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When is the right time?

13 replies

Almost2026 · 28/10/2025 06:40

Our dog is approx 9 (French Bulldog, so good age). We rescued him just over 5 years ago.
He has always been very fit and healthy for a frenchie, loved to walk for miles, run around etc.

Earlier this year we noticed a lump, started as as what appeared to be a skin tag so didn’t do anything straight away, but then it grew. Turned out to be a Mass Cell Tumour. We had it removed, but it was grade 3 and hard to get to all the margins. Dog gets very anxious at the vets and has to have medication for any form of tests. We keep him sleepy after his op to stop him busting the stitches. After a few days he had a reaction, he was shaking, eyes rolling and really wobbly. We reduced the medication and he was ok. Vet has offered CT scans etc to see how much it’s spread but we’ve all agreed no more ops, and to let him enjoy his time he has left so feels pointless if we are not going to treat anyway?

A few months later, he started to get wobbly on his back legs, this has slowly got worse. He now needs carrying upstairs 80% of the time (living room on middle floor). Vet started him on a high dose of steroids, this improved for a little bit but then stopped improving any further. Since this he is drinking and weeing constantly. We’ve started weaning him off the steroids and are half way there, but it’s getting worse not better. When posting elsewhere someone mentioned steroid triggered Cushing disease which sounds likely but yet to discuss with the vet.

Amongst this time we found another lump, this may or may or may not be further cancer but as we’ve been dealing with his back legs as a priority we’ve not had it tested. Vet doesn’t think the tumours and back legs are related.

He can no longer go out for walks, has to be carried upstairs for company, currently sleeps in my sons bed but has wee’d for last few nights so will now have to sleep in the kitchen, he doesn’t seem to be in pain since the steroids generally but is when we lift him.

I’m constantly cleaning wee up and worry this is clouding my judgement of when is the right time for him, but he looks tired and sad a lot of the time, then cuddles up on our knee and I feel bad for even thinking about it again.

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Idontknowhatnametochoose · 28/10/2025 07:34

All I can say is that if my dog was in thar situation, I would have her pts, no hesitation or guilt.

It sounds like his quality of life is very poor.

lljkk · 28/10/2025 07:40

Before he has zero quality of life.
He can still enjoy cuddles & I presume meals but soon even those won't provide much comfort compared to the difficulties of his body failing.
Now would not be too soon, anyway. x

Almost2026 · 28/10/2025 10:13

Thank you for your kind words.

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Almost2026 · 28/10/2025 20:01

DH thinks the vet will think he still has life and that it’s too soon. I’m so torn with what to think.

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Idontknowhatnametochoose · 29/10/2025 08:27

Make an appointment with the vet. Vets are used to owners seeking advice and they won't force you to make a decision there and then.

Your dh can't know what the vet will say.

Take advice and go with your gut. I know I couldn't let my dog suffer if she clearly was.

TennisLady · 30/10/2025 16:03

Just had mine PTS this morning. The hardest decision to ever make but we realised keeping him going was purely for us and seemed quite selfish to do that, he’s at peace now.

Almost2026 · 30/10/2025 18:43

TennisLady · 30/10/2025 16:03

Just had mine PTS this morning. The hardest decision to ever make but we realised keeping him going was purely for us and seemed quite selfish to do that, he’s at peace now.

Sending lots of gentle hugs 😔 it’s such a difficult situation. Hopefully he’s at peace now.

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TennisLady · 31/10/2025 10:36

Almost2026 · 30/10/2025 18:43

Sending lots of gentle hugs 😔 it’s such a difficult situation. Hopefully he’s at peace now.

Thank you. It hurts so much but I know time is a healer.

Frenchfemme · 31/10/2025 12:47

TennisLady · 30/10/2025 16:03

Just had mine PTS this morning. The hardest decision to ever make but we realised keeping him going was purely for us and seemed quite selfish to do that, he’s at peace now.

So sorry for your loss 💔🌈

Almost2026 · 13/02/2026 06:46

Can I have a hand hold please. We’ve had another few months with him but have now decided it’s time. We met with the vet last night who was so so good. We have an appointment next Saturday. So double the love and double the dinners for doggo this week.

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hepsitemiz · 13/02/2026 07:23

Hi Almost, hand hold here from someone whose DDog was pts a week ago. You’ll be much happier when you no longer have to worry about reading your dog’s signs. It is extremely painful for us, for sure.

Will the vet come to your house? This one’s a non-negotiable for me. If mine had refused, I would have contacted one of those out-of-hours emergency vets. Anything to make the experience as calm as possible for DD.

Courage and hugs

Almost2026 · 13/02/2026 07:48

hepsitemiz · 13/02/2026 07:23

Hi Almost, hand hold here from someone whose DDog was pts a week ago. You’ll be much happier when you no longer have to worry about reading your dog’s signs. It is extremely painful for us, for sure.

Will the vet come to your house? This one’s a non-negotiable for me. If mine had refused, I would have contacted one of those out-of-hours emergency vets. Anything to make the experience as calm as possible for DD.

Courage and hugs

Sending lots of hugs! Glad to hear you feel some relief in not constantly worrying when is the right time.

We have decided to take him in, he gets treated like royalty when he goes in (came home with a new licky mat and full tube of liver paste last night) and our DD is autistic, I don’t think she would be able to process it happening at home properly. Both ‘children’ (teen and young adult) will be there with him / us. It’s next door to McDs too so will get him some nuggets on the way in.

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hepsitemiz · 13/02/2026 08:03

All the best. Wishing you all courage. Soon you’ll be remembering his funny antics from when he had his full health 🤗

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