I currently have an adult female bengal cat. We were told she was feral when we adopted her but she has never caused us any problems, she is happy and contented, never attacks us or is afraid of us. She is fabulous with ds. We have had her for nearly 3 years and she has been an only cat for all that time.
When I left home about 6 or 7 years ago I left my cat (we'll call her moggy) at my mums house for my mum to look after as I couldn't take pets to my new place. When I moved to where we are now and adopted the bengal we decided it would be less disruptive for moggy if she stayed at my mums as she was now more used to my mum than to me. However, it turns out my mum hasn't been coping very well with looking after herself never mind the cat. I can't visit my mum very often and never had any cause for concern but now my mum has asked if I can take Moggy back. This is fine and I will do this (and sort out flea and worming treatment because I have a feeling she needs this!).
The problem is, I don't know how to introduce Moggy and Bengal to each other. I have only ever introduced kittens into a household with older cats and they always just sort of fitted in at the bottom of the hierarchy, I've never introduced an older cat into a house with a younger cat iyswim. I can imagine there will be a power struggle although Moggy is pretty easy going and likes to stay out of trouble.
The plan is to keep them separated until moggy is acclimatised to our house, I will probably do this by keeping moggy upstairs in our bedroom and then gradually let her roam the rest of the house when she gets more confidence and begins to trust dh and I (ds will be kept away from her for the time being due to his yelling and cuddling tendancies which will scare her).
I know moggy is pretty good with other cats as she has lived in a multi cat household before, but I have no idea how our bengal is (other than having heard the fights she has with the neighbours cat 
). They are both female, both have been spayed and both like being outside.
Does anyone have any advice on how to help make the introductions work? I am in a bit of a dilemma because moggy was my cat first, but this is bengal's house. If they really can't get on then I will have to have a rethink about the situation but I'd like to do all I can to help them to get on with each other (or at least put up with each other).