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Neighbours keep "cat-napping" my cat - what can I do?

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HaleAndPacemaker · 26/04/2012 17:27

Our very friendly cat went missing a couple of weeks ago for four days. On the same morning that I had started printing out posters and calling around the council etc an elderly couple popped around to say that my cat was at their house.

We had a conversation where it seemed a bit like they were accusing me of neglecting him (saying he's underweight - he's not, and he's only one month post annual check-up) and of being terrible for shutting him out all day whilst I'm at work (which they admitted was pure speculation, and again is not true as I work from home...), and for letting him out at night (surely this is my choice?)

The conversation ended with me saying that I had no problems with them making a fuss of him if he popped over to visit, but to not feed him (he's a pedigree cat with a very sensitive stomach and is on a special diet. I knew that someone had been feeding him at one point because he'd had an upset stomach on a few occasions), and not to lock him in their house. They openly admitted that they'd been shutting him into their house at night and that he'd then spent all evening yowling to be let out.

They obviously went home and let him out, at which point he returned to us. He ate loads, slept for >12hrs (which suggests that he does not find being shut in their house as idyllic as they seem to believe), and spent days clinging to me like a baby.

He has been out a few times since in the last couple of weeks, but not for long, and has always come home.

Fast forward to yesterday when he failed to return home. I've just returned from said neighbours house and he is there again, shut inside.

The neighbour claims that they do keep putting him out but then letting him back in again. They also say that they're not feeding him (which means he's not eating anything), and are asking if it's usual that he's drinking so much, or is it because he's hungry (how would I know, I've never starved him??!!)

I asked for the neighbour to let him out, and she said that she would. I also explained that he was very distressed after returning from their house last time, and asked them not to keep letting him in the house. That was over an hour ago and there is no sign of him. He has a very loud collar so I'd expect to be able to hear him if he was in fact out.

The neighbours say that they are concerned about the cat, but by keeping him in their house so that they can cuddle him they are denying him access to food and his home. I'm sure that they are a well meaning couple, but I don't see how they're helping matters.

Does anyone have any ideas re: what are my actual rights here and what can I do if they don't return him/release him? It seems really unfair to have to keep him in just because they seem to think that they know "best" iyswim?

Apologies for the epic post, and thanks if you made it this far.

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PurplePidjin · 26/04/2012 17:30

Knock on their door with cat box, do not leave without cat. Ask local rspca/pcso to have a quiet word put the frightened on

BlingLoving · 26/04/2012 17:32

Blimey. Difficult situation. I think you should just be very firm, but polite with them:

Please do not lock my cat in your house. He is used to coming and going as he pleases, and at my house has access to the correct food and water. He likes to visit, but needs to be free to come and go. What you are doing, by locking him inside, is cruel.

I'd also be going over there right now, knocking on the door and when they open it, calling your cat to come to you. If he's unhappy, he'll be bolting out that door to get to you sharpish.

HaleAndPacemaker · 26/04/2012 17:34

Thanks to you both. I obviously wasn't as firm as I'd hoped earlier.

I'm going to let dd finish her dinner and then will be going around there again armed with a cat carrier and a steely glare.

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PurplePidjin · 26/04/2012 17:41

If my cat is not returned immediately, I will be forced to think you have kidnapped him/her and will call the police.

Well, you did say pedigree Wink

MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic · 26/04/2012 17:45

If you haven't had the cat chipped I think you should do that very quickly, so you can prove the cat is yours if there is any dispute and I would also go for mentioning the police when you go to pick him up.

MiraNova · 26/04/2012 17:53

definitely make sure the cat is microchipped. Also you could see if you could find a 'cat cam' - a camera on the collar that either streams video or takes intermittent pictures - that might put them off Grin

HaleAndPacemaker · 26/04/2012 18:36

The cat happily jumped straight into the carrier and is now home scoffing his dinner.

I didn't mention the police because I had an attack of the "dealing with a little old lady" guilt. Sneaky pensioners.

He's already micro-chipped and I have papers for him so I'm covered with regards to ownership.

I'd love to have a cat cam! It'd be fascinating to see where he goes. I just wish he'd stop coming home smelling of talc Hmm

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