Help, I love my cat but...

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I developed an allergy to him when pg with my now 5 yr old. It is hard, but put upable with. However...DH does not like cat and never has but tough, cat was here before him , but means other adult not supportive. DD's both love him, but he often bites and scratches them. He has a tray indoors, because we moved since got him and no longer have easy access to outdoors, and to be honest, he shows not much inclination to go out. When he does we let him, but he may have to stay out a bit longer than he wants.
At night he jumps on our bed, not to sleep but to prowl about and wakes us up, if I put him out the room he scratches up the carpet and wallpaper, if out the house he sits on window and wakes up everyone in flats.
It is obvious he is not happy, but am at wits end what to do. My DH helpful comment is to get him de clawed, so no help there, I also know if I push it with DH he will try to get ridof cat, who, despite all this, I really love. HELP????

Anyone with any ideas? Please?

Oh dear. If you feel hes really not happy he may need rehoming.
Mine are doing similar with scratching up carpet at night to br let out at all hours. It's easier for us as we just put them out - they have a dry sleeping area in the garage. Mine also scratch wallpaper. The vet has suggested blu tacking silver foil to the wall where they do it to break the habit, as they hate scratching on foil.

Good luck.

Ps. Is there any way that you can just shut him in the kitchen or another room at night?

Thanks for replying Bramble, will try the silver foil thing.
About shutting him in, he can open all our doors now (apart from ones he scratches at!) Used to keep him in kitchen, but he managed to wear away bottom of door so now his claws get enough of a grip to open it. He's a determined and clever boy.

Is he an entire tom? If so get him spayed and that should help.

Otherwise I think a rehome might be your only shot at giving him a nice life.

Was neutered v young. Tried to rehome him about 5 yrs ago, to a friend who lived about a mile away. He kept coming home! Feel like he deserves an easier life. He loves the DD's most of the time but can turn for no reason. Generally ok, is really night time that's the problem. Thinking of putting catch on outside of kitchen door so can shut him in. Bit worried about state of kitchen each morning tho'... Thanks for input Bramble and Who, I really appreciate it.

Aw bless. Make sure you put silver foil behind the kitchen door so he doesn't scratch at it. The shutting in kitchen thing would be the way to go. Mine have a technique of making the door bang so that it wakes the whole house if we try that! I'm sure you'll make a lovely sleepy place for him in there. He will then studiously ignore this, poo in your shoes and sleep in the sink.

bramble, you have met him then?

I think his sisters live at mine.