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Suddenly needy cat

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ErrorError · 11/09/2012 21:58

Brief history, last year we adopted 2 female cats and a few weeks later, one of them was attacked by neighbourhood bully cats. She recovered fairly quickly and had no problems going outside, often for hours on end.

About a week ago a called her in for dinner and heard a godawful yowling sound. Not a full-blown cat fight, more like confrontational growls. My cat didn't come in until much later but seemed alright. However, since then she has barely left my bedroom, only to eat (reluctantly - but she's not off her food), and she will go outside to pee and then come straight back in and up to my room. None of her usual adventures.

She's demanding constant attention, following me everywhere and meowing when she thinks I've forgotten she's there. It's quite cute because she's so affectionate and lovely, but a bit worrying too as she's not normally this clingy. She has also started suckling on my dressing gown (she is 4 years old.)

I have a fair idea of how she came to get like this - same cats who attacked her now probably lurking in her territory - what I need advice on is how to help her become confident enough to get back to her normal self, and perhaps figure out how to stop the suckling. (She did this when we first adopted her - I put it down to stress or a behaviour she hadn't grown out of, but then read somewhere it can happen when kittens are weaned too early.)

Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Smile

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ErrorError · 11/09/2012 22:00

"I called her in for dinner" oops. Cat walking around laptop as I try to type!

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cozietoesie · 12/09/2012 08:36

Yep - sounds as if she's lost her confidence and reverted to secure places and some kitten behaviours.

I'm not sure, myself, that I would actually do anything if you can live with the increased closeness. (I've long had Siamese so that in itself wouldn't bother me - I'm used to it.) You don't necessarily know all the things that happened to her before you had her and if she now feels more secure inside the house, I'd probably just accept it and not try to prop her up outside in any way. Some cats do prefer inside from time to time. (I had a feisty young lodger last year who still went outside to strut his stuff out of manly obligation but quickly came to really prefer being inside and hanging out with me - or the sofa; although I have a fairly large house so he didn't go stir crazy because there was lots to do and plenty of places to go.)

So for myself, I'd just let her be and see how it goes. She should get her confidence back in time and if she doesn't - well, as long as she's happy inside? In fact, and particularly with bad weather coming on, I might even think about getting her a litter tray for inside because if she feels bad about going out, doing her duty out there might upset her even though she does go.

As I said - that's a personal view only and others may not agree. I've always let my cats do pretty well what they want to as long as they're happy and they don't fall foul of the house rules (eg no going on kitchen surfaces, no scratching unapproved places, no going outside (for the house cats)). It seems to work for us.

You might find that the suckling improves/stops as she feels safer although I'd keep an eye on it because you don't want her to start ingesting any fibres which might clog up her insides. It's a bad habit if long term.

Best of luck anyway.

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cozietoesie · 12/09/2012 09:15

PS - one thing you could do if you wanted to speed up the process is go outside with her - would extend her 'safe territory' a bit and might put off any bullies who were hanging around.

ErrorError · 12/09/2012 19:41

Thank you for the advice. She has been out in the garden for a little while today. Had a pee, went to the end of the garden path for a sniff, then came back inside. She looked a bit spooked, but it's progress. I'm hoping she'll come out of it naturally so I wont make her go outside if she doesn't want to yet. We've got litter trays too.

She hasn't suckled today which is great, but is still demanding attention. I suppose that could just be part of her personality, which I can accept, as we've only had them a year and still learning new things about them. My previous cats were much more stand-offish and independent!

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cozietoesie · 12/09/2012 20:29

That's good progress. Letting her make her own decisions is fine in this situation - knowing she can dive for safety or stay inside if she wants to will bolster her enjoyment of outside if she goes. (The weather is turning anyway so don't be too alarmed if she becomes a real homebody this winter.)

I think that if she was attention seeking you'd likely have found out about it by now - so you were probably right and it's connected with her recent 'trauma' and wanting reassurance and love from you. (You're lucky she hasn't decided that she wants to sleep in bed with you to get love and cuddles all through the night!)

Good luck

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