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Our best boy had to be put to sleep yesterday

15 replies

Darrellstclares · 25/08/2025 07:06

I’ve woken up and it wasn’t a bad dream.

On Saturday our ailing cat, 16 years old suddenly deteriorated and had to be put to sleep.

Then suddenly Sunday morning, our gorgeous floofy 8 years old boy was absolutely not himself on his walk. Walking paces behind me. Not interested in other dogs coming up. We felt his stomach suddenly looked a bit bloated.

We called the emergency vet, took him in, he said he would run some tests. Called back an hour later - come back quickly he is deteriorating rapidly.

Turns out he had cancer of the spleen that had moved to his lungs, and he’d had a massive bleed into his abdomen. We were there in time to see him, sedated, and be with him when he was put to sleep.

We are broken. Dc3 (14) came with us to say goodbye, so brave. Dc (20) was about to start shift, and wanted to go to work. Dc (21) is abroad and not back until Wednesday so we don’t want to say anything until then. I don’t know how to tell them… they went and picked him up as a puppy.

I feel embarrassed at how distraught I am. The three of just cried and cried on and off last night. I think partly the shock: he was absolutely fine, and suddenly, he’s gone. And on the back of the cat. And DH is sooo sad - dog was a family dog but was really really DH’s dog, and the love of DH’s life.

We don’t know what to do with ourselves. Usually we would go for a walk … but there seems little point without our gorgeous boy. Who deserved more years.

OP posts:
DramaQueenlady · 25/08/2025 07:27

So sorry for your loss. Its so sad. Both your cat and dog were part of your family. You're allowed to greave. Just do what feels right for you as a family x ❤️

AnotherForumUser · 25/08/2025 07:36

I am so very sorry. They leave such deep paw prints on our hearts. Losing both your car and dog so close together is really hard on you all. Allow yourselves to mourn them. Maybe when you feel ready you could do something to mark their lives, say like planting something for each of them in a place they liked in the garden. 💐

SummerFrog25 · 25/08/2025 07:36

Oh I am so sorry. Both of them in one weekend. One is hard enough!

Don't be embarrassed, no need at all!!

you made brave & loving decisions for both of them so they didn't suffer.

Do you need to 'do' anything in particular? I'd just stay home, mooch about, do whatever I could face as the day goes on. I'd make sure the 14 yo knows it's ok to go & see friends or whatever else they might want to do,

biggest hugs 🤗💕
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FiveShelties · 25/08/2025 07:43

I am so sorry @Darrellstclares, I cannot imagine losing two pets so close together, you must all be in shock.

Look after yourself and a huge hug from me too.

Dearg · 25/08/2025 07:48

So sorry for your losses. No wonder you are in shock.

Its very hard to say goodbye to our beloved pets, they are true innocents, and give us so much love.

Do not be embarrassed at having loved them so much that you are now grieving. They are part of your family. 💐for you.

natura · 25/08/2025 08:10

Oh, OP, I'm sending you massive un-mumsnetty hugs.

What a heartbreak, and what a massive shock.

Go for your walk, just as you usually would, and take your gorgeous floofy boy with you in your hearts.

He knew how much you loved him.

MuttsNutts · 25/08/2025 11:50

I am so very sorry for you all. There’s no pain like it and you need to allow yourselves time to grieve.

💐

itbemay1 · 25/08/2025 12:14

I’m so sorry

Pashazade · 25/08/2025 12:34

So sorry, both of them in one weekend is a bit much. They will leave a hole. Don’t be embarrassed to cry, if you love them then you grieve for them. Hugs

lemondropsandchimneytops · 25/08/2025 12:49

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I know how absolutely heartbreaking this is - we lost our beloved, healthy 4 year old dog just as suddenly a few years ago. She was also floofy ❤️

Be kind to yourself. You know how much you love him and he knew as well. His memory will always be with you and in time the pain will get easier to bear.

DeirdreChambersWhatACoincidence · 25/08/2025 12:51

Don't be embarrassed! Love is love. I'm so sorry♥️

Pleasedontdothat · 25/08/2025 12:54

I’m so sorry - losing both of them in the same weekend must be so hard to bear. I had to put my gorgeous floofy 12 year old to sleep last month and I can’t begin to say how much I miss him. Don’t be embarrassed by your grief - they take a piece of your heart with you when they go.

ShuriPouri · 25/08/2025 18:38

ohh so sorry... how ghastly to lose both so soon! Sending virtual hugs

ACavalierDream · 25/08/2025 19:31

big hugs to you. I lost my 15 years old girl in May. It was the worst day of my life and I am not embarrassed to say that. The blue cross has a wonderful pet bereavement service, I found them very useful. Sadly this is the price we pay with animals. In time you will remember the love not the passing. Just be kind to yourself.

SparrowFeet · 25/08/2025 19:33

I'm so sorry for you loss. They steal our hearts and our souls.

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