Missing my cat who died 6 months ago

[JeuxDEnfants]

I know some will think it's silly. He was my baby and I miss him madly. Anyone else feel the same so that I don't feel quite as pathetic :(

It's not pathetic at all. I pretty well get another one directly because I hate the hole in my life - but I still think about all the ones gone past in the wee small hours.

I'm so sorry Jeux...I still dream about my kitty.. looks adoringly at four cats snuggled in bed with me

Yes, I still dream about him too :). Call me crazy... We have another cat and two strays but I still feel the hole he left. It's massive, he was very special to me and young when he died. Hopefully, one day soon I'll be able to just think of the good stuff and not feel so bereaved.

And of course... I know people have lost family and children and crying over a cat seems incredulous. He was one of my children though... As ridiculous as that may sound.

Sorry, I really sound like a crazy cat woman now :)

I still miss my boy 3.5 years later. He was like 'our' child and we loved him to bits. I still 'talk' to him when no-one else is here. You aren't ridiculous JeuxDeEfants, just a cat lover.

Thanks Hilda... I still talk to him... Let the men in white coats take us away ;)

Anytime we lose something we love, it leaves a hurt. You are not crazy, just someone who misses her kittyboy.

I understand Jeux - my cat that we had since I was 7 died 3 years ago and I still miss her. I still sort of expect to see her when I go to my parents' house.

I'm an only child so she was the closest thing I had to a sibling. Losing her hurt so much.

Poor you

I am unashamedly a crazy cat woman. I'm going to be absolutely devastated when mine goes, I've had him since I was a child.

It's not pathetic to be sad when pets die. Cats and dogs do really love us and when you have a bond with them it's very special. There are animals I care about a lot more than some people.

I really liked this article about Ben Fogle when his dog Inca died. It is mostly about dogs but the same is true of cats.

www.telegraph.co.uk/lifestyle/9467927/Why-like-Ben-Fogle-are-we-embarrassed-to-show-grief-over-our-dead-pets.html

I think people find it difficult to believe that stable people can have such attachment to animals. None of my friends would understand and would probably tell me to man up. I'm not usually soft... I just miss him and the relationship we had. If he hadn't been only 4... I might have been able to take it more in my stride. Anyway, thanks for your responses. Cheers to all our beautiful friends who we have lost :)

Loved the article Burlington. He was hit by a car and I spent his last moments with him, took him the vet, even though I knew he was gone. Couldn't bear to look at his broken body, it wasn't him. He had such personality and so much love and beauty :)

Oh no that's so awful
I'm sure he would have known that you were there and felt comforted.
You've been so brave

Thanks Burlington... Don't feel brave :( trying to remember happier times :)

I come from a family of great cat lovers. Every time a cat dies, its human always says 'No! That's it! No more cats. It's too sad when they die, I can't face it again' and then a couple of years later there's always another cat in the place. We do a great line in being adopted by stray cats. All these cats then go on to live the absolute life of Riley because we spoil them so much.

It's devastating when they go but they're worth it

Same here, I've said no... Can't take the pain... But strays seem to gravitate towards us :) he's not the first cat I've lost but they were over 20 and had a brilliant life. We lost him too early... But being sensible and cautious was never his nature. The others we have are girls and they seem to understand the road better... They stay away. He never had any fear of anything apart from hair dryers. Love him and miss him deeply :). Such a character :)

I still miss my cat who died 5 months ago. She was just fabulous. I've recently got a new kitten because i felt a gap. The kitten is lovely and is snuggling up to me now but I still miss my beautiful girlie cat who was beside me for 16 years.

Glad I'm not alone :)

That sounded a bit wrong... I mean I'm glad I'm not the only one finding it difficult to move on :)

This has made me teary, someone killed my cat by speeding, on a little quiet country lane. He was my world. Its been 15 months now, and it still breaks my heart. I miss him so much, I kiss his photo when I can bear to look at it. I still cry loads & loads.

Its not silly to feel upset, I have an older cat & a dog for company. I just wish we were all together still

Vintage, I know how you feel. I wish he was still here, especially for the good times. We live on a country lane too and he was speeding. I thought he would play with my ds as he grew older or maybe sleep on his bed...them I imagined spending much more time snuggling with him as ds got easier... Feel like so much joy will never be. Lots of things remind me of him... Even a goat I saw today. I still find looking at pics and videos difficult. Nothing will ever replace him in my heart. I just hope I keep having lovely dreams of him. My baby boy who gave me so much happiness :). Well, not just me, anyone who met him :)

It's exactly 6 months today :(

Last September our old 'boy' died suddenly on a Sunday evening. DP and I were so upset that we struggled to get through work the next day. It still hurts, but 2 days after boy died DP found an abandoned 4 week old kitten. And this week we've adopted a 7 week old kitten. They aren't Boy, and it doesn't take away the sadness but it helps.

There is nothing wrong with mourning the loss of a companion that you have loved.