Puppy recommendations for someone that DID want a dachshund please

[TheLighthouse23]

I’ve always wanted a dog, I had them as a child and as my mother was a monster they were my best friends.
We’ve got four children who also want a dog but my husband dislikes dogs and animals in general so Im looking for a dog small enough that I can carry around the house out of his way, and on the school run,, and doesn’t shed. (Well, isn’t fluffy at least) my 7 year old daughter really wanted a dachshund because we saw one at the school which was adorable and my husband agreed to that but then I searched it on here and saw they have back problems.
(although that may have been miniatures) one post said the vet bill was 12k for an op and that they are in pain.
i don’t work and don’t have any other pets, we have a detached house so our neighbours wouldn’t complain.
i DONT want a pug or anything similar to that. Or a chihuahua or a shitzu (sorry i don’t can’t spell that, but that’s how it sounds)
If it was my choice I’d get a lab or a border collie. Like I had as a child - they were so intelligent and loyal. But my children and husband have vetoed a big dog.
Are there any breeds which fit that criteria?
Thanks for reading

So negative about dachshunds, probably people who have never had one. I’ve had spaniels, Jack Russells, over the years but my dachshunds have been the best dogs. It’s how you train them.

Border terrier. I was put even more of dachshunds recently as in addition to their appalling health and breeding, at a recent large dog event the snappy, reactive ones were almost ALL dachshunds.

Obviously the snappy ones you encountered were untrained.

Yes! My dog is a staffy-labrador Cross and she's got the labrador coat - she sheds like no dog we've ever known before, even much bigger ones!

Another one here to say you shouldn't get a dog unless you are both on board. Puppies at the best if time can be relentless and almost worse than kids, you woukd be suroiaed hy the destruction a puppy can cause whilst not having control of their bladder while not wearing nappies 😬 I can only imagine the resentment it would build having to do all that work yourself when you live with another functioning adult, and equally being the other adult pestered by a puppy / dog I didn't want. And don't under stand the comment about it being small enough to carry around husband?? What will he do if you don't?

If your husband doesn’t want a dog then you shouldn’t be getting one

If I would have listened to this kind of advice, I wwould never have had any of the wonderful dogs that crossed my paths over the years.

currently cooking dinner with 3 dogs watching me

Also came on to suggest a border terrier - brilliant little family dogs who always interact nicely with my (huge) dogs.

I agree but they often heve big personalities. I’m not sure how your keep them out of the way of a DO who doesn’t like dogs?

Agree border terriers are lovely dogs. Also a shout out for Scottish terriers. They are small dogs that think they are the size of a German shepherd so you get the big dog in a small body.

They are very loyal to the person who feeds and walks them so would follow you around and usually only like 1 master. Also great with kids and only bark when there is something to bark at. Unlike other terriers they’re not yappy. Had them all my life and would never have another dog. All of mine haven’t been bad with shedding although do need regular grooming for the Scottitude.

This is a man who actually dislikes dogs though, as OP says she’d have to “carry it around the house out of his way”.

Not only is that a ridiculous idea, it would also be hugely unfair on the dog. What kind of life would it have being carried around everywhere?

Ideal Dog for OP

If your DH doesn't like dogs, then you don't get one.

Do not get a dog.

How would you feel if your husband got a tarantula or a snake etc?

A dog isn’t a toy that you can just snatch and grab it up out of the way when your husband walks in the room!

What about if you were unwell and he wants nothing to do with the dog?

I feel for you and your children if you can’t have a dog but a dog should be in a home where both the adults want the dog and are willing to dedicate themselves to caring for the dog.

What will you do if your husband after six months says he can’t stand the dog being in the house and is contemplating divorcing you? Will you pick him or the dog?

I had a friend who's husband wouldn't allow broccoli on the table unless it had a lid on so he couldn't see it.
I'm afraid I'd tell my husband to get over himself if he expects you to pick a dog up every time hes around. You're the one at home with it most of the time and will walk it etc most of the time, so as long as he isn't allergic or frightened of dogs, he could do with cutting some slack for you and the kids.
Go to a dog's home and tell him he has free reign to chose whichever dog he wants. Once he's there he might warm to the idea once he sees them fed up in a cage.
My husband didn't have pets and was a bit nervous about us having a dog. Now he wouldn't be without one. Even the massive misfit lurcher we have now, who's the most challenging dog we've ever had.

@deadpani have six dogs and would never be without a dog and my husband feels the same.

But there are some people who just don’t want to have a dog living in their home and it is his home too.

What if he really tries hard to accept the dog but eventually just can’t tolerate it?

@deadpan if someone doesn't like dogs they shouldn't be made to live with one - it's not fair on the innocent dog, for starters.

I'm not allergic to birds but I sure as hell wouldn't want to share my home with one, and if my DH insisted on bringing one home anyway, I would be seriously considering ending my marriage.

@tumblingdowntherabbithole @SaintGermain I put a caveat in my post about her husband being fearful or allergic

I know, and I disagree with those being the only "good" reasons not to get an animal. I'm not scared of birds or allergic to them, but there's absolutely no way I would have one in my house.

