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I need to take my dog to the emergency vet but I’m having a panic attack

16 replies

WhiteMilk · 22/06/2025 02:04

My dog ate a lot of sand and now has vomited had bloody diarrhoea. My logical brain tells me I need to take him to the vet.

But I’m right on the verge of having a panic attack and can’t put one foot in front of the other.

Writing here to try and calm down and be purposeful.

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SapporoBaby · 22/06/2025 02:20

A panic attack won’t help your dog. I understand you’re scared. It’s scary. Acknowledge that and accept your fear.

Then recognise your dog is much more likely to be ok if you take them to the vet. Also it’s just sand. It’s not poison. Dogs survive far worse.

amber763 · 22/06/2025 02:22

As above. Deep breaths in and out and focus. Get him in the car and to the vet. If you do that there's more chance hell be absolutely fine. Do it now.

LaundryandDirt · 22/06/2025 02:24

Lie beside him, pet him, breathe. When you’re more calm and able get up and focus on him.

Hope he and you will be okay.

Cassieskinsismad · 22/06/2025 02:31

You can't put one foot in front of the other. Ok. What can you move? Because you're not actually paralysed, anxiety doesn't cause that. Get your body moving bit by bit, until you can put one foot in front of the other.

Break the task into small steps. Collar and lead on dog. Grab phone, keys and money. Get outside, lock your door. Dog in car, you in car, drive to vet. If you've forgotten the route, pull up Google maps.

Ignore the dog while you're driving, whatever is happening there's nothing you can do about it, dog needs a vet. So focus on driving well, because if you get pulled over by police for driving like a dick then it'll be longer until your dog sees a vet.

Hopefully your dog will be fine. Fingers crossed 🤞 for you both.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 22/06/2025 02:37

I'm a vet and I think he'll very likely be fine. By bloody diarrhoea, do you mean runny faeces with red or sticky black streaked throughout, or just a bit of blood in parts of it? Is he lethargic or his normal self?

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 22/06/2025 02:37

How old is he?

WhiteMilk · 22/06/2025 04:27

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 22/06/2025 02:37

I'm a vet and I think he'll very likely be fine. By bloody diarrhoea, do you mean runny faeces with red or sticky black streaked throughout, or just a bit of blood in parts of it? Is he lethargic or his normal self?

This is unbelievably helpful because I can’t get an appointment, they’re saying wait to see day vet.

He’s not lethargic but looks like he feels very sorry for himself. He’s slept lying next to me but got up unsettled a few times.

He’s drinking. He only had the diarrhoea once, it was only liquid, not really like poo really, a very small amount of clearish, red tinged liquid. Sick four times total.

I honestly feel like I’m stuck in fight or flight. My heart’s beating so fast and I’m covered in sweat.

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Notquitegrownup2 · 22/06/2025 05:00

Oh bless you Op. Panic attacks just suck.

The vets advice above is reassuring, and your description of your dog's symptoms don't sound life threatening, so just concentrate on you know.

Can you go and sit in the garden for 5 minutes? Or sit in a big room? Do a grounding exercise. Look around your for 5 things that are green, 4 things that are yellow, 3 red, 2 blue, 1 white. You can switch the colours round to suit you, as long as you find 5 of one colour, 4 of another . . . It's a trick to occupy your brain and take you out of fight n flight.

Then breathe slowly, making sure you are breathing out as well as in . . .

Notquitegrownup2 · 22/06/2025 05:21

How are you doing, OP??

WhiteMilk · 22/06/2025 05:30

Thanks to the advice from everyone. It’s helpful.

I’m waiting out time.

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Notquitegrownup2 · 22/06/2025 05:42

That's good to hear. How's ddog doing? Hopefully you are getting lots of cuddles . .

WhiteMilk · 22/06/2025 06:21

I tried to take him for a walk but he couldn’t manage it, was plodding along very slowly next to me. I feel slightly better for having been outside in the daylight.

Only a few more hours to wait.

I’m also worrying hugely about what today means in terms of money. He’s maxed out his insurance already for the year after needing ortho surgery and I had to use my savings for half of that so now don’t have those to fall back on. If he needs expensive treatment and I don’t have the money for it, what then?

