Please help. I’m struggling so much.
My 13.5 year old rescue who we have had for 11 years has osteoarthritis which has been managed for years with onisor and gabapentin. It got worse last couple of years so upped dosage & added paracetamol.
She now rarely goes for a walk. We have a big garden but she only really goes out to toilet. We do offer & try often. She also has little interest in toys.
Saying all that she was cuddly, ran to greet you, interacted with you.
Then we think in the last couple of months she went deaf.
Last couple of weeks she started struggling going up & downstairs but still insisted on wanting to sleep upstairs.
Last week she became withdrawn. She started on/off crying & barking (she very very rarely barked her whole life). She appeared disoriented. She was passing a lot of wind. Her tummy looked swollen.We booked a vet appointment for Wednesday. Monday she cried for 2 hours so got emergency appointment. They did a full scan & bloods. Nothing…
They kept mentioning quality of life.
They gave her a pill to relax and a ketamine shot. We are trying venotin next week.
She is still disoriented, sleeping around 22 hours. She is crying & barking when awake but will stop if we stroke or look at her.
It’s been incredibly stressful working from home on teams calls.
She is still eating, toilets fine and has moments of cuddles. She greeted me this morning with a waggy tail and head into me cuddle for ages.
I honestly don’t know if it’s time.
To complicate matters I still part share her with my now adult DC dad. She goes once a fortnight and he will dog sit at times and for holidays. They (he & new partner) don’t think it’s time but they are on hols and haven’t dealt with this and partner doesn’t work so doesn’t have the stress of that.
I just can’t let her go whilst I still get that odd cuddle & saggy tail. Or is that selfish?