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First time dog owner - advice and tips please!

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snapdragongirl · 19/01/2026 11:43

We are about to embark upon first time dog ownership (we are planning to get a golden retriever puppy). DH and I both had dogs growing up but haven’t owned one as adults. We have 3 DC (11-16).

What are your top tips/gems of advice for us please? Any books you can recommend as a reference point? Any do’s or dont’s, words of warning etc?

We have thought long and hard about this decision so haven’t made it lightly, but I’m just aware we are novices and I want to do things properly and as well as we can!

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Jellycatspyjamas · 19/01/2026 17:05

Advice I got here was to start my puppy off the lead while they were still at the looking for me/glued to me clingy stage. So on our morning walk on a pretty much empty path I’d let him off the lead, have lots of treats on hand and he’d stay close while also sniffing about etc. It made walks much nicer for him and he’ll now walk with me without wandering off. Stay close enough and alert enough to spot distractions so you can slip a lead on, but let him off.

Thats different to working on recall, which we did in the house, then to garden, then an enclosed dog field, using a long lead. He’s still patchy if he scents a rabbit but getting there.

Expect a Velcro dog initially, mine is now fine if I’m doing something in another room but for the first year I couldn’t move without my little shadow.

chunkyBoo · 19/01/2026 17:13

Train train and train, from day 1. Also take to professional training too, but keep it up at home

noctilucentcloud · 19/01/2026 17:48

I don't think anyone else has mentioned this, but have a good think about insurance. Vet fees are not cheap, and a bigger dog costs more in medication (cost is per amount of medication and big dogs need more) - sounds obvious but it never occurred to me as a 1st time dog owner. I got a lifetime cover which means that a condition is covered for life (minus a small excess once per year), if you don't have lifetime cover then a condition will only be covered the first year it occurs. Also be aware that insurance will exclude any pre-existing conditions (ie any you knew about before insurance started) and that happen within the first 14days of a policy. Unless you have very deep pockets, I would have insurance in place from day 1.

FinallyMovingHouse · 19/01/2026 18:01

Two things; wear wellies indoors as protection from the land shark and always have stuff to put in between the shark teeth, as opposed to a piece of your anatomy. Get chewy toys and antlers...keeps teeth clean, good for teething and taste good to pup (the antlers). My boy still loves an antler if you hold it for him, as he's only 8 and can't possibly do it himself.

rubbishatballet · 19/01/2026 18:33

To build on the point about insurance, also be prepared for costs to go up and up as they get older. There is a tipping point when they hit about 8 or 9 when insurance becomes incredibly expensive, but they also still potentially have plenty of life left in them (ie it wouldn’t be a straightforward decision of not treating something serious being the kindest thing to do, as can be the case when they’re a few years older). With my previous dog we made the decision to stop insuring her when it got really expensive, but I lived in fear of her needing very expensive, yet curative, treatments/surgery etc.

With our current dog I have been putting the same amount as his insurance into a separate account each month to build up a ring fenced pot so that there is a buffer available for when we might need to make a similar decision about stopping insurance when he’s older. Might be worth considering doing something similar, particularly while the dog is young and insurance is relatively cheap.

MultiOwl · 20/01/2026 07:32

noctilucentcloud · 19/01/2026 17:48

I don't think anyone else has mentioned this, but have a good think about insurance. Vet fees are not cheap, and a bigger dog costs more in medication (cost is per amount of medication and big dogs need more) - sounds obvious but it never occurred to me as a 1st time dog owner. I got a lifetime cover which means that a condition is covered for life (minus a small excess once per year), if you don't have lifetime cover then a condition will only be covered the first year it occurs. Also be aware that insurance will exclude any pre-existing conditions (ie any you knew about before insurance started) and that happen within the first 14days of a policy. Unless you have very deep pockets, I would have insurance in place from day 1.

This is good advice. I am thankful that I researched well before I got my puppy and have no intention of changing my insurer. My dog unfortunately has what is now a recurring condition, I only pay the excess once a year, and my premiums didn’t shoot up.

bushproblems · 20/01/2026 07:45

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 19/01/2026 12:31

Golden Retriever puppies are absolutely horrible. They lunge and snap and bite, and they curl their lips, and they're probably smarter than the average human. And that can last a really long time (3 years before they're 'mentally' adults). So do be prepared for that. I'm not saying that to put you off - but everyone always says puppies are hard work, and they are, but with Golden's it lasts even longer than most. It's not just the first month.

When it comes to teething and biting. Don't yelp. Please don't yelp. In my experience it encourages them. Just ignore and offer them a toy. Or say no and offer them a toy.

Now, onto the important things:

Training can, and should, start on Day 1. They can easily be housetrained in a week if you are consistent (no puppy pads, outside every after every nap, game, drink, meal and then roughly every 30minutes or so). Use a 'cue' word for them to associate with their toileting and reward them whenever they toilet outside.

Use meals to feed them by hand so they associate you with food, and also use their meals to train them - sit, down, stay/wait, and recall are all good places to start. Also teach your dog to 'leave' things. So if they are chewing something you don't want them to 'leave' and then offer them a treat.

