligent. How clever of you to notice . Bags and bags of personality. She was amazing.

What a beautiful cat. I'm so sorry for your loss. RIP FAbcat.

Thank you RedwingWinter.

Just added a photo which will have you all in trouble .

Awww. Such a little cutie pie. You have me wondering if my 15 year old would tolerate a kitten.

Why not give it a go?

Oh FabCatsSlave, hugs to you as you go through this. Mushroom is gorgeous and huggable looking and no, it doesn't help at all to be told "that's a good age" & etc. etc or to keep your chin up. I agree with whoever it was that said people just blurt these things out because they feel they have to say something - never mind that it might be an inane insensitive something better left unsaid. I'm so sorry your children have had to put up with nastiness over Mushroom's death too.

My beloved old boy was born in the spring of 1994 and with his kidney disease worsening it will soon be time for him to be put to sleep. I dread terribly the day when I won't be able to hug his now sadly skinny little self any more.

I am sorry Maud. Mushroom also had kidney disease but that was stable thankfully. No real change from when she got diagnosis. I hope you can have as long as possible with MaudCat.

Oh my love, I am sorry that I am late to this. Hope you are OK (well as well as you would be given the circumstances) So sorry that Mushroom has gone. Beautiful photos of a beautiful and obviously well loved and cared for kitty.

((((((((((((((((((((unmumsnetty Hug)))))))))))))))))))))))

She's was beautiful, RIP Mushroom.

She is home.

I picked her ashes up this morning and left a card and present for the vet and one for the receptionist.

I am calmer now she is home. Still can't believe she has gone. She is back so it is like I still have her

I had to move house a year or two back but have kept some earth from the graves of my previous boys and shall put that in a planter or the garden this summer. Makes me feel better.

I'm glad to hear that you're feeling a bit better now that you have her home where she belongs.

Thank you for sharing your pictures. What a gorgeous Fabcat! So sorry for your loss but I bet you can't look at the picture with the toy stuck to fab's collar without smiling (yes and sobbing!) The pain will fade but the love and memories remain.

That picture does me laugh as it sums her up so well. We have a large A4 copy on the kitchen cupboard door. Seeing her bed made me cry again. I still can't believe it and would give anything to have her back. I said to DH last night does he think if I wished hard enough she would come back and he said no as he has already tried.

The garden feels empty and all wrong but the house is a tiny bit better now she is back with us.

I suppose I need to get on with life now. I can't waffle on about her forever.

DH has somehow printed a photo of her on to a DVD and he is going to put all my photos of her on it. The kids are enjoying looking through the albums and I will too when I have time alone. I have already seen a couple I had forgotten taking and i am so greatful I was obsessed so keen on photos of her.

Oh, what a wonderful cat! Mine both sit on my laptop case with exactly the same expression as hers sitting on your DS' schoolbag - that
sort of "don't look at me as if I'm doing something strange" face.

I really feel your pain, and don't give yourself a marker at which point to 'get on with life' - I mean, you will get on with life, it will happen, but don't feel guilty if it's not happening just yet.

Collating her photos is a wonderful idea. I came upon a photo of my old tabby girl the other day and it brought so many memories. I had forgotten just how beautiful she was.

Huge hugs to you.

I still can't believe she has gone. She had so many trials and tribulations and always came through them. How can she be gone? I miss her. DH said we maybe took her for granted. I feel crap now but I really hope she knew we really really loved her. 18 years is such a long time. A huge proportion of the 41 years I have lived. Now she has gone and I wish I was with her. I miss her. I want her back.

I am sure she knew you loved her. Eighteen years is an amazingly long time and you looked after her so well during all that time. It is so hard, give yourself plenty of time to grieve.

I think I might say thank you so very much and goodbye.

There is a thread about me I think in AIBU and with past experience I know how some threads can go and it will devastate me if it just goes bad.There are already a couple of posts that aren't great. I am sorry to the OP of that thread that my thread has upset you so much. I am grateful to you and everyone else for caring but I really don't want to upset anyone.