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Saying goodbye tomorrow 😢

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Crazyladee · 01/06/2026 20:59

Tomorrow afternoon our beautiful golden cocker spaniel, Chester will be put to sleep at home.

He's 16 years old and we've agonised over the decision after a long period of slowly declining health. He has dementia, is double incontinent, soils himself in his bed, has an inoperable ear tumour that frequently gets infected and irritates him, struggles with mobility and spends much of his day either sleeping or pacing.

The hardest part is that he hasn't been in pain or a crisis. He still enjoys his food and will still gently wag his tail and seem to perk up for a gentle walk (or shuffle) But when we look at the whole picture, we know that it has become "time"

We've chosen a home euthanasia because he hates going to the vets, and we want his final day to be peaceful for him, familiar and surrounded by the people who love him, rather than waiting until an emergency forces the decision for us.

I know many people here will understand this awful stage of dog ownership. Deep down, I know we're making the kind and responsible decision, but emotionally I feel utterly heartbroken and guilty. He's been part of our family for 16 years and it's impossible to imagine the house without him.

I don't really have a question. I just wanted to share Chester's story with people who understand how devastating and heart wrenching it is to say goodbye to a much loved old boy. 💙

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greysloane · 01/06/2026 21:02

I am so sorry. It really is the hardest thing to go through. I had to have my 10 year old boy PTS last year and it broke my heart. The advice on here was helpful though and helped me to realise I was making the right decision. X

dollyblue01 · 01/06/2026 21:04

Ahhh it’s heartbreaking myself and partner have recently his/our springer of 17 pts similar to yours eating but his body was failing him, we made sure we had a lovely day before hand and he tasted his first bit of chocolate and some treats we made a massive fuss of him , but the house is empty and it’s bloody hard afterwards , just enjoy your last bit of time and know that your doing the kindest thing. It’s hard I won’t lie, but my best wishes are with you all ❤️

SabreIsMyFave · 01/06/2026 21:06

Awwwww, thinking of you tonight. 😢 My heart sank a little when I read your thread title and post.

My heart goes out to you. 😘 At least lovely Chester had 16 years of happiness and love with you. xx

Blackbird2409 · 01/06/2026 21:08

😭😭 So sorry. You are absolutely making the right decision. It’s very peaceful. Just keep in mind the lovely life you have given Chester. It is the last kind thing we can do for our pets. Sending strength and love.

Trumptontown · 01/06/2026 21:09

Thinking of you, OP. You’re allowing him to pass peacefully and he knows how loved he is 💐

Crazyladee · 01/06/2026 21:27

dollyblue01 · 01/06/2026 21:04

Ahhh it’s heartbreaking myself and partner have recently his/our springer of 17 pts similar to yours eating but his body was failing him, we made sure we had a lovely day before hand and he tasted his first bit of chocolate and some treats we made a massive fuss of him , but the house is empty and it’s bloody hard afterwards , just enjoy your last bit of time and know that your doing the kindest thing. It’s hard I won’t lie, but my best wishes are with you all ❤️

Thank you.
In the morning we are driving him to one of his favourite wooded walks in an area we used to live years ago. When he was much younger, he used to go crazy over sticks and playing fetch. We used to call it his "stick heaven"
Then I have bought him some of his favourite foods for lunch. Basa fillet, broccoli, cocktail sausages and maltesers!

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Meadowflower2023 · 01/06/2026 21:30

So sorry OP. I can’t imagine how you must feel this evening. I have a 17 year old dog with dementia and only this last week he has started with the incontinence. He also sleeps and paces
and I know we’re coming to where you’re at soon. You’ve made the right decision for your beloved Chester, at home with lots of love. You gave Chester 16 years of happiness and love and him you which makes it so utterly heartbreaking. Sending hugs x

johntorodesfatcheeks · 01/06/2026 21:40

So very sorry. Saying goodbye in a way that is s harder for you and easier for them is truly the ultimate act of love. Have been there twice and will be again. I truly believe they know how much they are loved. Hope the foodie treats are enjoyed and you can send him on his way peacefully.

canthavetoomanylights · 01/06/2026 21:43

The final kindness…
It’s truly heartbreaking. Still miss my girl 3 years later. Thoughts with you OP x

A671090 · 01/06/2026 21:46

Bless you all - I’m so sorry xxx

Rshard · 01/06/2026 21:47

Sending love, Chester has had a wonderful life in your family x

saveforthat · 01/06/2026 21:50

We opted for home euthanasia for our beautiful Goldie age 14 last year. It was really peaceful. It was a sunny day and her last breath was in the garden. The vet was lovely, we had as much time as we wanted before they took her away. We had her cremated and spread her ashes on her favourite beach. Sending you love and hugs

Crazyladee · Yesterday 09:12

saveforthat · 01/06/2026 21:50

We opted for home euthanasia for our beautiful Goldie age 14 last year. It was really peaceful. It was a sunny day and her last breath was in the garden. The vet was lovely, we had as much time as we wanted before they took her away. We had her cremated and spread her ashes on her favourite beach. Sending you love and hugs

I was hoping that we would have nice enough weather to do the same thing....have him pass away in the garden. But sadly its cold and drizzly today, so it will have to be indoor.

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saveforthat · Yesterday 09:20

Thinking of you today @Crazyladee

thebinkster · Yesterday 09:39

I know exactly how you feel, had to have my beautiful sprocker put to sleep in January and it absolutely broke my heart.But just remember you’re doing the last good thing you can do for them.

BridgetJonesV2 · Yesterday 09:46

Thinking of you today. My old boy (cocker spaniel) is 13 with heart disease and I will sadly be in your shoes before long. He's the other half of me and I don't honestly know how I'm going to exist without him there.

Sleep well, Chester Flowers

Littledidsheknow · Yesterday 09:49

I’m so sorry for your loss. 💐

JuneJoys · Yesterday 14:20

I'm so very sorry💕

you know you're doing the right thing for Chester & it shows how much you love him.

I'm sorry the weather is so rubbish.

all my love
🥰

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