Invest in a house-line and limit how much space they have and also to provide you with some control over the little git (it's easier to grab a line than to grab a puppy).

Decide where the puppy will sleep - this one is important as Golden's are prone to separation anxiety (remember they come from big litters typically, so have never been alone - they are family pets who thrive on human company). If you want the dog to sleep downstairs and alone at night, you'll likely need to ease them into it.

Don't let the puppy jump onto furniture/climb stairs etc - their joints are very fragile and you can cause long-lasting damage. I've known puppies break their leg at only a few months old after falling off the sofa or slamming against it and falling backwards.

Don't play chase with balls. It puts lots of pressure on their elbows, and again their joints are fragile and you can cause long lasting damage. And don't leave the puppy alone with toys - they can, and will, swallow parts of the toy including the squeaker.

Take them out and about in your arms for socialisation. But remember: Socialisation is not letting every person going say hi, it's about getting your dog used to the world and ignoring people. The last thing you want is a 35kg 11 month old puppy lunging at people for pats because it's never been taught to greet nicely or ignore people

Get them used to being held and touched - ears, groin, mouth, joints etc.

Personally, I wouldn't bother with puppy training classes. Half the time you wait around to be told to do something your dog should already know how to do by that age, and very often the trainers are unable to vary their approach to suit the dogs they have as opposed to whatever dog it is they are used to working with.

Finally, whilst Golden's are lovely and as with any dog, you get out what you put in, you need to be mindful that they are very sensitive - they do not respond well to being yelled at, or scolded. They're incredibly biddable dogs and eager to please - but you have to raise a dog that wants to please you, not one that cowers in fear because it's used to being yelled at.

I’m considering a puppy and this is the best advice I’ve read! Thanks @TheHungryHungryLandsharks

MultiOwl · 20/01/2026 07:45

Of all the wise words on this thread, this from @TheHungryHungryLandsharks stood out to me and I would recommend building on this to have a plan as to how you will do this and implement it.

“Take them out and about in your arms for socialisation. But remember: Socialisation is not letting every person going say hi, it's about getting your dog used to the world and ignoring people. The last thing you want is a 35kg 11 month old puppy lunging at people for pats because it's never been taught to greet nicely or ignore people”.

The other thing I haven’t seen mentioned by those who know the goldens breed well and hopefully may wish to comment is considering the trait known in some goldens of resource guarding. I had a golden many years ago who had this and had I properly known it could be a thing, I would have been better prepared before it became a thing.

Invest in a good hoover 🤣

MultiOwl · 20/01/2026 07:59

bushproblems · 20/01/2026 07:45

I’m considering a puppy and this is the best advice I’ve read! Thanks @TheHungryHungryLandsharks

I agree - brilliant post full of great advice from @TheHungryHungryLandsharks the only thing that I can’t relate to is the hand feeding bit where there’s been discussion earlier, but that’s not me disagreeing because I don’t know!

I think you have to be particularly careful with goldens because they often look the perfect, gorgeous, gentle dog, walking nicely besides its owner, or in happy family pictures, but a poorly bred and untrained golden is a lot of dog, they a big strong dogs. Like all breeds you can get rogue ones that just don’t fit the mould. I know this because I experienced it and it wasn’t fun. But then had I read the words of advice such as that from @TheHungryHungryLandsharks I might have avoided, or better managed, the situation I don’t know. Looks can deceive I guess is what I’m saying!

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 20/01/2026 08:40

@bushproblems glad it helped! 😊

@MultiOwl resource guarding is so tricky. And the only real way to be sure to counteract it before it can set in (that I have found), is to always make sure they associate you as the most interesting thing - be that provider of treats or food. I’m no expert trainer, but it’s how I’ve always raised mine. Iit’s one of those things where it comes from experience and knowing the breed - as different breeds always respond differently to things (I’ve never really seen the ‘bait and switch’ work for a Golden Retriever but I know it’s recommended for spaniels for example). And with Goldens it’s hard to start on when they’re puppies as tbh no one wants to be putting their hand near a Goldie mouth for fear of being piranha-d.

They are lovely dogs, but as you say…not without their issues and their size is what counts against them when they do have problems.

mugglewump · 20/01/2026 09:15

Goldens are very food orientated, which makes training with treats easy. I also carry a tin of treats when I'm out with our 9 mth old - she responds really well when I rattle it and comes back straight away.

butidid · 20/01/2026 11:12

MultiOwl · 20/01/2026 07:32

This is good advice. I am thankful that I researched well before I got my puppy and have no intention of changing my insurer. My dog unfortunately has what is now a recurring condition, I only pay the excess once a year, and my premiums didn’t shoot up.

Can I ask who your insurer is, please?

MultiOwl · 20/01/2026 11:25

butidid · 20/01/2026 11:12

Can I ask who your insurer is, please?

I use Petplan

Balloonhearts · 20/01/2026 11:25

Start as you mean to go on. Everything is cute as a puppy but if you don't want a full grown dog jumping on the furniture, don't allow it from the start. Manners are crucial. Train them, right from day one.

