I have a 13 year old moggie who i rehomed about two years ago. She's been back and forth to the vets since christmas with cysitis. They're concerned that she's losing a lot of weight, she's lost about 30% of her body weight in two years and another 10% in the last month, although she's eating normally and seems fine other than an occasional cysitis bout. So the vet wants to send her for a day of tests and scans on Tuesday. They think it might be bladder stones in which case they'd need to operate.
I'm not sure I want to send her. She's incredibly timid. She wont go outside at all, She's frightened of unknown people to the point where she'll hide the entire time anyone else is in the house. She particualry hates men, apart from my dp, and all the vets at this practice seem to be men. To do the tests she'd need to be left at the vet on her own, then transported to another site. I'm pretty sure I won't allow them to operate, if thats what they find they need to do.
I feel it would be too stressful for her. I think I'd rather let her live out the rest of her life in peace and at home. I think I might refuse the scan, and only take her back to the vets if/ when she seems in pain or unhappy. I'm not sure whether I'm doing the right thing though? I might end up making her life shorter this way, but I think it might be a happier life? Suppose I would just like some opinions on whether I'm being horribly cruel!