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BruceLeTerror · 22/06/2025 06:50

Ahhhh I took my boy last night for sickness and bloody diarrhoea… I thought he had heat stroke, as he’d been panting all Friday night and a lot of yesterday (that stopped after the poop explosion)
Maybe it’s the heat, maybe there’s a bug?
I think my emergency vet got fed up of me phoning them (3x in 24 hours) that they just finally said bring him in, they gave him anti sickness drug, some ProKolin and dog paracetamol (which I also know rationally is the thing to do! I already had a tube of pro kolin ffs!)

it sounds like you’re on your own too? It’s horrid when they’re poorly, and you feel responsible for them (I know rationally that sickness and diarrhoea is normal, but then I get intrusive thoughts about what could happen)

I’m sure your pupper will be fine, it has been soooo ridiculously hot, and none of us are used to it, just get him to the vet when you can, just to put your mind at rest xx

PersephoneParlormaid · 22/06/2025 06:52

WhiteMilk · 22/06/2025 06:21

I tried to take him for a walk but he couldn’t manage it, was plodding along very slowly next to me. I feel slightly better for having been outside in the daylight.

Only a few more hours to wait.

I’m also worrying hugely about what today means in terms of money. He’s maxed out his insurance already for the year after needing ortho surgery and I had to use my savings for half of that so now don’t have those to fall back on. If he needs expensive treatment and I don’t have the money for it, what then?

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The vet will work out a payment plan, they won’t not treat a sick animal

PlasticAcrobat · 22/06/2025 07:13

Just to try and offer you a little more reassurance, OP, when I was a child we had a terrier who would dig obsessively at the beach, including using his mouth to tear at the sand. He often vomited large quantities of sand in the car on the way home, but recovered fine.

Obvs I can't just say that your dog's experience is the same, and clearly you are right to be taking him to the vet. But my best guess is that there is an extremely good chance that the vet will say there are no major problems. I agree with a previous poster that the awful heat may be a contributing factor in how sorry for himself he looks.

As for the money. One step at a time. There will be a way through it xxx

Cassieskinsismad · 22/06/2025 13:02

PersephoneParlormaid · 22/06/2025 06:52

The vet will work out a payment plan, they won’t not treat a sick animal

They won't necessarily allow a payment plan. It's not guaranteed, they've no obligation to provide credit, which is what a payment plan is. They can and sometimes do refuse to treat sick animals where the owners can't pay. People shouldn't rely on payment plans being available.

OP, if you've spent half your savings then you still have half left. So that's your budget for treatment, if there's no payment plan available. You tell the vet there's no insurance and have a conversation about what treatments options there are, upto and including PTS.

With insurance there's a clock ticking because they want things sorted out or not so they can exclude ongoing conditions upon renewal, so vets end up throwing all treatments and tests at the situation quite quickly. They also tend to go straight to the "gold standard" treatment because they know they can get the money from the insurance company and it won't affect you.

There's usually another more conservative path to take, involving a fair amount of trying this-and-that and "wait and see", because there's no time limit if you're paying. And the "gold standard" treatment might be quicker or better but often a conservative approach, whilst taking longer to resolve the issue, can achieve the same or a similar end result in the long term.

Ultimately thought, if the choice is expensive treatment you can't afford, the animal continuing to suffer without treatment or having to PTS, then you PTS to solve the welfare issue of the suffering. It's part of pet ownership that has to be faced.

Unless you're rich or willing and able to take on a bank loan or credit card to pay for treatments (personally I don't recommend this option, for your own welfare), then you won't always be able to afford to try everything before having a pet PTS. That's just the way life is. Although terribly sad, it's not wrong to PTS for financial reasons. It's better than the selfish alternative of keeping a suffering animal alive longer than it ought to be just because the owner isn't willing to let them go and face their sadness over it.

Your welfare matters too and it isn't sensible to run up tens of thousands of debt for any reason, but especially when the end result may be a pet that's no longer alive and you still have all the debt. That's why a conversation about treatments and their effectiveness and likelihood of success in your pet's particular case is important before agreeing to pay for anything. You have a lot more control over the situation than when using insurance. You don't need their approval to try experimental treatments, for example, because it's not them paying. So have an honest conversation with your vet and agree with them how to go forward.

You might want to look into whether psyllium husks (think that's the thing, you best double check) is any good for dogs. It's what's given to horses grazing sandy soil and at risk of blockages due to accumulated sand. Binds to the sand and helps clear it out of the digestive tract.

It's good news that the vets didn't think it an emergency and told you to wait for regular hours.

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