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Looking for a therapy dog

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Eeehbahgum · 30/08/2025 16:33

I have posted on here as I was originally looking at an ex breeding dog.
Ive some good advice on the thread which I will write down and absorb.
This is to go thro the kk and the breed groups.
I have adhd and I absolutely function better with a dog by my side.
It gives me a focus.
I had a high stress career and the dog s presence enabled me to stay focused and help me to help people in very difficult positions.
She was so calm and just happy to be next to me in whatever situation I was in.
I feel soothed by such dogs, but high energy dogs have the opposite affect.
Also , because I think about the dogs needs It focuses my mind wereas without a dog I am vague and accident prone .. amongst other things.
Ive beem lookimg for a dog for a good while now and feel at a complete loss where to find a dog.

so far
ive identified the breeds that I believe to be calm
shitzu
poodle - toy
bichon
cavalier
I am only interested in small , human focussed lap type dogs low energy / calm
am absolutely not for working dogs / large breeds

I live a quiet lifestyle
unless i am travelling around in my camper van in the countryside

I am contacting breeders via the kk re future litters as recommended.

nothing atm at all

if anyone has any further advice kn breed , judging temperment( assume pure breed more predictable?)
and even better on any leads( pardon the pun) for any good breeders I would be so grateful.

I do not have the confidence to take on a dog with behaviour issues, plus my husband has angina- whilst exercise of a dog would be good for him ( moderate) all this stress re all those pitfalls out there are not.

my absolute wish would be to somehow find someone who can tell me how to find a therapy dog or a calm dog .

I really appreciate the help on the last post - have taken on board tips- I just felt a spefic to were we are at now post would be a good direction to go in.
thank you so much- its really affecting me .

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Eeehbahgum · 30/08/2025 16:39

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have grandma, mum, sibling- therefore .. ? Dog oriented?

I realise that these 2 are not the kk pure bred route . I was wondering as both are quite laid back. Eg the poodle breeder has not pushed to reserve and just said come and see at 5. Weeks .

trust the none pushy ones a bit more !

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Eeehbahgum · 30/08/2025 16:56

Addendum
the lady advertised under her name of kelly- but the person who messaged me said she was becky - am i getting paranoid now ?! 😂

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ACavalierDream · 30/08/2025 17:23

Firstly, I am very sorry you are finding it difficult to get a dog. I have struggled too recently despite being a seasoned dog owner but that comes with wanting a certain pedigree breed. I grew up with spaniels all my life until fairly recently when I changed to sighthounds, which for a lot of reasons I prefer to spaniels.

I can help you with Cavaliers but please do not get offended, I mean this to be helpful. My family has had cavalier for 30 years now after owning other types of pedigree spaniels that just became too demanding exercise wise and maintenance wise. Cavaliers are much more chilled than other spaniels where there is a working line (think cocker and springers). They are proper lap dogs and do absolutely nothing. In my opinion they are lazy to a fault but that is subjective. They are also very affectionate.

Here is the but, they are really not smart, which might not be a problem for some but it is for me. I don't see them being a therapy dog else than as a living teddy bear, which they are very good at. And there is the maintenance, a cavalier groomed properly needs plucking, not shaving regularly (at least once a month). Then the eyes and ears need cleaning. It is a proper faff.

However, the biggest but is that like all breeds that have been popular, they are so inbred you will struggle to find a healthy one. All of ours have had an issue of some sort, mainly heart, eyes and breathing. Cockers and cavaliers, in my experience have been tempered with to a point of near no return unless they are from a working line (and even then...).

Reading your post, I would strongly advise against any pure breed unless you find one that has not been popular and is fairly common here, therefore a good uk breed. BUT you will be getting a puppy, and this is a roll of the dice. Any breeder that says they can match you to a puppy is lying. It is not possible. It is like looking at a child, a toddler and predicting they will be something or other.

I would also advise against those designer cross breads (mongrels really) that are everywhere, any -chon or -oodles or whatever new fashion has cropped up. You are getting into totally uncharted territory. Why pay the price of a full pedigree for a mongrel? Get a rescue instead for a fraction of the price.

Therefore, your best bet is to adopt a grown up dog that has been tried and tested by the rescue, ideally fostered. This is the only way you will know what you are getting yourself into. Have you considered a greyhound? They are so many desperate to get out of kennels and they are lazy.

Finally, I mean this in the nicest possible way, do you feel you can really take a dog on? Dogs are sensitive and are not easy. Something somewhere will go wrong, can you mentally cope with that? I say this because the consequences of owning a dog could become far more costly mental health wise than not having one in the first place.

Imdreadingit · 30/08/2025 18:19

I have a Cavalier. They are not always low energy dogs. Mine is extremely energetic and needs tons of stimulation.

I would advice you get a dog older than 2/3 years so you can see its energy level.

changedusername190 · 30/08/2025 18:33

Have you considered a guide dog puppy that hasn’t made the grade.They are usually very calm and well trained

Ylvamoon · 30/08/2025 19:29

I think what you describe is a Tibetan Terrier!
But they are a bit bigger than what you are looking for and can be very hard work in the first 18 months of their life.

But once you are past that, you'll have a little buddy that just naturally wants to be with you. I find they are not phased by anything, they have a calm and reassuring nature if bonded properly to their owners. They will read your moods and either stay away or come to comfort you. Many things that you want a therapy dog to do comes naturally to them- which will make training easier! (=you reward the behaviour when it naturally occurs!)
They are a calm self assured dog, not timid, nervous or needy in any way.

This means they also have a stubborn, independent streak - so not a dog for complete novices when it comes to training!
You should definitely have a look at them and maybe meet some owners with adults dogs to see if you can imagine life with a Tibetan... not a Terrier, they are a guard/ utility dog with very low prey drive.

Silverbirchleaf · 30/08/2025 20:03

“…my absolute wish would be to somehow find someone who can tell me how to find a therapy dog or a calm dog .”

The answer is training, training, training. You may be lucky, and by chance, stumble upon the perfect puppy, but to get the end result, you need to put the training in.

Puppues can be hard work. Puppy blues are a real thing. I was brought to tears on more than one occasion when my dog was a pup, due to not responding to training, puppy biting, etc Also, you can’t guarantee your dog will want to cuddle up to you, ours doesn’t. He does have an affectionate side, but will never lay next to you.

intrepidpanda · 30/08/2025 20:24

You could speak directly with the charity supplying your dog with your needs and I am sure they will find the right dog for you.

intrepidpanda · 30/08/2025 20:25

Silverbirchleaf · 30/08/2025 20:03

“…my absolute wish would be to somehow find someone who can tell me how to find a therapy dog or a calm dog .”

The answer is training, training, training. You may be lucky, and by chance, stumble upon the perfect puppy, but to get the end result, you need to put the training in.

Puppues can be hard work. Puppy blues are a real thing. I was brought to tears on more than one occasion when my dog was a pup, due to not responding to training, puppy biting, etc Also, you can’t guarantee your dog will want to cuddle up to you, ours doesn’t. He does have an affectionate side, but will never lay next to you.

The charity supplying the dog ensures it is trained to standard.

ACynicalDad · 31/08/2025 16:55

Find a minature australian labradoodle!

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