No puppy pads. Once they have been taught to go in the house, it's harder to unteach it.

Off lead training right from the beginning too. Heel is easiest to teach in your garden when they are tiny, they want to be with you anyway so pick it up fast. Their little brains are like sponges at this age so get all the safety training like Come Here, Wait, Heel, Drop It done early. Those are most important as they may one day save their lives, especially as retrievers will pick up and eat literally anything. They're worse than goats.

Socialise them early. Take them everywhere you can. Buses, trains, garden centres, markets, dog friendly cafes. Again, brains are like sponges and they will quickly learn how to behave in these situations and not get stressed by crowds etc.

Let everyone and their kids stroke them but insist on the dog sitting for pets. It teaches them to be polite while also making them sociable and friendly.

You will regret them at some point in the next year. This too shall pass.

Mydogisagentleman · 21/01/2026 12:48

We have a delightful Bedlington.
He doesn't jump up or lick people. I used to ignore him for a minute or two when I came back from wherever I had been.
He doesn't jump at people for attention, he stands still and receives it

MindYourUsage · 22/01/2026 20:14

Sit - Stay - Break

This is impulse control in its simplest form. Possibly the most important thing you'll ever teach your puppy, because impulse control is basically what dog training is.

Get your dog really used to controlling impulses with this simple cycle. Do it before you give food, before you allow garden access, before you go through a gate, before you allow the eating of the chicken bit placed on the floor, before you allow running free after you have unclipped the lead etc etc

MindYourUsage · 22/01/2026 20:16

Also dont mess about with insurance and get them on petplan's £12k lifetime policy from day one before the chance for any pre-existing exclusions can crop up.

I made this mistake so you dont have to!

SpanielsGalore · 22/01/2026 20:41

MindYourUsage · 22/01/2026 20:16

Also dont mess about with insurance and get them on petplan's £12k lifetime policy from day one before the chance for any pre-existing exclusions can crop up.

I made this mistake so you dont have to!

I made this mistake too, so insured my next puppy from 6 weeks old. Then the insurance was valid from day of collection.

katmunchkin · 22/01/2026 20:56

Train it that trimming nails is ok - save you a lot of trouble when they’re bigger!

snapdragongirl · 07/03/2026 10:45

Thanks so much for all of the comments and advice, it’s all so helpful! As mentioned on another thread, we are trying to decide whether or not to crate train. What are people’s thoughts on this? I know it can be really beneficial in terms of being a comfort to the puppy, and a safe calm place for them. But are you committing to a crate forever? I wouldn’t want to have to take a crate when we go away, for example. Is it ok to crate train early on but then switch to not using one?

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snapdragongirl · 07/03/2026 10:47

I wondered about just using a pen rather than a crate, so the puppy can be contained for sleep early on (I worry about them chewing a wire or something in the middle of the night!) and somewhere safe to pop them whilst I get a shower if I’m home alone with them etc.

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SpanielsGalore · 07/03/2026 10:58

My last puppy slept in a crate by the side of my bed for the first few months. When she was around 18 weeks old, we went away for a few days and I couldn't take the crate so she slept on my bed. She has stayed there ever since.
She always came in the bathroom with me until I could trust her to be left to her own devices.
Now I have stair gates up if i need to restrict her access. I do also have a pet/fire guard that can be used as a sort of play pen. I think it depends on the size of the dog as to whether or not they are useful. Larger breeds can climb over or knock it down.

3smallpups · 07/03/2026 11:19

Make sure you really know the breed
I’m a vet and probably see more people regretting getting a retriever puppy than any other .they are expecting a cute quiet teddy bear and they get a bitey opinionated thug . They are lovely dogs but not the easy first dog owner dog they are often assumed to be .

PeppyAmberHedgehog · 07/03/2026 11:45

VanGoSunflowers · 19/01/2026 12:32

Hi! I am a first time dog owner with a Lab. He is now 9 months and I got him at 8 weeks.

My tip is a mindset one and depending on the type of person you are, it may be of no use but before I got him, I spent hours reading Reddit threads from first time puppy owners but I only read the really bad ones. I wanted to know how bad it could possibly get. In hindsight, I was trying to prepare myself for the unknown but actually, it meant that because he wasn’t as bad as I was expecting I found it easier to handle if that makes sense?
It also helps to know in advance some of the ways you can correct behaviour and nip it in the bud so you’re fully prepared

This is such a good idea.

OP, be prepared for puppy blues where you stand in the garden in the rain, crying while your dog goes to the loo. It's a temporary thing.

ActoBelle · 07/03/2026 11:52

snapdragongirl · 07/03/2026 10:47

I wondered about just using a pen rather than a crate, so the puppy can be contained for sleep early on (I worry about them chewing a wire or something in the middle of the night!) and somewhere safe to pop them whilst I get a shower if I’m home alone with them etc.

I have both. Puppies will sleep better generally in a crate which is just the right size for them. Too big a space and they are less likely to sleep. So my puppy is in his crate overnight and then we have a bigger pen if he needs containing in the day time,…it has a bed, water bowl, space for some toys.