Op my dh has no interest in dogs, I didn’t know this when we got our dog, and then afterwards he told me he thinks he just liked the idea. I did all the everything- last thing at night when people were in watching movies I was standing out with the dog, first thing in the morning put so he can go to the toilet. I do most walks. When we’re out for the day I’m the baddie that says ‘we can’t stay, we have to get back to the dog, or argue him staying in the kennels because the husband doesn’t want to pay for another night and thinks we can leave him an extra hour or so.

I’ve come to the conclusion that the only people who should own dogs are houses full of dog mad people. I love my little dude but he’s also my biggest regret

@tumblingdowntherabbithole Just because i mentioned two reasons doesn't mean I don't realise there are more 🤔

I cannot imagine how hard it is to have a dog and four children if your partner wants nothing to do with the dog and actively dislikes it.

What will you do with the dog when
You're ill
Your children are ill and you're run ragged.
You're having your - hairdone, smear test, mammogram, dental appointment
At childrens' bathtime and bedtime.
It's your friend's hen night.
When your car needs an MOT.
The dog is ill and needs the vet but your kids need picking up from school.
The dog chews your husband's best shoes.
Husband wants a day out at a place the dog can't go. Who will have the dog? Or will the husband go alone?
Dog has upset tummy on best rug. Just before MIL arrives?
You have a houseful at Christmas. Who'll walk the dog?

Training a dog is all about consistency. Will husband be part of this? If not he'll have no control over the pup.

All these things only work if both people are 100% into having a dog.

It's 24 hour a day, 365 days a year in your house, your responsibility. On top of everything else and it's all on you OP. Are you really ready for this.

Kokono rescue?

You want a Havanese OP. Fluffy but they don't shed. Very loyal, it will be your shadow, great with kids and no bother at all. The easiest small dog breed I can think of which also looks cute and is clean. Ideal pet for your requirements and easy to live with. I can't see why your DH wouldn't be won over by a dog like this.

Whatever dog you get, you just have to accept vet bills are generally high. And any serious intervention can start from £4000, not unusual to be charged £10000 and in some cases you can even have a bill of £24000. It is not routine but you simply have to accept this fact and make sure you get proper dog insurance or, alternatively, have a dog savings account with, say, £10000 or £15000 just in case for unexpected surgery or treatment.
Routine stuff is really not that bad by comparison, but you'd probably easily spend on average £150-£200/month on the dog for basics (food, groomer, insurance, flea treatments, annual checkup and vaccination, the odd small illness like a bad tummy). Obviously you can spend a lot less, but it's good to have some idea on standard costs. Dog care can also be £25/day if you ever need it.

Thank you so much for all the replies! I now have a list of potentials to look up.
I do understand people saying that if my husband doesn’t want a dog we shouldn’t get one, but he did agree to a sausage dog, so I’m sure he would agree to something else of a similar size. He works a LOT and he’s rarely home and when he is he is in the home office with headphones on. Then he will eat dinner and go to bed to get up and do it all over again the next day. His job means a lot to him and he’s worked for years to build his team and reputation (hes a chartered structural engineer)
He doesn’t hate them he just isn’t an animal person as he’s never been around them before so unlike me he doesn’t have nice memories of how loyal and loving they can be. I do think he would change his mind. He’s had bad experiences with types of pit bulll XXL or whatever they are called where they just have these jaws like a lion dripping with drool. It seems like every year we see a horror story of a breed like that (sorry I’m not sure of the exact name) where a child has been mauled by one
.Also he knows with his career he won’t be around much to spend time with us as a family.

I don’t really mind what the dog looks like (apart from the breeds i mentioned in my OP - pugs and chihuahuas just don’t appeal to me) but I love the look of most other dogs I come across when we are out. He would definitely be ok with the dog being with us in the same room when we are all together because he knows how much the children want one. I want them to grow up knowing how much dogs can add to your life. I would never shut it away. That’s just cruel. They get so lonely.

I would do all of the training and walking etc, we live in a lovely area where most people seem to have at least one dog and there are plenty of dog walking trails that I can almost see out my windows.
Neither of us have family on either side, so I think I’ve talked him around to the benefits a dog would have to the children as they don’t have grandparents etc like most other
children seem to have. They are just starting to realise that.
So, a dog thad is the size I can carry around the school one way system to collect two of my children. And if my husband was on a zoom call with work I would need to be able to take the dog out the way of that area of the house with me if it was barking - just as I do with the children.
Thanks again for all the suggestions.. can someone tell me what the kennnel club is? Kennels? would get a dog sitter if we went away - but that hasn’t happened for years. We go on short breaks in England, and I’d find a pet friendly one.

ps. My husband snores very loudly and I have chronic insomnia so we have seperate bedrooms, I know that is weird. The dog would sleep with me.

How lovely! That’s really what I’m hoping will happen

Sorry I’m new to this - can you elaborate on what you mean by “more dog” ?
and what is the definition of a companion or fashionable breed?
thank you so much for your thoughts, and education